i'm sure many MoMs have written about this before - but I'm finding that I have a lot of anxiety when DH and I are invited places. on memorial day we went to SIL and BIL house for a cookout and it was a nightmare. their kids woke up the twins by opening the car door (sleeping in carseats) and literally ds opened his eyes and started wailing. he was off all afternoon - we had such a miserable time. we ended up leaving early and it was just a bad, stressful, experience.
fast forward to now - we're being invited to a bbq at a friends house. it's supposed to be an occasion where all of the babies "meet" each other haha. our twins are the oldest, and then the others are one and two months younger. but i'm just really nervous about going and messing up their naps and schedule. i feel like no one really understands since they're able to hand off the baby to their spouse, whereas dh and i can't do that. and lugging a pnp, bottles, etc - sometimes it's just so overwhelming it's not worth it. but then we feel a little isolated. how did you MoMs deal with this within the first year? is it normal? i don't want our friends or family to think we're being hermits. and i want to lead as normal a life as possible. but it's just hard when we know there's 3 hours of prep for a day where they are going to be off schedule, fussy, etc. help!