I'm heartbroken. Over and over again I see my mother in law completely ignore my 15 month old and it hurts. In every family gathering, she just ignores him.
It started a few months ago. It sometimes is when we are alone with them or on a larger group. For example, we brought him over to her house on Mother's Day which is 2 hours away and I cooked her lunch. We said she could just relax and spend time with our little guy while we ran the kitchen and she spend the whole time standing in the kitchen while I cooked. My son just sat and played with his grandpa.
When my son was first born she packed her bags and stayed here for a whole week even though we asked her to please give us sometime until we were ready for house guests. We have been working hard to create boundries while still making an effort for her to spend time with him. She now decided to ignore him. Maybe she is mad at me and wants to make a point. Im not sure. She will insist to come to our house and we will pull him out of daycare for the day so she can spend time with him. Last time, I got home from work and she was upstairs doing her nails while my father in law ran after our son. God knows what happens all day. I will not pull him out of daycare for the day anymore when she comes to visit.
She also picks favorites. My brother in law has twins and she compares them all the time, makes terrible comments about one of the boys and ignores him really. He is only 5. I feel like she is heading the same way with my son.
My little man is a very happy, smiley, easy going boy. I can't imagine why she would do this but she does and it's awful.
Not sure what to do about this... My parents live overseas and she is the grandma that will be around most of the time. Just to think he might have his feeling hurt in the future really makes me sad. Any advice on how I should handle this?