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So I have been working on school related work with Alex (7) and Taylor (5).  I am very disappointed with Taylor's teacher that she did not learn more.  She had minimal exposure to preschool activities prior to the school year.  Post school year, she could not identify all of her letters.  They didn't even touch on lower case letters at all.  So, after a week of working about an hour a day, I think she has letters down and is able to identify and write the smaller sight words.

I realize as Mom it is my job to work on school related stuff too even though I didn't.  This really makes me think that I can work on this stuff with Dylan and not send her to preschool.

Do you feel after a year of preschool they should know all of their letters?
Do you think that all kids should go to preschool?


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  • KC_13KC_13
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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skills-those are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
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  • I would think so, if only for socialization and to learn classroom behavior.
  • Depends on the preschool and it's philosophy. Our preschool really doesn't do much with letters/numbers. It's play-based, and more concerned with preparing kids socially rather than academically. They pretty much assume that you'll take care of the academic stuff at home, or else the kids will learn it in kindergarten. I still think it's incredibly valuable, year after year different kindergarten teachers comment to parents how kids from our school always come in so well-prepared (and they don't mean anything about knowing letters).

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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skills-those are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
    Yes! I agree this is the main purpose of preschool. The academics is an added bonus. I was not at all happy with what DD did not learn in pre-k. So I found a different and better pre-k for J. If I were you I would find a new preschool.
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  • I agree w/ everyone else - more about play, social time, gross & fine motor skills (cutting, art activites, games, etc). 

    I would think that in a 4 year old preschool class that some alphabet stuff would have been covered, but certainly not sight words or anything.

     


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  • Well, my kid isn't what they call "pre-school" age, and he identifies letters, numbers, colors. I don't say this to be braggy or sanctimommy -- he just expressed an interest and picked them up.  I truly would have no idea how to teach them , outside of what I did -- books, Melissa and Doug puzzles, and The Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Super Why.

    That being said, those aren't the sort of things I hope to gain for him out of pre-school.  For me it is more of the structured environment, learning to act in a group, socialization, etc. Those are the important skills in pre-school, I would think.

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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.

    This. I think preschool is incredibly important. Around here people do three years. DD will have 4 since we are holding her.
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    I think most people (teachers, therpaists) agree that 1 year is very important.  Here kindergarten is full day so I don't know if that's an important reason.  I was on the fence about sending our son this fall as he turns 3 in August.  But he needs more socialization than I can give him and, quite frankly, it's easier to go to preschool than to hunt down 5 days of social opportunities for him!

    As far as letters and numbers go - we do that with him.  He loves books so we take that time to "teach" him.  We also have letters and number magnets that he loves to play with.  I would not send him to a preschool that was going to sit him in a chair and make him work on things like that.  Fear of that is one of the reasons I was on the fence about preschool.

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    And also... I need the break. I can't lie.
    Me too!
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  • I'm in the minority (I also plan to homeschool, which I know isn't too popular on this board) - but I'd say it depends.

    I think as long as there are other opportunities for socialization it's ok for the parents to work with the children on academics, and then provide those social/play/class setting opportunities elsewhere.  I think homeschooling can be done very well, but I also know (from friends experiences) that it can be done very poorly.  

    I thought this was a really interesting article on well educated/not weird people homeschooling (because I only know a handful of those type of people who do it).

    http://childrensmd.org/uncategorized/why-doctors-and-lawyers-homeschool-their-children-18-reasons-why-we-have-joined-americas-fastest-growing-educational-trend/

     

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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.

    Can I send us off on a small tangent? Can you explain more about rote memorization? When does it go from basic memorization to actual learning? Sorry if this is a dumb question.
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  • image Andrewsgal:
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    And also... I need the break. I can't lie.
    Me too!

    Dylan is my last "baby".  I am already going to have adjustment with 2 of the older girls in school all day. 

    We have only sent the others at 4, so I'd still have a year home with her.  I think everyone has valid points.  MIL & I were talking about this the other day so I wanted to get some unbiased opinions.

