February 2013 Moms

No family or friends nearby?

How many of us are more or less on our own in this with no one nearby to help? Our nearest family and friends are 45min away so no one can pop by to help.
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  • foxrosyfoxrosy
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    I'm alone. I left Northern California for Southern to be with my fianc. My nearest family and friends are six hours away by car. It's been extremely hard and lonely.
  • Us! Our families live about 600 miles away. People with family nearby make me insanely jealous. 

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    I'm alone. I left Northern California for Southern to be with my fianc. My nearest family and friends are six hours away by car. It's been extremely hard and lonely.

    Oh I bet, i cant imagine how much harder it is being 6 hours away, plus so cal is so different from nor cal. I live in so cal and have most of my life, but I would love to live in nor cal.
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  • We're alone.  I'm in DC and my mom is 4 hours away and my sister lives in Manhattan.  DH's  family is in Atlanta.  I'd kill for someone to watch DD even for an hour.  She's super high maintenance lately so I haven't left the house with her in 2 weeks.  
  • Me! Our closest family is 5 hours away. I get so, so jealous of people with family close by. I would kill for a night out alone with DH, but I'm not comfortable trusting a random person with a 4 month old. It would be amazing to be able to have a parent or sibling close enough to watch her.
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  • ::raises hand:: nearest family are 500 miles away
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    Me, my family is 13 hour flight away in England and dh's family are all in Florida and SC. We have friends in Oklahoma but they are all 30 mins plus drive away.

    Having ds has made us rethink things a bit. So I think we will end up moving closer to at least his family in the next couple of years.

    I totally agree on the rethinking proximity. We would love to love somewhere else even further away, but we don't want to while we still have little ones.
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  • kat1221kat1221
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    I would kill to have friends or family 45 min away! Even 6 hours would be a dream. We live in WA state and my inlaws and friends are in GA. My family is in TX. It stinks .
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  • That is why we are moving this summer. We right now live 2 and a half hours away from my parents and we are moving 45 minutes away. I can't wait. His family lives in England.

  • We're alone too.  Our families live 3,000 miles away.  It would be SO nice to have family nearby!
  • I'm another one.  Closest family is 400 miles.  Before kids it never bothered me, but since having them, I really crave family close by.  Some of it for help/babysitting, but mostly for growing those close family relationships.  It makes me sad to think my boys won't know their cousins well, etc.

    My career is going to keep me where I am though -- so we're hoping that some of DHs family will move closer after retirement.

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  • I live in Nor Cal and my family lives in Wa. My sister aways complains about how hard having a baby is but my mom run to the store with her so she can have help! It drives me crazy! I miss my family and would love help  

  • This!! We live two and a half hours from all of our family and friends. Right now my boyfriend is super busy at work so I am home alone from 6am till around 10pm. It sure would be nice to have friends and family around to help or at least keep me company. I keep trying to convince my boyfriend we need to move closer!
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  • Me.  Nearest family is about an hour drive, but they are not close family.  Our parents are 700+ miles away.  We have some friends, but no one super close.  I do have one neighbor that has been a huge help to me.  She watches her granddaughter who is the same age as my DD1, so we play over there a lot and she has kept DD1 for me for Dr. appts and such.
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    Runaway I don't know how you do it girl.
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  • lbonga1lbonga1
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    Am I the only one that doesn't really seem to mind the distance? My family is all far away, but I'd rather it be that way. My mom is a control freak and never likes the way I do anything. I wouldn't mind having my dad closer, but I don't think he'd offer to babysit anyway. My fiance's family lives close, but it doesn't seem like they really remember how to care for a baby...even my fiance agrees. Especially his mom though...she holds DD so daintily, and DD is a big squirmer. I'm afraid one day she's going to squirm right out of her hands and fall.
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  • It sucks! We're I'm Canada and my parents are in Chicago and my sister is in Minneapolis. My in laws live here, but MIL has never offered to help with DS and is not the to volunteer or drop by to help out. I miss my mom and dad SO much! I'll see them multiple times this summer, so that will be great...but I would LOVE to have them live in the same city! 

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  • I'm alone with you. I am 7 hours away from any family that could help and about 15 hours away from any of my friends since we just moved to a new town for DH's work. Most days its not bad but there is the odd day where it would be nice to call someone over to take DD for an hour so I could get things done or for the day so I can get things done and get some sleep so this stupid cold would go away!
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  • Us. My ILs are only an hour away, but I don't feel very comfortable with MIL (problems in the past) and she doesn't like to make the drive. In a pinch she can help out, but not regularly or just so we can go out for an evening. All of our close friends also moved between 1-3 hours away within the last 2 years.

    My family lives about 4000 miles away. Enough said.


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    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

  • I'm in NorCal; my parents and youngest sister are two hours away in Central Cali, and my middle sister is in Utah.  I never wanted to live anywhere near my parents until I had my son.  Now...well, most of the time it's okay, but I was surprised how much I enjoyed having my mom come and stay for two weeks.  I am sad DS won't get to spend the time with his grandparents that I got to spend with mine (we all lived in the same town when I was little).

    DH has a couple siblings nearby (within 30 minutes), but his brother is in his late 30s and still smokes pot and I hate his fianc?e, so they are out for babysitting duties. I would let his sister and her fianc? babysit, but they have never offered.  We aren't all that close to them...seems silly because we live so close to each other but they just live really different lifestyles than we do so they choose to stay away and we don't push the issue too often.

    We just moved here so we are still in the friend-making process.  Much harder to do with a newborn.

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    Runaway I don't know how you do it girl.

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  • All of our family is 2 hours away. But, honestly this doesn't bother me. I have returned to work but the daycare spot doesn't open until June 10th. So, my Mother In Law is watching our son. This would be okay, if she could go home everyday when I get off of work but since she is from 2 hours away she is staying with us. Talk about an extra stress. I just started back to work, a new shift (4a-1p), 10 days straight back, and then having to come home to her hasn't been easy. We get along but only because I don't tell her how I feel. I guess if family was closer we wouldn't have the issues of them having to stay if they come up. But, we are blessed that our son travels well and can tag along on my errands easily.
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