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I've always had male OBs. I now have female midwives.
My male OB in my last state was wonderful! He saw me through a couple of miscarriages. He even hugged myself and my partner after a "big" one. He even got teary eyed. He was never anything but kind and compassionate. When they do a pap, you're draped everywhere and they insert the speculum and all he sees is INSIDE your "bidness" ;)
I've always been offered a female nurse or assistant to be in the room as well. I've always said it doesn't matter but every time there has been a female with him (in two different practices). My RE was a male as well.
I'm loving my midwives, as well. If I was going to go for a hospital birth I'd go right back to my most recent male OB. He was very kind and caring.
I go to a practice that has a total of 9 GP that run a prenatal/labor & delivery clinic. They have 3 male GP on staff. Personally I prefer a male I find them a bit more sympathetic and understanding also, and this will sound weird, I find them to be more gentle when doing internal exams and what not. Personally to me it doesn't matter as long as baby and I are ok. But I do prefer male doctors.
As far as only going at 8 weeks, I think this is pretty normal, it was for me, and I had a previous loss at 4weeks. I think they do this because earlier then that they can't see a whole lot so all they can do is bloodwork. I know how Pgal brain is when its at its worse, try to stay positive. With my first appointment I told the GP that I was really nervous due to my previous loss and he brought in the U/S machine and did one right on the spot to help "ease my fears". I would ask, worse they can say is no right? Good luck!
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Thanks, everyone! I guess I worded it a little strangely, since I wouldn't consider cancelling the appointment just because he's a male. More so to ease my anxiety and fears and get in earlier. But, it sounds like this is a normal timeline and male docs can be just as sympathetic/kind as females. FX that I make it to 8wks so I can find out how we mesh!
FWIW, I had a massage a few months ago with a man, and it was awkward for me..... maybe it would have turned out differently had he been hot. ;-)
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I've only had male OBs - and they've both been hot and young, too [not intentional]. :P It was a little weird at first, because it's easy to get flustered when your OB is hot - but that quickly wore off. Every time I've had a pap smear or an internal check, a nurse has been in the room too, so it's never awkward. Both of my OBs have been great, and I always recommend them to other people as well.
My current OB was there through my last loss, and he cried with me after my loss. He's been amazing, and I wouldn't change.
sjelwood:Thanks, everyone! I guess I worded it a little strangely, since I wouldn't consider cancelling the appointment just because he's a male. More so to ease my anxiety and fears and get in earlier. But, it sounds like this is a normal timeline and male docs can be just as sympathetic/kind as females. FX that I make it to 8wks so I can find out how we mesh!FWIW, I had a massage a few months ago with a man, and it was awkward for me..... maybe it would have turned out differently had he been hot. ;-)
Oh, hot helps. I did a few prenatal with Corbin and my masseuse was a gorgeous man with the most calming soothing voice. I wish the place didn't close down. He was awesome.
I've always had women until I got pregnant. The practice that I am at has several doctors (male and female) and they rotate them with each of your appointments. That way, no matter when you go into labor and no matter what is going on with one of the doctors, you've seen the doctor who delivers you. I'm sure I could request one specific one if I wanted to, but it is kind of interesting to see all of the different doctors. They share information very well and they've all known my medical history well before I see them.
I was really uncomfortable at first but then again, I am not the first or last hoo-hah they will see. As long as they are relatively gentle and listen to my concerns, I'm good. I had to get over it really quick with my miscarriage. You take whichever doctors you can get!
Bookshelves: sjelwood:Thanks, everyone! nbsp;I guess I worded it a little strangely, since I wouldn't consider cancelling the appointment just because he's a male. nbsp;More so to ease my anxiety and fears and get in earlier. nbsp;But, it sounds like this is a normal timeline and male docs can be just as sympathetic/kind as females. FX that I make it to 8wks so I can find out how we mesh!
My OB was the same when I'd had one loss. We'll hold your hand while you wait!
sjelwood:Thanks, everyone! nbsp;I guess I worded it a little strangely, since I wouldn't consider cancelling the appointment just because he's a male. nbsp;More so to ease my anxiety and fears and get in earlier. nbsp;But, it sounds like this is a normal timeline and male docs can be just as sympathetic/kind as females. FX that I make it to 8wks so I can find out how we mesh!
Aww, thanks Books! ::clings tightly to Pgal::
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I have a male OB. With my last pregnancy, I was with a female OB. I don't think the doctor's gender had much to do with anything. I switched practices because my female OB's bedside manner left something to be desired and two of my good friends used my current OB, so he came highly recommended.
As far as having to wait til 8 weeks, it sucks and it's terrifying, but it's also pretty standard. I had a MMC before this pregnancy. Since it was just the one loss, I've still been treated as low-risk. I will say though, when I had a spotting episode at 6 weeks, they had me come in and I really appreciated their willingness to do that. Maybe ask your new practice how they handle situations like that.
lindsayanne79: I guess for me, I've been poked and prodded so much in the last year with the miscarriages and my D&C that it doesn't matter to me anymore if the person is male or female. As far as the u/s...it's not uncommon to not have an u/s at a first appointment..I think it really depends on your situation and the policies and procedures of your OB practice. What you're describing sounds completely normal if you've had 1 loss but if you would like a greater level of care or would prefer seeing a woman OB, there isn't anything wrong with considering another practice.
I have a male OB--he delivered DD1 and I'm using him this time as well.
He's amazing. When I was searching for a new OB after my losses (since my last OB was horrible) he was recommended to me. And then I talked to his nurse who used to be his patient. She had multiple m/cs and TTTC. He helped her give birth to 4 beautiful children. I love that he has been practicing the longest in our area out of all the OBs and he is also heavy into research. He doesn't do anything just bc he can.
With DD, he wasn't "up in my bidnizz" until 36w when I got the GBS swab. Then he did a cervical check at 38 and 39w. It was a little awkward at first (for me--he was completely professional. And quick and painless) but it was fine. And while in labor I didn't care at all and he was great.
I have a male OB and I love him! He is really amazing but I hate his receptionists sometimes lol.
His partner delivered my son, but he did all the followups. I wouldn't trade him for anything. He will be delivering this baby (God willing)
ETA: As standard procedure for the comfort of his patients, before my OB does anything regarding a woman's business he has a female nurse come in the room.
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I had a female OB when I miscarried and she was worthless. I switched to a male OB soon after and he is awesome! I was very apprehensive about a male OB, but he turned out to be really caring and I would highly recommend him. Many of the exams were done by the RNs who work for him, so I did not always see him. When you are in labor, you really won't care.
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