Sort of a follow up to my last post with sitter questions...
Last night DH and I went to a concert and hired a sitter for the first time. In the past we've only ever left them with family. To start our evening, we drove 1.5 hours in traffic to the venue only to find out that the band wasn't there and would be starting at least 1.5 hours late. The 1st band on wasn't even the band I wanted to see which means by the time we got to see who we wanted to, the sitter would have already been 5 hours in. So we decided to call it a loss and left.....our big night out!!
I had previously arranged for my mil to stop at our house to help the sitter during bedtime as I was very apprehensive to have essentially a stranger handle all that herself. When we got home I asked how everything was and she told me that my one guy didn't eat much dinner, which is sometimes normal but that everything else was ok. Then I saw his bottle that wasn't even touched and I started to feel a little uneasy. That means he hadnt eaten anything since 3pm. But she told me everything went ok. When I went in to check on them, the one who didn't eat just did not look himself to me, his hair was wet from sweat and he just looked wiped (he was sleeping) so I knew something was off. So she left and I called my mil to find out that the sitter told her he cried the entire time we were gone, continued to cry why my mil was there and just cried himself to sleep. Broke. My. Heart.
The whole evening left me feeling really discouraged. I know this is the age where separation anxiety starts but I can't imagine it normal for a baby to cry for 3 hours and not eating!! I talked to my friend about it and she kinda brushed it off as no big deal but being that he's my finicky eater/small one to begin with I was very upset by it. It just left me feeling like DH and I can't ever do anything unless family stays. Does it get better?!?! Not to mention the financial loss left me feeling upset. We wasted all the money in the tickets (which I can't get a refund on) and paid the sitter almost $100 for us to basically drive around and my child cry himself to sleep. Btw, I'm in no way blaming her for this, I know she did what she could, I'm just feeling seriously discouraged today. We barely ever get out and the one night we do its a complete flop. Sigh. Thanks for listening and if anyone has any encouragement on the separation anxiety I'm all ears!!! And I'm also curious to know if you would confront the sitter and tell her going forward she needs to be more open about what goes on. TIA.