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  • image Hav=Fath:
    I do all the time, I push kids on the swing when their parents aren't around, I'll help them onto a slide if they ask. Honestly around here, that's just the normal thing to do, you'd be an sass-jerk if you saw a kid that needed/wanted help and didn't help.

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  • image Hav=Fath:
    I do all the time, I push kids on the swing when their parents aren't around, I'll help them onto a slide if they ask. Honestly around here, that's just the normal thing to do, you'd be an sassjerk if you saw a kid that needed/wanted help and didn't help.

    I agree, help is one thing, but I just wouldn't take it upon myself to pick a kid up and put them on a piece of equipment without the parents permission.
  • Perhaps. I'm in NY if that helps lol. I'm not one of those super paranoid, hovering moms either, but in the time I have been bringing lo to the park, no one has ever done this nor have I seen it done by any other parents. When dd's friend was on the swing, her gma asked me if she could put my dd on the swing. If Dh was there, he would have had a panick attack, but his parents were that way with him too lol.
  • image Hav=Fath:
    I do all the time, I push kids on the swing when their parents aren't around, I'll help them onto a slide if they ask. Honestly around here, that's just the normal thing to do, you'd be an asssjerk if you saw a kid that needed/wanted help and didn't help.

    This. I live on small town USA in the Midwest so I think it is pretty normal around here.
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  • If he was assisting her at a play place/structure then I don't see anything wrong with it. I was at a play place once with DD and there was a dad in the play structure helping his kid through it and he helped DD by lifting her up to the next level. You could tell he was a little hesitant at first, but I had no problem with it and thanked him for helping her when they got out.
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  • If I was busy with my other child or something and it wasn't that they were being put on play equipment that was too "old" for them, I would not have an issue.  And I live in NY :)  I have definitely helped kids before...well, except for the kids that look too little with the mom not paying attention on her phone.  I just want that kid to keep bothering her for help.  Ha.
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  • id012id012
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    I help out if i see the need. If she was struggling to get up the stairs to the slide id probably watch to make sure she didnt fall. I dont know if i would pick her up off the ground to put her on.
    A couple weeks ago we were all at the park and one of my friends kids was trying to climb one of those ladder things that are cruved. He was way to small to be attempting that and the part you put ur feet on are really far apart. I was chatting with said friend so we werent paying good attention until we saw him almost fall and ran over quickly.
    Some bitchy mom was right there ans watched the whole thing and didnt even flinch. And the laughed when my friend caught him falling off a 5 foot high ladder.
    I was pissed. Like seriously wtf. Of course friend should have been paying more attention but she wasnt. You just going to watch and let a kid fall bc his mom sucked for 2 mins? I thought that was really shittty
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    As a rule probably not, but Massachusetts isn't the friendliest state!

    BUT we were at the park the other day and my DD2 took it upon herself to climb really high up this ladder thingy and then get stuck and yell for me to get her down. This dad who was playing with his DD nearby had literally just heard me tell her I couldn't pick her up to put in a bucket swing (bc I have cracked ribs and am 9 mo pregnant!) automatically reached over and grabbed her down for me and I thought nothing of it other than being very appreciative. So maybe it is situational for me? 

     

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  • image Court0026:
    If I was busy with my other child or something and it wasn't that they were being put on play equipment that was too "old" for them, I would not have an issue.  And I live in NY :)  I have definitely helped kids before...well, except for the kids that look too little with the mom not paying attention on her phone.  I just want that kid to keep bothering her for help.  Ha.

    I live in a small area but I don't always. I'm not necessarily worried about getting sued but most of the time it's little kids seeing me play with N while their parents ignore them. N is still little enough she needs help climbing and I need to see her. If the parent is busy with another kid and particularly if I know them I'll jump in and help for sure. I'm just not playing babysitter to someone's kid because they're not involved. I've also run into some older kids who I (for the most part) know or know their parents and the beg to push N on the swings or catch her at the bottom of the slide and I let them.


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  • Yes, people do it all the time around here. One of the things about living in Mayberry. I wouldn't automatically expect even man to be a child molesting pervert either, so maybe there's that as well.

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  • I have and would. I live in suburban Metro Detroit.
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    I can see you being a little bit taken aback but absolutely NOT especially since it was a guy.
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  • image Dochas:
    I can see you being a little bit taken aback but absolutely NOT especially since it was a guy.

    Seriously -- DH has both boys on his own at the park all.the.time.  

    Trust me, paranoid mother's of the world, he is safe. 

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  • I wouldn't physically pick up a kid, but I'll push them on the swing if they ask or hand them a toy or whatever. If they ask me to pick them up, I'll ask where their parent or babysitter is and have them get permission.