    I know that my SIL regrets not sending her DD to preschool.


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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
    Can I send us off on a small tangent? Can you explain more about rote memorization? When does it go from basic memorization to actual learning? Sorry if this is a dumb question.
    Really rote memorization is the basis of all learning at a young age. I will never understand why people get so riled up about it. Reading in its essence is rote memorization. Comprehension is a totally different issue, but to be able to read words on a a page is rote memorization.
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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
    Can I send us off on a small tangent? Can you explain more about rote memorization? When does it go from basic memorization to actual learning? Sorry if this is a dumb question.

    rote memorization is essential for a school age kid who needs to learn to read and do mathematics. For a preschool age kid, skills like gross/fine motor activities, social skills, self help skills, learning to understand and use language appropriately, etc are more important skills than memorizing abc's.  

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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skills-those are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
    Yes! I agree this is the main purpose of preschool. The academics is an added bonus. I was not at all happy with what DD did not learn in pre-k. So I found a different and better pre-k for J. If I were you I would find a new preschool.

    This. I found the boys learning about school routines, following directions, patience and play based activities far more valuable than the academics.
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  • Academically, I don't think preschool is necessary for kids whose parents are involved and work with them. Many of the studies that show a huge advantage for kids who attend preschool focus on low income and at risk children.

    With the move to full day K, though, I think it's important for kids to have some previous experience in a school environment.

    Edited to actually answer your questions:
    I taught preschool for years. My last classroom was ages 1.5 to 2.5 and kids new most of their letters before leaving, and we were definitely very play based. Yes, I think a 4 year old classroom should have taught them.
    And no, I don't think all kids need to go to preschool, but probably should if they'll be attending a more academic full day K.
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  • I don't send my kids to preschool to learn academics per se. I send them to learn how to get along with a group of their peers, how to listen to a teacher, how to sit in circle time and how to be away from me. Academics aren't the primary focus of preschool IMO, these other skills are. 

    And yes, I do think preschool is very important. I realize it can be pricey so I understand if a family truly cannot afford it (and by the same token cannot afford to work so their kids can attend because childcare prices are so high) but I think it's a very high priority item, so I forgo many other luxuries in order to send my kids to preschool.

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    image KC_13:
    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.

    Can I send us off on a small tangent? Can you explain more about rote memorization? When does it go from basic memorization to actual learning? Sorry if this is a dumb question.
    Really rote memorization is the basis of all learning at a young age. I will never understand why people get so riled up about it. Reading in its essence is rote memorization. Comprehension is a totally different issue, but to be able to read words on a a page is rote memorization.

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  • Ok so I have seen the preschool thing discussed a lot here. 

    In my area all the public preschools are based on income and child's development level. As in, if you are lower income or your child has developmental delays your child can go to preschool. I suppose some day cares probably have preschool style learning but I really haven't looked into it.

    I personally don't think all kids should go to preschool. I do think socialization is important, so maybe find a way to get her interacting with other kids as much as possible. 

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    I don't send my kids to preschool to learn academics per se. I send them to learn how to get along with a group of their peers, how to listen to a teacher, how to sit in circle time and how to be away from me. Academics aren't the primary focus of preschool IMO, these other skills are. 

    And yes, I do think preschool is very important. I realize it can be pricey so I understand if a family truly cannot afford it (and by the same token cannot afford to work so their kids can attend because childcare prices are so high) but I think it's a very high priority item, so I forgo many other luxuries in order to send my kids to preschool.

    We live in a LCOL area.  3 mornings a week was $140.  Price is not the issue here.


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    Ok so I have seen the preschool thing discussed a lot here. 

    In my area all the public preschools are based on income and child's development level. As in, if you are lower income or your child has developmental delays your child can go to preschool. I suppose some day cares probably have preschool style learning but I really haven't looked into it.

    I personally don't think all kids should go to preschool. I do think socialization is important, so maybe find a way to get her interacting with other kids as much as possible. 

