Natural Birth

New here with a question

Hello I am 14 1/2 weeks pregnant and have decided to naturally birth in a hospital. I had made this decision a long time ago when I was privileged to witness multiple unnatural births in a hospital setting. At that time it was solely on what I saw and had nothing to do with any reading material or documentary I watched. I just want to say I don't find anything wrong with wanting to be medicated but I feel like that is not the way for me and everyone should have a choice.

 

If your wondering what I had experienced here it is!  I could only described as " mechanical birthing".  The women birthing was very quiet and didn't speak much. I was told she sent her husband away a short while ago due to needing to be back at work. So she was all alone with no family or friends. A nurse then came into the room, checked her and the monitor she was hooked up to and told her it was time to start pushing. The whole experience was that the nurse looked for a  contraction on the monitor told her to push, then stop, and then rest. That went on till the baby was born and in a way I felt gypped just watching it. I felt that there was no emotional aspect or feeling. I want to feel a contraction and know when I'm suppose to push not have someone else tell me. I'm not saying I need to feel pain to have emotion but I would love to experience all that is has to offer form start to finish. Well that's my back story.

 

Now I have read up, watched some documentaries and want even more now to have a natural child birth. I have recently found out I have a little problem though. I have read some of your past post and am definitely getting the Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way book and some others, but do you think I need to take a class. I recently found out that the policies at work had changed for pregnant women and am possibly going to have to go without a paycheck once the baby is born. So I am trying to save as much as possible so my question is will just reading books be good enough? Or should getting into a class be the right thing to do even though we are trying to save? 

 

Thanks for reading the long post and I look forward to reading more!

Re: New here with a question

  • Classes aren't required to have a successful med-free birth, but preparation is. So is support. You can get preparation and support for free, if you plan ahead. Read lots, have your partner read something (the Bradley book or "The Birth Partner" are good bets), and consider lining up a student doula or just another friend or family member that has had a med-free birth and can support you. Relying on one person exclusively is tough if the labour is long or has complications.

    You could also consider a midwife. You can still birth at a hospital, but the midwife model of care tends to be more supportive of med-free birth. 

    I would also avoid the phrase "unnatural birth". I get what you're saying, but it doesn't do you any favours. Just stick to what YOU want without getting into what other people do. 

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    Classes aren't required to have a successful med-free birth, but preparation is. So is support. You can get preparation and support for free, if you plan ahead. Read lots, have your partner read something (the Bradley book or "The Birth Partner" are good bets), and consider lining up a student doula or just another friend or family member that has had a med-free birth and can support you. Relying on one person exclusively is tough if the labour is long or has complications.

    You could also consider a midwife. You can still birth at a hospital, but the midwife model of care tends to be more supportive of med-free birth. 

    I would also avoid the phrase "unnatural birth". I get what you're saying, but it doesn't do you any favours. Just stick to what YOU want without getting into what other people do. 

    Agreed to all of this!  

    I would stick with saying things such as "I am preparing for a med-free birth or a low intervention birth".  I know you didn't mean it this way, but 'unnatural birth' just doesn't have a nice sound to it :) 

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  • It seems to me the unpaid maternity leave is unethical...

    Anyway you can absolutely have a natural birth without taking a class but you should still prepare and with any of the methods practice practice practice! The more familiar you are with the techniques the better they are going to work for you.

    I did the Hypnobabies class and it was wonderful! There is a homestudy option that is about 150 dollars and that works great. I did the homestudy and i was able too find used materials so it was only 90 dollars. There was actually somebody selling a homestudy kit on here a few weeks ago, you could also check craigslist.

    I would also suggest picking up Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin. It is a wonderful book with a ton of great information.


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  • Thank you all for responding . I apologize for the unnatural comment. I usually don't use that terminology but when I wrote it I couldn't think of any other word. I will definetly get the books you all suggested and just do an at home study for now unless something else changes ! Thanks again
  • I'm in sort of the same boat you are. I'm at almost 17 wks and I know we don't have the money or free time to take the classes, but I bought a ton of books (cheap on Amazon). Am really enjoying Natural Hospital Birth: The Best of Both Worlds and The Birth Partner. I have Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way, but haven't read it yet, as I'm still not set on what method to use.
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