December 2013 Moms

Natural or Epi?

Lately I've been thinking about whether I would like to have a natural birth or not. I have been doing lots of research, but I would love to hear the advice/experiences of some of you seasoned moms as well as what new moms like me are thinking about doing.

 

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  • tealowltealowl
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    I haven't had either. I was induced but I didn't have an epi. If everything goes well this time, I'd like a natural birth.

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  • I went into my first delivery completely open minded.  I had wanted to try for a natural birth but also said that if it got to be to much then I would consider an epidural.  I did end up getting an epidural which helped me finish dilating.  I ended up with a c-section which earlier in my pregnancy really scared me but when I was presented with it during labor, I had no issue agreeing to it.  It is better to be open to whatever will happen and realize that in the end you get a healthy baby.
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    I went into my first delivery completely open minded.nbsp; I had wanted to try for a natural birth but also said that if it got to be to much then I would consider an epidural.nbsp; I did end up getting an epidural which helped me finish dilating.nbsp; I ended up with a csection which earlier in my pregnancy really scared me but when I was presented with it during labor, I had no issue agreeing to it.nbsp; It is better to be open to whatever will happen and realize that in the end you get a healthy baby.


    THIS is my plan. I would like to try natural but we will see.

    My son was born December 1, 2013.

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    I went into my first delivery completely open minded.  I had wanted to try for a natural birth but also said that if it got to be to much then I would consider an epidural.  I did end up getting an epidural which helped me finish dilating.  I ended up with a c-section which earlier in my pregnancy really scared me but when I was presented with it during labor, I had no issue agreeing to it.  It is better to be open to whatever will happen and realize that in the end you get a healthy baby.

    I'm a FTM, but this is my plan.  My MIL keeps telling me how I don't need drugs (she had four children all without any painkillers) and how the pitocin and epi just slow labor down.  I don't know if that is true or not, but I do know that right now, I think I would like to try it without painkillers.  If it becomes too much, then we'll try the epi (Assuming that is still an option at that point).  And while I am not thrilled with the idea of a c-section, if that's what it takes to get a healthy baby, then that's what we'll do. 

    OP, I think the best option is to do your research, find out everything you can about all the options, and then go with the flow.  If you get your heart set on doing it one way, you MIGHT be in for disappointment if things don't go as planned (not saying anything will go wrong, just saying, we can't control everything). 

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  • Same as PP for me, too. I would like to go for as long as I can without an epi. Mostly I'm so fidgety that I imagine I will want to walk around a lot. Who knows. But I am open for medicinal pain management for sure. 

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  • I went in with an open mind. I wanted to go natural for as long as I possibly could. I did end up with an epi. This time I'd like to try and go natural til the end. Again, if I feel like I can't handle it I'll opt for the epi.
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  • Epi most likely... I also plan on walking a lot so I probably will hold out for awhile.  
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  • I've done both. I had my daughter naturally. It was very painful but I survived the 28 hours of natural labor at the tender age of 21. 13 years later my body couldn't handle that type of pain and I opted for the epidural with my son. Personally I think if I hadn't had the epi I wouldn't have had to get a c-section because I was progressing nicely and after the epi everything stopped. I'm hoping for a vbac this time. I am reluctant to do the epi again because I don't want to it to result in another c-section. I guess we'll see when the time comes. Regardless, I just want the baby to get here safely.
  • I'm going epi. My MIL is trying to talk me out of it, but I'm here through a c-section and almost every person I know has used the epi..none of them have regretted it. I had one friend sit me down and tell me - labor & delivery is not a race or a contest..you don't get an award at the end for going natural so do yourself a favor and just get the epi. Plus I've been told enough horror stories about friends/coworkers who wanted to go natural but by the time they changed their mind it was too late. I do NOT have a high tolerance for pain. 

    That being said, I'm completely supportive of people who want to do a natural birth. Heck, I wish I was that brave, but I'm not. Maybe once I go through it once and have kind of an idea of what to expect I'll think about going natural next time. But this time, it's definitely epi all the way. 




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  • Be sure to go in with an open mind.  I got an Epidural and for sure will be getting it again.  I had an episiotomy as well was so glad I did b/c that helped with the pain tremendously.  You never know what you're going to get during birth!
  • If you go natural, get a doula.  That would be my advice.  
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  • Epi all the way for me.  I applaud women who can do natural births.  I am not one of those women, and pray to god that the epi lasts the entire birth, OR that I get to the hospital in time to get one.
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    I made it to 5cm with DS and I was begging for the epi. It didn't slow down the process for me at all. I went from 5cm to 10cm in just two hours. 

