So...I respect the elderly and all...but what about being 80 gives some people the feeling that they don't have to have respect for anyone, at all, ever?!
I have had plenty of frustrations with this woman, but have never voiced them because H has asked me not to, but today I didn't hold back or give into her.
Emma and I have colds. It's lovely, snot everywhere.
GIL shows up at our house at 9:30 this morning, which may not seem super early for some, but for these two sickies, it is. When I open the door, without saying anything to me, she starts to walk in. I didn't move and said "Hi Marcelle, what's going on?"
This is our exchange:
G-"I am coming in."
Me-"No, Emma and I are both sick and are not up for visitors"
(I mean I am clearly not feeling well, I have greasy bangs in my face, my nose is red, and I have sneezed a few times since answering the door. I have to basically yell everything I say because she cannot hear, it's not fun with a sore throat.)
G-"Why can I not come in?"
Me-"We don't feel good, but you can call us and come over in a couple days when David (H) will be home and we can make dinner. I am sure we'll feel better by then"
G-:I am busy this weekend."
(She then tries to walk in my house again.)
Me-"I am sorry Marcelle, you cannot come in. If you had called me, I would have told you about our colds."
G-"I won't get sick, don't worry about me."
(again, tries to walk in.)
Me-"I am not worried about you, we're not up for visitors, and just want to rest on the couch."
G-"I am busy the next few days and you guys never want to visit with me, so I came over and I want to visit now!"
Me-"Call back when you have time and are not busy and we'll work something out. Bye Marcelle."
(closes door in the middle of her talking.)
Within 5 minutes, no joke, I get a call from H, telling me he got a call from his dad. He asked me if I yelled at GIL!! What the HELLLL?! I didn't yell, I was as nice as possible. Oh and apparently slammed the door in her face.
H is always telling me not to argue with her "because she could leave the argument and die, and wouldn't I feel terrible". Seriously though, she walks all over everyone. The other day, my IL's were incredibly busy, mowing their lawns that in total are about 40 acres. She called my FIL telling him that her car needed to be washed. It's about to rain which is why they were rushing to finish mowing. He tells her he can't, and lists all the things he is doing. She says, well it needs to be washed. 5 Minutes later she showed up, parked in the middle of the yard he was mowing and gave him the keys and walked into my IL's house and asked my MIL to make her coffee. My FIL stopped what he was doing and washed her car. My MIL stopped what she was doing and made the woman coffee. I told H that if she ever tried that with me, I just wouldn't do it. He told me that I should pick my battles and she could die so we shouldn't argue. This woman could live 20 more years and I am supposed to walk on eggs shells around her because she could die any minute.
So 212, was I insensitive for not allowing her to come into my home when she didn't call ahead of time, AND Emma and I have colds?!! As you can tell, I already know the dammn answer. UGH. H isn't mad, he laughed about it, because he could just picture the exchange. He said he was happy he wasn't there. Me too, because he would have let her in most likely.
Anyways, no real point here other than my GIL is a jerk face.
ETA: I have to add that my thoughts are now overly aggressive thanks to this exchange. Watch out bump...I may get snarky.