    Where do you live that there are no private preschools? I don't think you have looked hard enough.
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    Ok so I have seen the preschool thing discussed a lot here. 

    In my area all the public preschools are based on income and child's development level. As in, if you are lower income or your child has developmental delays your child can go to preschool. I suppose some day cares probably have preschool style learning but I really haven't looked into it.

    I personally don't think all kids should go to preschool. I do think socialization is important, so maybe find a way to get her interacting with other kids as much as possible. 

    That is the same here -- public pre-school is available only through head start, and at that there is a shortage of spots.

    That being said there is a vast array of programs and price points for pre-school and most people still go. 

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    I don't send my kids to preschool to learn academics per se. I send them to learn how to get along with a group of their peers, how to listen to a teacher, how to sit in circle time and how to be away from me. Academics aren't the primary focus of preschool IMO, these other skills are. 

    And yes, I do think preschool is very important. I realize it can be pricey so I understand if a family truly cannot afford it (and by the same token cannot afford to work so their kids can attend because childcare prices are so high) but I think it's a very high priority item, so I forgo many other luxuries in order to send my kids to preschool.

    We live in a LCOL area.  3 mornings a week was $140.  Price is not the issue here.

    I didn't mean to imply it was an issue in your case, just a reason I've often heard!  And I often hear the "if you can't afford preschool go back to work" argument, which isn't always an option.

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  • I also will never understand people that don't realize that preschool is a lot more than socialization.
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    I don't think preschool has anything to do with basic rote memorization skillsthose are pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of preschooler development. It's learning to Socialize without mom or dad, learning classroom routine and learning to listen to an adult outside of family. I think at least one year before kindie should be mandatory if I ruled the world, lol.
    Can I send us off on a small tangent? Can you explain more about rote memorization? When does it go from basic memorization to actual learning? Sorry if this is a dumb question.
    Really rote memorization is the basis of all learning at a young age. I will never understand why people get so riled up about it. Reading in its essence is rote memorization. Comprehension is a totally different issue, but to be able to read words on a a page is rote memorization.

    rote memorization doesn't teach a two year old the problem solving skills to build a block tower with larger blocks in bottom or master a puzzle. Those are far more important developmental skills than memorizing the names of shapes. I agree if you're talking about a kindergartner when you're referring to a "young age" that rote memorization is vital-kids do need those skills to learn reading. I do think people get way too hung up on rote memorization with toddlers/preschoolers though. Those skills are unimportant in gauging how a child that age is developing. 

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    I also will never understand people that don't realize that preschool is a lot more than socialization.

    Define socialization though. I don't think of socialization as just getting along with peers that can be replicated in the sandbox.  

    I am thinking more like "learning the rules of society". 

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    I also will never understand people that don't realize that preschool is a lot more than socialization.

    Define socialization though. I don't think of socialization as just getting along with peers that can be replicated in the sandbox.  

    I am thinking more like "learning the rules of society". 

    i agree with you. I was responding to the poster who said she does not think kids need preschool because she can socialize him. Socialization is way more than a play date where mommy is around.
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    I also will never understand people that don't realize that preschool is a lot more than socialization.

    Define socialization though. I don't think of socialization as just getting along with peers that can be replicated in the sandbox.  

    I am thinking more like "learning the rules of society". 

    i agree with you. I was responding to the poster who said she does not think kids need preschool because she can socialize him. Socialization is way more than a play date where mommy is around.

    agreed.  

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  • image KaylaL08:

    Ok so I have seen the preschool thing discussed a lot here. 

    In my area all the public preschools are based on income and child's development level. As in, if you are lower income or your child has developmental delays your child can go to preschool. I suppose some day cares probably have preschool style learning but I really haven't looked into it.

    I personally don't think all kids should go to preschool. I do think socialization is important, so maybe find a way to get her interacting with other kids as much as possible. 

    Our kids do not qualify for the public programs, but there are 2 private schools in town with preschool.  Sadly we only have about 2 other options in our town.  If someone wanted to make a mint, they'd open a new preschool.


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