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Baby at shower

My work is throwing a shower for a coworker in a couple weeks. I am due next week, and today is my last day working. Everyone is saying that I should come to the shower and bring the baby so they all can meet him or her.

Is it stealing thunder to bring a newborn to someone else's shower? She really isn't the kind of person who would be upset AT ALL but i think i have seen things on here about it being a bad idea.

Also, I already gave the MTB my gift, since I was assuming I would not see her. Would it be terrible to come without a gift? I highly doubt anyone would notice, since many people are chipping in for group gifts, but would that still be rude?

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  • I wouldn't bring my new baby to someone else's party.

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    I wouldn't bring my new baby to someone else's party.

    Totally agree with this.

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    I wouldn't bring my new baby to someone else's party.

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  • Also, I personally would be super annoyed if someone stole my thunder....but I'd never show it because I don't want to look like a childish brat

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    I wouldn't bring my new baby to someone else's party.

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  • I wouldn't want to bring my newborn anywhere yet but the doctor.

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    I wouldn't want to bring my newborn anywhere yet but the doctor.


    This is what I was thinking! Unless by "a few weeks", you mean, like 8-10 weeks from now.... 
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  • While I hate the concept of "thunder" - at the same time, a brand new little BABY truly will take away most of the attention away from what the event is supposed to be about. 

    If you do go, no, you don't need to take another gift. It's not rude and no one is going to notice or care.

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  • I would make up an excuse and say your still recovering. Don't go, and don't bring the baby. I wouldn't bring a newborn anywhere for the first month. 
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  • I wouldn't go because I wouldn't want everyone's germs around a baby that's only a couple weeks old.
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    I wouldn't go because I wouldn't want everyone's germs around a baby that's only a couple weeks old.


    This. At only 2 or 3 weeks old you don't want to have your baby around a bunch of germy people, people whose vaccination status is unknown etc.

    I think the idea of 'stealing someone's thunder' is just stupid. I think most of your coworkers are adults who would say hello to you and admire your LO but are probably smart enough not to ignore the GOH and crowd around your baby instead. Some people might be jealous or mad if you brought your baby, but those people are juvenile and shouldn't be reproducing.

    But I think protecting your baby from germs is a very good reason to skip it
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    I wouldn't bring my new baby to someone else's party.

    This. But also if you really mean the shower is in a couple of weeks as in two weeks there would be no way you'd be getting me out of the house at only 2 or 3 weeks pp. I had no interest in leaving the house unless DS needed to go to the doctor. I was still healing and bleeding and just generally feeling like a hot mess for the first month!  

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  • I would never bring a newborn to someone else's shower.  And honestly, I would not bring a newborn anywhere but to the doctor's office for all their checkups and vaccinations.  Baby's health trumps everything else.

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    While I hate the concept of "thunder" - at the same time, a brand new little BABY truly will take away most of the attention away from what the event is supposed to be about. 

    If you do go, no, you don't need to take another gift. It's not rude and no one is going to notice or care.


    Honestly, you might not feel up to it, truthfully. I would go for a couple of hours and enjoy being sans baby for a bit. If you are BF then you can see if baby will take a bottle while you are gone.  


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  • Thanks for the comments, it sounds like a unanimous "no." It is my third so I get the whole healing, breastfeeding, and germs thing. I definitely wouldn't go without the baby though, because I know that everyone would be disappointed to "just" see me.
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    Thanks for the comments, it sounds like a unanimous "no." It is my third so I get the whole healing, breastfeeding, and germs thing. I definitely wouldn't go without the baby though, because I know that everyone would be disappointed to "just" see me.

    Who cares if they'd be disappointed to just see you. Not your problem. I'd go sans baby and enjoy yourself for a hot second.  

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    I wouldn't want to bring my newborn anywhere yet but the doctor.

    This!  Doctors recommend that you avoid public places for the first 12 weeks and I certainly wouldn't want my newborn being passed around the workplace.  If you're set on showing off the LO at the office, I'd simply choose another day other than the work shower. 