    Everyone has a different pain tolerance and a different L&D experience. You have to do what works for you and don't let anyone try and pressure into anything different.  

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    I went into my first delivery completely open minded.  I had wanted to try for a natural birth but also said that if it got to be to much then I would consider an epidural.  I did end up getting an epidural which helped me finish dilating.  I ended up with a c-section which earlier in my pregnancy really scared me but when I was presented with it during labor, I had no issue agreeing to it.  It is better to be open to whatever will happen and realize that in the end you get a healthy baby.

    I'm a FTM, but this is my plan.  My MIL keeps telling me how I don't need drugs (she had four children all without any painkillers) and how the pitocin and epi just slow labor down.  I don't know if that is true or not, but I do know that right now, I think I would like to try it without painkillers.  If it becomes too much, then we'll try the epi (Assuming that is still an option at that point).  And while I am not thrilled with the idea of a c-section, if that's what it takes to get a healthy baby, then that's what we'll do. 


    OP, I think the best option is to do your research, find out everything you can about all the options, and then go with the flow.  If you get your heart set on doing it one way, you MIGHT be in for disappointment if things don't go as planned (not saying anything will go wrong, just saying, we can't control everything). 



    I watched "The Business of Being Born" yesterday... and wow. Mind blown. It's on Netflix. Check it out. It gave me a lot to think about. As if I needed more!!!!

    My son was born December 1, 2013.

  • Because I wanted to go drug-free and wasn't high risk in any way, I opted for a birth center with a midwife. The only way I could've had an Epi was to request a transfer to the nearby hospital, which helped me wait it out--I would've been demanding one if it was on-tap. I had a warm laboring tub for pain management, as well as a lot of walking/slow-dancing with DH to calm me down. I sound like such a hippie, I'm not, but it was a good experience. 

    This is a hot-button topic, so I almost hate to chime in, there's always a little drama. If you do go for a natural birth, you need to really inform yourself and put yourself in the mindset. Read everything you can on the subject, watch "The Business of Being Born," read "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth," consider a doula, research your options, write a birth plan, take classes. It is hard. I feel blessed to have been able to go this route, but I know it's not for everyone, either by personal choice or for medical reasons. 

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    I am not sure why the term natural birth irks me, but maybe because I feel like it infers that a birth with interventions is unnatural.  I had a med free birth with DS and would prefer to have a med free and intervention free birth with this LO.  However, I am going in with an open mind.  I will not be devastated if I require intervention as long as I have a healthy baby in my arms.

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  • As much as I'd like to have a natural birth, I have zero tolerance for pain so I'm already planning to have an epi...3 weeks beforehand. Just kidding. But seriously, unless it's absolutely not a possibility at the moment, I'm definitely going to have an epi.
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    As much as I'd like to have a natural birth, I have zero tolerance for pain so I'm already planning to have an epi...3 weeks beforehand. Just kidding. But seriously, unless it's absolutely not a possibility at the moment, I'm definitely going to have an epi.

    haha I think we have the same pain tolerance. I bump my elbow the wrong way and I'm in tears. I cannot imagine trying to push a human being through my hoo-hah without being under the influence of drugs. 




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    I am not sure why the term natural birth irks me, but maybe because I feel like it infers that a birth with interventions is unnatural.

    I've used the term, and will probably continue to use just because it's kind of short-hand for med-free, intervention-free, etc. but I totally understand what you mean. 

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    As much as I'd like to have a natural birth, I have zero tolerance for pain so I'm already planning to have an epi...3 weeks beforehand. Just kidding. But seriously, unless it's absolutely not a possibility at the moment, I'm definitely going to have an epi.


    That's mewith my first two I was dying for the epi! This time I'm having a csection so there's no question about what I'm doing! It does make it harder to push. At least that's what I found with my first son.
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    Because I wanted to go drug-free and wasn't high risk in any way, I opted for a birth center with a midwife. The only way I could've had an Epi was to request a transfer to the nearby hospital, which helped me wait it out--I would've been demanding one if it was on-tap. I had a warm laboring tub for pain management, as well as a lot of walking/slow-dancing with DH to calm me down. I sound like such a hippie, I'm not, but it was a good experience. 

