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  • I judge the Moms of DSs little friends. Every time I suggest getting together for a playgroup or even a Moms night out no one can make it! I seriously probably try and plan something every other week then they complain how we/our kids can never get together anymore....then I judge myself because I keep trying and feel guilty about not trying to organize one for last night's Memorial Day parade. And now I am off to write an email about doing an afternoon playgroup tomorrow. Sigh.

    And an early FFFC: I wish that my husband could have the hair on his back transferred to his head. The guy has sooo much effing back hair and if there was some magic way to make it regrow on his head vs his back it would be awesome. Seriously I helped trim it last week and when we were done the floor looked like we had shaved a small dog. I still love him anyways.

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    And an early FFFC: I wish that my husband could have the hair on his back transferred to his head. The guy has sooo much effing back hair and if there was some magic way to make it regrow on his head vs his back it would be awesome. Seriously I helped trim it last week and when we were done the floor looked like we had shaved a small dog. I still love him anyways.

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  • I judge my coworker daily for mispronouncing people's names. Swanson instead of Swenson, Allison instead of Alicia, Warner instead of Warren. This is people he talks to all the time, saying their names to their faces. It just seems ignorant, like he doesn't even care to know what their names are.

    He also pronounces Wisconsin "WINsconsin" and it makes me want to punch him. 

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  • I don't know if this an UO or a judge, but when people say they can't afford a house cleaner my first thought is "I would give up cable though I don't have cable so that one is hypothetical, eating out and all Target splurges before I give up the cleaner." I hate cleaning that much. I really hate it. I considered taking a pay cut so that I could work part time and one of my thoughts was "but then I would have to do my own deep cleaning!"
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  • I judge people who buy cats and dogs. There are so many pets that need homes, why wouldn't you adopt one???

    I judge less if you buy a dog that hypoallergenic and you have severe allergies, but even then, I still don't agree with the practice.
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  • I judge the mom at DC who always pulls up talking on her phone and leaves talking on her phone. Not blue tooth but holding the actual phone. Her parking job is always awful which to me just shows she pays no attention to the actual act of driving.
    I'm at the point I may say something
  • I'm judging the girl that flaked on a bachelorette party in 3 weeks after I covered her part of the hotel and tubing trip to go see her dying grandfather that weekend but posted on FB today how she is so excited to go to the lake this week. I wish I could schedule when my loved ones died.

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    I judge people who buy cats and dogs. There are so many pets that need homes, why wouldn't you adopt one???

    I judge less if you buy a dog that hypoallergenic and you have severe allergies, but even then, I still don't agree with the practice.


    Judge away. I was able to get one through a breed specific shelter, but if I couldn't have I would have bought from a reputable breeder. I wanted a dog around 25lbs and the vast majority of the dogs in the shelters I checked were huge.
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    I judge people who buy cats and dogs. There are so many pets that need homes, why wouldn't you adopt one??? I judge less if you buy a dog that hypoallergenic and you have severe allergies, but even then, I still don't agree with the practice.
    Judge away. I was able to get one through a breed specific shelter, but if I couldn't have I would have bought from a reputable breeder. I wanted a dog around 25lbs and the vast majority of the dogs in the shelters I checked were huge.

    I see where she's coming from because I feel awful for those shelter animals but I bought a Rott from a breeder. We have another dog and 2 cats from a shelter though! lol

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    I'm judging one of my really good friends for getting a gal knocked up because she is getting older, he's gay and hey, a kid would be fun!

    Apparently my friend has been giving this gal his sperm for quite some time now without getting a lawyer or making anything official. Their families have no idea this was going on. He works part time at a grocery store, can't afford his own place, parties every night and is probably the most irresponsible person I know (despite all this we still love him) and she lives with her parents, doesn't have a job, no health insurance and is bat sh*t crazy. They are both in their mid 30's so you'd think they would know better but they don't. We found out today that she is pregnant.

    I'm not sure I've ever judged someone more than I'm judging them right now. They have NO idea what they are in for, especially because she has told people she hates babies and thinks kids are "gross" until they are about 5 years old. WTF?!

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    I'm judging one of my really good friends for getting a gal knocked up because she is getting older, he's gay and hey, a kid would be fun!

    Apparently my friend has been giving this gal his sperm for quite some time now without getting a lawyer or making anything official. Their families have no idea this was going on. He works part time at a grocery store, can't afford his own place, parties every night and is probably the most irresponsible person I know (despite all this we still love him) and she lives with her parents, doesn't have a job, no health insurance and is bat sh*t crazy. They are both in their mid 30's so you'd think they would know better but they don't. We found out today that she is pregnant.

    I'm not sure I've ever judged someone more than I'm judging them right now. They have NO idea what they are in for, especially because she has told people she hates babies and thinks kids are "gross" until they are about 5 years old. WTF?!

    Seriously?! This kid will end up being raised by grandparents, you know since the "parents" already have their room set up at home...sheesh!