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  • I think it would be rude. Plus isn't baby supposed to stay home for a certain amount of weeks to build up the immune system.  If you already gave mother to be her gift then she doesn't need two. Good luck
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    I wouldn't want to bring my newborn anywhere yet but the doctor.

    This!  Doctors recommend that you avoid public places for the first 12 weeks and I certainly wouldn't want my newborn being passed around the workplace.  If you're set on showing off the LO at the office, I'd simply choose another day other than the work shower. 

    12 weeks?!?? I'd have gone insane.
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    I definitely wouldn't bring the baby-- especially not because it is a coworker's shower.  It might be different if it was your sister's shower, for example, a shower where you were expected to be there.  But I probably just wouldn't go and definitely wouldn't take the baby.  
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  • image BeckyTheEngineer:
    Thanks for the comments, it sounds like a unanimous "no." It is my third so I get the whole healing, breastfeeding, and germs thing. I definitely wouldn't go without the baby though, because I know that everyone would be disappointed to "just" see me.

    Wait, what? You are there to celebrate another person's milestone. Who gives a shiit if people don't get to see your baby. Show them pictures or something very briefly at the end of the shower. Its not about you or your baby. Go if you want or don't if you don't, but I don't get this post.  

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    I love babies and kids so I told my mom to let people know their children are invited too. I had two little infants at my bridal shower and it was so adorable to see them in little dresses. I didn't think it stole from the "thunder". They were very good babies and no one even paid attention to them except for their mom.
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    I get why most people would say no, and if you don't know the group I would assume no. At my work if a new mom came and didn't bring her new baby we would be a little disappointed. There is always a new baby or two at our bridal and baby showers. It seems like when it rains it pours and right now it's pouring babies. It's all women and we pass around the babies that are old enough and the really new mommies usually are wearing their babies. 

     

     

     

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    I wouldn't go because I wouldn't want everyone's germs around a baby that's only a couple weeks old.

    I agree with this. 

     
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  • Only first time mom's think you're supposed to keep babies inside for 12 weeks.  That's ridiculous.  I went out with DD to the store when she was 5 days old.  I was going insane in my house. 

    No, no one will care that "just you" show up for the shower.  It is not about you and your baby.  It's about your friend.  Either you go or don't go, but don't use this excuse b/c it's simply not true. 

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    Only first time mom's think you're supposed to keep babies inside for 12 weeks.  That's ridiculous.  I went out with DD to the store when she was 5 days old.  I was going insane in my house. 

    No, no one will care that "just you" show up for the shower.  It is not about you and your baby.  It's about your friend.  Either you go or don't go, but don't use this excuse b/c it's simply not true. 

    This.  Entirely this.  Except I went to church with my 10 day old first born and went to a restaurant and grocery shopping with her when she was 11 & 12 days old.  And did I mention that we stopped at blockbuster on the way home from the hospital?  And my baby shower was when she was 3 weeks old.  I did leave her home for a friends shower 2 weeks later though. 

    My 2nd was out and about at 5 days old.  2 days old if you count going to my parents house to pick up our oldest.

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    image Erinm278:
    I wouldn't want to bring my newborn anywhere yet but the doctor.

    This!  Doctors recommend that you avoid public places for the first 12 weeks and I certainly wouldn't want my newborn being passed around the workplace.  If you're set on showing off the LO at the office, I'd simply choose another day other than the work shower. 

    12 weeks?!?? I'd have gone insane.


    Holy. Ditto! 12 weeks is a long time! I threw my nugget in the moby and went everywhere shortly after coming home! I would have gone bananas if I was inside for 12 weeks!
  • My husband and I went to a friend's birthday party at 5 days PP.  I felt fine, was excited about seeing everyone.  My mom watched our daughter for 1.5 hours, I nursed before I left and when I came home.  No big deal at all--and we actually had a good time! 

    See how you feel after you get home--you might surprise yourself!

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