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Newborn will not sleep in crib!!!

My newborn is 16 days old and is being exclusively breastfed.  Of course, she loves being held and we do so often. However, she refuses to sleep in her crib.  We've tried two different ones:  a rocking cradle and a plain basinett.  We've tried putting her in awake and putting her in asleep.  We've tried swaddling and not swaddling.  As soon as her body hits the mattress her arms and legs fly out and she's wide awake. Within five minutes she's crying and will continue to cry until you pick her up.  Not sure what else to do here...  she needs to learn to sleep in her own crib.  I've hesitantly introduced a pacifier today, planning on using it only when laying her down for a nap...  I'm just fearful it will sabotage our breastfeeding success so far.   Any other advice from moms in similar circumstances?

Shannon

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  • Our pnp had a basinet that came with it and it was a LIFESAVER.  DD didn't want anything to do with her crib or the actual pnp until she was a bit bigger 5-6 weeks. 
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  • Are you swaddling her all the way (just wondering because you said her arms are flying)? If not, i would definitely do that. As far as the pacifier goes, I really wouldn't worry about sabotaging BFing. This DS has had a paci from day 1 with no issues. You could try something more upright like a rock and play. A lot of people use one, though I don't have any personal experience.
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    This is very common. DS hated the bassinet and wouldn't sleep in it, even swaddled. Babies hate being flat on their back. It wasn't ideal, but we swaddled DS and let him sleep on his Boppy Newborn Lounger inside of his crib. He was a little elevated and on a very cozy pillow so he sleep great. He outgrew it pretty quickly but we used that as long as possible.

    I'd experiment with different things to see what works.

     

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  • My son will be 6 weeks on Thursday and one week ago tomorrow is the first Yong he slept in his crib. He slept on his swing or bouncer or car seat before that. He still prefers his swing over anything else. Try putting a towel under the mattress to lift the crib on one side. If she has reflux and gas life my son, it isn't comfy for them flat on their back.
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  • DS hated being flat on his back for the first month. I didn't get much sleep in the first few weeks because I had DS on my chest most of the time! He slept really well in his swing because it isn't completely flat and he absolutely had to be fully and tightly swaddled. The SwaddleMe blankets were an absolute lifesaver. By 6 weeks DS was sleeping in his PnP every night and was fully transitioned to his crib at 11 weeks. It takes time but they will learn to sleep on their own but at 16 days she is used to being in a warm, dark, cozy place! 


  • I used the pacifier right away and it did not interfere with bfing.

    Good luck!
  • My DD is 5 weeks and I have the same issue. But she will sleep in her rock n play. Also I EBF I gave my LO a pacifier because she constantly uses me as her pacifier. She will occasionally take it when she's super fussy. It has not affected her breast feeding in any way. It just gives me a little relieve LOL. I also use it in the car. My LO screams bloody murder in her car seat. The pacifier helps calm her.
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    I used the pacifier right away and it did not interfere with bfing.

    Good luck!


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  • my DD is 13 days old, and has the same issue, I also EBF. Pacifier definitely helps if their still a little awake, we introduced it when she was 4 days, and has no issue with feeding. 

    My baby is also very needy, and in order for her to sleep in her crib, she needs to be totally asleep. For us, it can take up to 30 minutes until she's passed out. This means breastfeeding her, and then rocking her and holding her for another 30 minutes. It seems to do the trick...but yea, it's very time consuming.

    when all else fails, we stick her in her swing with her paci, and after 10 minutes shes totally asleep.  

    Edit: Dr. also suggested using a wedge to elevate her head. you could try that.  

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  • We used a RnP for the first few months with our son. It helped him a lot after a feeding and he seemed to prefer being slightly elevated.  If he fussed a little during the night, I could reach over and rock him back to sleep.

     

  • Don't stress about it.  Most newborns aren't a fan of the crib because its so much open space and they are used to being snuggled up in the womb.  For now just find what works for you--a rock n play, bassinet by your bed, etc and keep in mind that you have plenty of time to transition to the crib.
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  • It'll be ok.  DS HATED the crib and the rock and play and the pack and play and the bassinet in the pack and play and ANYTHING but my chest.  Also EBF.  If he did lay down, it was only on his stomach. We started using a pacifier around 3 weeks, but only for car rides and supermarkets and such.  Around 8 weeks we integrated it at night.  He began sleeping in his crib a bit around 4 weeks and now he does fairly well with it 4-6 hour stretches in it.  Good luck.  For now, let lo sleep where ever they will sleep  :)
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  • My older son was like this. When he was a newborn, he hated sleeping on flat surfaces. He spent the first couple of months of his life sleeping in the swing, bouncer, and infant car seat. Around five weeks old, we were able to transition him to the crib for night time sleeps. It took a while longer for him to tolerate it for naps. However, he did finally come around after a few months and started sleeping in the crib exclusively. When babies are this young, it's unlikely that you will create any lasting bad habits. If you do establish a habit, it's not hard to break a few months down the line. Babies are very adaptable. So try not to worry about that. Do what works for now. You can tweak things once she's bigger.