    ETA: But also right now, I feel pregnant enough that I can barely pick up my own DD so the other day when a 4 year old asked me to put him in a swing I just shook my head and said nope, sorry.

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    As a rule probably not, but Massachusetts isn't the friendliest state!

    BUT we were at the park the other day and my DD2 took it upon herself to climb really high up this ladder thingy and then get stuck and yell for me to get her down. This dad who was playing with his DD nearby had literally just heard me tell her I couldn't pick her up to put in a bucket swing (bc I have cracked ribs and am 9 mo pregnant!) automatically reached over and grabbed her down for me and I thought nothing of it other than being very appreciative. So maybe it is situational for me? 

    I am also from MA.  I help kids at the playground.  I have seen other Moms help children that are not their own. 

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  • I would have handled it by saying, "thank you". That's about it. I don't have issues with other people, especially other parents, "handling" my child though.
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  • Yes, I would.  Probably not if the kid didn't seem like they were wanting on the slide or asked though...  But, yes, I have helped other people's kids on and off playground equipment.  I've also broken up fights and told other people's kids not to throw the ball at the babies in the sandbox, etc.  The playground is basically "all hands on deck" around here.  And I think kids sense I'm a school teacher because they literally seek me out at the park to ask for stuff.  I'm like, "Where is your mother?" :)  We live in the suburbs too though in a state where people are generally friendly and view parenting from a "it takes a village" perspective.  I wouldn't think twice of it if another parent helped my kid up on the slide, or if they told my kid to quit doing something he shouldn't be doing.

     

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  • I wouldn't think anything of it.  I've done similar.  

    At first I thought maybe your baby was toddeling around and someone just picked him up for a snuggle or something.  That would be weird.  But assisting on play equipment?  Totally normal.  I love it when I feel like all the parents are (to some extent) keeping an eye on all the kids.  Not that I expect other people to watch my kids for me, but you know, they just move so fast and it's reassuring when I feel like there are many eyes looking out for signs of danger.  Especially now that I have 2 kids and my focus is divided. 

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  • I don't think it is a big deal. I will help a small child anywhere. I don't care if someone helps DS. I think you are being overly paranoid. 
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  • I'm hesitant to touch other people's kids because you never know how they're going to take it. I don't have a  problem with a normal-looking adult helping mine, though.

  • I would ask the parent first, but I have and have had strangers help with my kids too.  When you've got 2 young kids at the park, sometimes help can be nice.  Usually it is a friend, but I'm ok with strangers helping too. 

    I'm talking helping ds onto/off of the swings or even offering to push one of my kids on the swing while I go help the other one, or something like holding dd's hands to get her started down the slide (she'll often climb up, sit down, and wait for a hand to start going even though she's fine going on her own).  Or lifting them onto/off of those rocking things.  

    But yeah, I'd always look for the parent and say, do you want me to help them? first.

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  • It depends what they're doing.  I'm totally of the philosophy that at the playground if the kids can't do it by themselves, they shouldn't be doing it.  My kids are know this is the rule, so I'm not thrilled when some other adults helps them do something not age appropriate.  So I generally won't help other kids unless it's a safety issue or I've seen the grown up their with help them do the same thing.
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  • If a kid asks for help to get into the equipment (and it is age apropiate) I do it; a few times other people have helped DS and I've never thought twice about it
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  • Sure I'm aways willing to help a kid if they need/want it. 
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  • image Mrs.Hizzo:
    I'm hesitant to touch other people's kids because you never know how they're going to take it. I don't have a  problem with a normal-looking adult helping mine, though.

    This. The other moms at the park we frequent don't even look at me let alone smile or say hi, so I'm hesitant to touch their kids. I need to find a nicer park.

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    I will help a kid on/off the playground equipment if they're yelling for mom or dad to help and nobody is stepping up. I think I would be immediately appreciative if someone did the same for one of mine if I was busy making sure the other made it up the rock wall without breaking his neck.
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    image Hav=Fath:
    I do all the time, I push kids on the swing when their parents aren't around, I'll help them onto a slide if they ask. Honestly around here, that's just the normal thing to do, you'd be an sassjerk if you saw a kid that needed/wanted help and didn't help.
    I agree, help is one thing, but I just wouldn't take it upon myself to pick a kid up and put them on a piece of equipment without the parents permission.

    If a kid needs a hand or help getting up somewhere and the parent isn't around, I would lift them up. Unless they looked too little to go up or down something. I dunno, I wouldn't panic about it, at any rate. 

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  • image Dochas:
    I can see you being a little bit taken aback but absolutely NOT especially since it was a guy.

    I really hope most people agree with this. 


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  • It was at a party?! Because I don't find that odd at all. If I was at a park randomly yeah I would find it odd.

    If you are that paranoid you should be with your child.
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