My husband and I have had a semi-argument a couple times now... would love some outside perspective/advice.
It usually starts with the weekend slipping away and me wanting more to get done. We are down to just a couple of projects before the house is DONE being fixed up. Hubs and my dad worked on some final plumbing yesterday and today it's been spackling, tomorrow hopefully painting. There are two rooms that need significant painting (ceiling and wall patch touch-ups). He checked up on the spackle and said he thought he might need to finish it tomorrow and paint during the week. This makes me nervous because working on the house after work doesn't usually happen, and I am 39 weeks on Thursday.
So I said, "You just can't count on any more time. I don't feel like you get that. We could be parents tomorrow for all I know." I feel like he has this idea that the baby just magically won't come until we're done with our chores/prep.
He then gets aggravated and tells me, "I feel like you want me to get upset or panic or something, and I'm just not going to do that." I don't want him to get upset, but I want him to stop being so comfortable putting things off. It's hard to even express what I want from him, but every fiber of my being is telling me to nest and get things ready. I just wish he would get on board and stop acting like everything is business as usual.
I feel like there is a way to have a sense of urgency without panic/upset. Am I crazy? I really am not trying to get him to freak out, but I feel like I'm the only one who gets how much our lives are about to change.
FWIW, I did say repeatedly that if we have the baby tomorrow, I get that this stuff won't be done and I'm okay with that. Enough is done that we could hit the ground running with our baby boy. I just think it'd be better if we did get things like the painting done.