    We also swaddled DS (tightly, using the HBOTB method) when he was in the crib and that helped as well.

    Btw, I was also nervous about introducing the paci. He fought it a lot but the times he did accept it, it was a lifesaver. It helped him soothe himself and it put him to sleep. He never loved it, never got attached to it, and never confused it with BFing or bottle-feeding so it was never a problem for us. Now, his thumb on the other hand....he found that on his own and it has been wonderful for allowing him to self-soothe. But that is the one bad habit he picked up on his own that we will eventually have to break. :) It never affected his BFing or bottle-feeding, though.

    eta: Regardless of what you do use to contain her while she sleeps, be sure you alternate the position of her head to avoid flat spots and make sure she can breathe easily at the angle at which she's lying.

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  • My little girl hated her pack n play but after two sleepless nights we got a rock n play and she has loved sleeping in that. I think that open spaces are tough for them when they are really little, but the rock n play is cozy enough for them to enjoy sleeping in. Target has them on sale quite a bit.
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    My little girl hated her pack n play but after two sleepless nights we got a rock n play and she has loved sleeping in that. I think that open spaces are tough for them when they are really little, but the rock n play is cozy enough for them to enjoy sleeping in. Target has them on sale quite a bit.

     

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  • Like so many others have said...the Rock n Play was the only thing DD would sleep in at night. She hated being flat on her back and would wake up the second you laid her down. She also has had acid reflux from day one so I think that contributed to it. The Rock n Play sort of reminds me of a hammock, the way the sides come up, it sort of cradles the baby, and I think this made DD feel more secure.

    At about 9 weeks we transitioned DD into her crib in her own room, sleeps flat on her back and she has done great so I'm sure your baby will outgrow this phase as well :
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  • I appreciated all of the helpful advice here.  My MIL felt that allowing her to sleep in her bouncer was harmful to her back. I'm glad to know that I don't have to feel guilty allowing the baby to do so, especially after I've given the basinett a go for two hours and have missed out on sleep!!!! 

    A few of you actually seemed concerned about the term "crib." I've tried two different ones with her... an old fashioned rocking cradle and a pack n play that has a basinett on top. I'm not talking about her being in her own room in a huge crib yet.

    I tried the white noise machine last night, set it to "womb" to see if that helped, but she still screamed and two hours later fell asleep in her bouncer within 5 minutes.

    She has been getting better about sleeping in the portable pack n play basinett during the daytime, but still wants her bouncer at nighttime. I really don't see any harm in it, as long as we continue to work with her, I would think she'd eventually learn to sleep on her own at night like she's been doing during the day.

    My MIL feels that letting her cry will somehow solve the problem, but she just continues to cry until she's a red sweaty mess.  Plus, I feel horrible letting her get all worked up like that.

    Shannon

  • She is way too young to cry it out like that.
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  • Agreed.  If she cried more than a minute or two, I held and comforted her.  I'll keep giving it a try, but if sleeping in her bouncer is what works right now, that's what we're going to use. We'll keep trying the pack n play basinett and eventually she'll get there.:-)

    Shannon

  • Our daughter finally started sleeping in the pack n play bassinet two weeks ago.  Not sure what brought on the change, except that it was in some way developmental.  She's been doing great, sleeping 5-6 hours straight, considering she's a month and two weeks old.  We're proud of her and the fact that we didn't have to let her cry herself silly in order to accomplish this, we just had to be patient!

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    Our pnp had a basinet that came with it and it was a LIFESAVER.  DD didn't want anything to do with her crib or the actual pnp until she was a bit bigger 5-6 weeks. 

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     Also, the Rock and Play has been a lifesaver. My friend with triplets and I both swear by it! :)

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    It'll be ok. nbsp;DS HATED the crib and the rock and play and the packnbsp;andnbsp;play and the bassinet in the pack and playnbsp;andnbsp;ANYTHING but my chest. nbsp;Also EBF. nbsp;If he did lay down, it was only on his stomach. We started using a pacifier around 3 weeks, but only for car rides and supermarkets and such. nbsp;Around 8 weeks we integrated it at night. nbsp;He began sleeping in his crib a bit around 4 weeks and now he does fairly well with it 46 hour stretches in it. nbsp;Good luck. nbsp;For now, let lo sleep where ever they will sleep nbsp;:


    Thank you! It's rare we get DD to sleep anywhere but my chest or the car seat, but this gives me hope!

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