Let me just start this by saying that my relationship with my mother is like a roller coaster. My entire life she favored my older sister ( I was def favored by my dad) since my husband and I are the only ones with children my mother can't get enough of us. With our 1st child we didn't want anyone in the delivery room with us, however, my mother lived so close to the hospital tat she made it there pretty quickly and ended up being in the room while DD was on her way out.
Now fast forward 3 1/2 years and I am very ready to deliver grandchild number 2. DH and I have made it clear to everyone involved on our wishes. My MIL is going to stay with DD while DS is being born. We don't want anyone besides necessary medical personnel in the room while delivering ( had a med student last time and hated the play by play I got). Our hospital also gives you about an hour in L&D with baby before taking them away for testing and we would like tat time just the three of us.
My mother is having a seriously hard time with this and making thing incredibly stressful for me. She tells me that I am not doing this right and how can I deny them the chance to see him. REALLY?! I'n not asking you to wait until his 1st birthday to see him...I'm looking for an hour of privacy. None of the other grandparents are having an issue with this.
Are any of you dealing with or dealt with a similar situation. I don't understand why she just can't let me have tis one thing my way...I am the one birthing this baby and think my wishes should be honored without so much push back!
sorry for the long vent...thanks for listening.