My husband and I both wanted three children before we had kids. We had my daughter, and still planned on at least one more, but our lives became fairly unstable after she was born due to a job change and an out of state move followed by a couple in city moves due to different things. Things have been settled for a year or two now, and we both keep going back an forth on it. One day I totally want another one, but then most of the time I think I would be happy with just one. I think the biggest reasons why I want another are because I am a total sucker for babies, and because I had a large family, and I can't imagine growing up into an adult without my siblings. Basil is always asking when she is going to get a baby sister like her best friend, which breaks my hear tto think she might not ever have that.
But at the same time, there are so many reasons not to. We are not well off financially , I mean, we make enough to pay the bills and feed everyone, and live, but we're not rolling in extra money by any means. Also, Basil is turning four in July, and I feel like it's kinda past the age gap that would have been great for her and a sibling. Even if I got pregnant right now, they would be almost five years apart. They would never really go to school together (except maybe elementary school for a year or two) and at least with my own siblings, I am SO much closer to the two that are closer in age to me, my sister and oldest brother are 5 and 7 years older than me and we never really bonded like with my other brothers who are 2 and 3 years apart from me. Also, I feel like were just getting to that age with Basil that she is old enough to really go out and do things (like vacation, camping, etc) and adding a newborn to the mix would limit a lot of things that we would like to do with her. Then there is the idea of paying for childcare for another few years. I am an education student working towards my teaching degree, and Basil has been in preschool since she turned two. I would either have to send new baby to daycare, or stay home and put off my degree for a couple years, which I DON'T want to do.
Yet at the same time, I melt when I see other people having more babies, and sometimes really wish we could have another.
So what are some of the reasons YOU decided to be one and done? I need some more material to roll around in my head.