    This is a hot-button topic, so I almost hate to chime in, there's always a little drama. If you do go for a natural birth, you need to really inform yourself and put yourself in the mindset. Read everything you can on the subject, watch "The Business of Being Born," read "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth," consider a doula, research your options, write a birth plan, take classes. It is hard. I feel blessed to have been able to go this route, but I know it's not for everyone, either by personal choice or for medical reasons. 

    IL just approved free standing birth centers, but the only one opening is near Chicago and not till December. Otherwise I'd love to do one, but at least I have a MW. I'm not particularily crunchy either, I just hate hospitals.

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  • I tried to go without meds with my DD and thinking that I was a woman and my natural instincts would kick in and I'd know what to do....HA. I ended up with an Epi at 5 1/2 cm because I couldn't figure out how to breath and the pain was so intense I was starting to get dizzy and see spots. To avoid an emergency c-section I got over my pride and ordered the Epi... I refused the pitocen though. This time around I'm going to try med free again but I'm going to take some classes and if I need an Epi that's what I'll do.

     

    I agree with PP do what you want but be open to changes and research each option to make the best decision. Also be sure your SO is on board for what ever you choose. 

  • I would like to try for no epidural but if I get in there and need one then that's ok too.
  • I had an amazing OB the first time and she encouraged me to see how it goes. If your only dialated 4 and your screaming get the epi if you make it to 8 before your in real pain then go fo it. My new doctor has already mentioned about inducing me at my forat appoinment! What!? just because my son came so fast he was born in the car ig doesnt mean this baby will and if it does then its a birth im farmilar with. My body did this once before it will do it again.
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    This is my first and I will for sure be getting the epidural. I have a pretty high pain tolerance but the thought of natural birth terrifies me.

    I was talking about this with DH's step mom and sisters one day and MIL said "you don't get a medal for being tough" I keep telling myself that.

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    I was talking about this with DH's step mom and sisters one day and MIL said "you don't get a medal for being tough" I keep telling myself that.

    Exactly what my friend said! My prize is my baby at the end! 




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  • image NY Mama:
    I am not sure why the term natural birth irks me, but maybe because I feel like it infers that a birth with interventions is unnatural.

    I'm a little bothered by it too.  However, I'm not bothered because of the inference that interventions (like epis) are "unnatural."  I'm more bothered because it's a reminder that there are badass women out there who can tolerate an unmedicated childbirth... and I'm not one of them.  : )  Makes me feel like a wuss. It's okay, though, because my love for painkillers completely and totally trumps my shame of my poor pain tolerance.  : )

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  • The first time I knew I wanted an epi. It didn't work right and we thought it was because I feel asleep on my side.

    Second time I really wanted to go natural, but my water broke and after trying to get my labor to progress naturally for 8 hrs I had to get pit. I held out even with the pit for 13 hrs. The tried just a low dose of pit, but they had to keep turning it up because my body wasn't responding and my water had been broke for so long. Pit kicked in and ds(who was 9lbs1oz) was stuck in my pelvis. It felt like someone was ripping my legs off from the hip. I got an epi and ds was born less than 30 minutes later. Though they had to turn it off right away because it numb one whole side of my body, apparently I have a weird channel in my epi space. I really wish I would have done both an epi and pit sooner. Ds was born with an infection and spent a week in the NICU because of my stubborn want of a "natural" birth. It makes me feel terrible.

    This time I will try again for a natural birth, but I will be more open to changing my plans. I am not sure if I will even be able to get an epi this time because of what happen the last time. My entire left side went numb from my toes to head.

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    I went into my first delivery completely open minded.  I had wanted to try for a natural birth but also said that if it got to be to much then I would consider an epidural. 

    This was my plan with my first too & will be with this one. I remember the nurse saying that is the most common choice.

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    I tried to go without meds with my DD and thinking that I was a woman and my natural instincts would kick in and I'd know what to do....HA. I ended up with an Epi at 5 1/2 cm because I couldn't figure out how to breath and the pain was so intense I was starting to get dizzy and see spots. To avoid an emergency c-section I got over my pride and ordered the Epi... I refused the pitocen though. This time around I'm going to try med free again but I'm going to take some classes and if I need an Epi that's what I'll do.

    I agree with PP do what you want but be open to changes and research each option to make the best decision. Also be sure your SO is on board for what ever you choose. 

    Please tell me you mean that your SO just should be aware of your choices so he can be an advocate for you? Right?

    No way in helll is MH going to tell me if I can or can not get an epi or other meds during labor. My body. My decision.

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