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dogs and homestudy

So, we are still early in the process meeting with agencies, but DH and I have been working on getting the house together for the someday homestudy.
We have 2 dogs, Waylon the most relaxed, easy going lab around and Sandy lab mix that joined our family after my stepfather passed away and my mom couldn't take care of her. She is the sweetest girl, very loving. She was abused before my parents got her...the shelter said she was pregnant and abused. This causes her to have stranger anxiety, just when visitors come she barks and barks. No biting, she has never bit anyone. Is a barking dog going to be a problem? She eventually calms down, especially once everyone sits down. Then she will sniff and settle! We were thinking of trying as thundershirt also? If she would be a problem, I know she could live with my inlaws.. I love her so much, she has been in our family for 7 years. Sorry for the rambling, just getting worried early on. Thanks for your opinions/info!
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  • I honestly don't think it will be a problem. We have a giant schnauzer who jumps and barks when strangers enter the house or leave the house. It wasn't an issue at all.
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  • Sorry, I'm not sure what the question is. Are you asking if a barking dog will cause you to fail a home study? I'm not being snarky, I'm not sure I get what you want to know.

    Also - what is a thundershirt?


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  • I would just explain what you said- she barks at strangers but warms up to people she knows and has never been aggressive. That should cover it. I think you'll be fine for your homestudy. Good luck!
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    Sorry, I'm not sure what the question is. Are you asking if a barking dog will cause you to fail a home study? I'm not being snarky, I'm not sure I get what you want to know.Also what is a thundershirt?


    I was just wondering if anyone had an anxiety dog that caused problems with their homestudy. A thundershirt is basically a tight fitting garment that you put on the dog that is supposed to help with thunderstorm anxiety or other anxiety situations.

    Just something that has worried us. Thanks for the other responses!
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  • Our dog has serious stranger anxiety. We can't take him for walks, he has to be supervised outside, he can't sit on his perch in the front window without howling constantly if even a leaf blows by.

    We had to get an in-home trainer prior to our home study starting because I was so freaked out that he was going to cause serious problems and I knew we couldn't just lock him away in a room while our SW was here. 

    So we put him through training and he ended up doing SO well when our SW was here. And by "well" I mean he barked when she got here, jumped up a bit on her, and then promptly settled down once we all sat on the couch and started talking. He sat in my husband's lap and just stared at her. He wasn't silent by any means when she first got here and we'd prepped her for this dog that was just gonna bark and growl at her non-stop. 

    All that to say, it sounds like my dog was way worse than your's initially and wouldn't calm down for anyone or anything. And then acted like your's does now in the meeting and it wasn't an issue at all. 

    :) I think as long as they're not viciously going after anyone present or acting like they're on the verge of attacking, most SWs understand that a dog will be a dog. 

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  • A nervous dog shouldn't be a problem. An aggressive dog probably will.

    Best bet is to explain the situation up front and ask if it will be an issue.

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  • We have 2 80 pound dogs, a lab mix and a pit bull mix. Both are energetic dogs and bark and get excited for the first minute when people are here but settle down after that. We found that the best thing to do was to take them for a long walk before our SW came and feed them in the first few minutes she was there so that they were distracted and tired. Our SW was not a dog person, but had no problem with our dogs. I'm sure yours will do fine!
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  • I don't think it will be a problem. I was really worried about my two dogs too but they really will work with you to find a solution if there is a problem.
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  • We were *just* approved and have seven rescue dogs.  They are small, but some are "special needs" and one is reactive (acts aggressive out of fear).  We sent him off with his dogsitter for the few hours the social worker was here for her first visit, then crated him across the house for the next visit.  Everything was fine.  

    There's a book that may help, if you're interested...  http://www.amazon.com/Scaredy-Understanding-Rehabilitating-Reactive-ebook/dp/B004HYHE54/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369751119&sr=8-1&keywords=reactive+dogs ;

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  • I think that as long as you are up front and honest about your pet situation and how you plan to respond to any potential issues with pets and your child, the CW's are usually fine.  They just like to know you have a plan in place.
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    I think that as long as you are up front and honest about your pet situation and how you plan to respond to any potential issues with pets and your child, the CW's are usually fine.  They just like to know you have a plan in place.

    True in our case, too.  We were upfront about our plan, including help from our regular trainer in case we have trouble.

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  • I also have a rescue lab mix who was abused before I got him from the shelter.  he is the greatest dog, but doesn't care for strangers.  He has never bitten anyone, but he barks and barks at them.  We were approved without any issue.
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