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    I judge my brother and SIL for inviting their 14 year old son's girlfriend to come on the family reunion trip to CA/Disneyland...WTH!? My SIL is so concerned with him being popular, and having a girlfriend...all of her boys, even the 8 year old...it's like they're 14...they'll probably break up in two weeks!  Plus...what parents of this girl are allowing her to go?! My mom is probably blowing a gasket internally. The rest of the family is thinking the same thing. Plus she invited her without even asking my nephew if he wanted that...what if he just wanted to have fun with his cousins...checking out girls, and now he has his girlfriend there who he fights with every week for some dumb typical teenager reason.

    I just feel she's trying to keep them together and make it serious...they're 14!  I feel like she's driving them towards more serious things 14 year olds don't or shouldn't have to think or worry about. May even drive them to a sexual relationship because they're so involved with keeping them together and asking...did you kiss her?  Why won't you kiss her in front of us?...um gross! and why?! Ugh...it REALLY irritates me!

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    I'm judging one of my really good friends for getting a gal knocked up because she is getting older, he's gay and hey, a kid would be fun!
    Apparently my friend has been givingnbsp;thisnbsp;gal hisnbsp;sperm for quite some time now without getting a lawyer or making anything official. Their families have no idea thisnbsp;was going on. He works part time at a grocery store, can't afford his own place, parties every night and is probably the most irresponsible person I know despite all this we still love him and she lives with her parents, doesn't have a job, no health insurance and is bat sht crazy. They are both in their mid 30's so you'd think they would know better but they don't. We found out today that she is pregnant.
    I'm not sure I've ever judged someone more than I'm judging them right now. They have NO idea what they are in for, especially because she has told people she hates babies and thinks kids are "gross" until they are about 5 years old. WTF?!


    These people are terrible. I suggest new friends.
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    I judge the mom at DC who always pulls up talking on her phone and leaves talking on her phone. Not blue tooth but holding the actual phone. Her parking job is always awful which to me just shows she pays no attention to the actual act of driving. I'm at the point I may say something

    File this under the Moms at daycare file too!  I judge the mom at DC who parks the "wrong way" on the street just so she can be right in front of DC's house.  At first I thought maybe her carseat was on the side where she wanted it to be sidewalk side but, nope - she walks her kid out into the street so he can get into his carseat.  AND, she's now taken to doing this in front of the fire hydrant.  It burns me up that someone could be that self involved!  Yeah, you may have to walk a little bit further (like maybe 2 car lengths) but get over yourself!  People like this make me so angry.

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    I judge the Moms of DSs little friends. Every time I suggest getting together for a playgroup or even a Moms night out no one can make it! I seriously probably try and plan something every other week then they complain how we/our kids can never get together anymore....then I judge myself because I keep trying and feel guilty about not trying to organize one for last night's Memorial Day parade. And now I am off to write an email about doing an afternoon playgroup tomorrow. Sigh.

    Similar to this, I judge some women I know who say they will attend a dinner out and then text the day off saying such and such happened (my kid is sick, my husband is working late, my dog is throwing up, etc.) and they aren't going to make it.  If something came up once, okay, I get it, but when it happens every.single.time then how about you just stop making plans because that seems to trigger bad things happening!

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    I judge people who talk on their cell phone during the entire checkout process at any given store.  It's always some mindless conversation that does not need to be happening right then.  They then act all inconvenienced if the cashier asks them a question. 

    Get off the G*d d*mn phone for five seconds!!!!!

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    I already did one about a daycare mom - but here's the big one that's been on my mind lately.

    I judge my friend who got into a relationship with a guy and within 3 months they were living together and she was having/allowing (?) her daughter to call the boyfriend "Daddy" (bio daddy is not in the picture).  I judge that enough in and of itself, but where I really start to judge is that when they broke up around the 1 year mark (i.e., around the time when most people who are dating begin to make decisions about whether a relationship is potentially long term, and sometimes you realize it is and sometimes you realize it isn't), she's devestated that she's "lost her family." Um, you still have your daughter. She's your family - not the loser (and he had many characteristics of a loser - jail time, current drug use, major ex-wife drama) that you had no business moving in with so quickly and having your daughter call Daddy. Sure, it took two to tango in this fiasco of a relationship but she made the decision to move herself and her daughter in with this man after barely knowing him.  I feel bad for my friend but her life decision making is so bad, my compassion only goes so far anymore and I reserve most of it for her daughter. There - I got that off my chest.

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    I already did one about a daycare mom - but here's the big one that's been on my mind lately.

    I judge my friend who got into a relationship with a guy and within 3 months they were living together and she was having/allowing (?) her daughter to call the boyfriend "Daddy" (bio daddy is not in the picture).  I judge that enough in and of itself, but where I really start to judge is that when they broke up around the 1 year mark (i.e., around the time when most people who are dating begin to make decisions about whether a relationship is potentially long term, and sometimes you realize it is and sometimes you realize it isn't), she's devestated that she's "lost her family." Um, you still have your daughter. She's your family - not the loser (and he had many characteristics of a loser - jail time, current drug use, major ex-wife drama) that you had no business moving in with so quickly and having your daughter call Daddy. Sure, it took two to tango in this fiasco of a relationship but she made the decision to move herself and her daughter in with this man after barely knowing him.  I feel bad for my friend but her life decision making is so bad, my compassion only goes so far anymore and I reserve most of it for her daughter. There - I got that off my chest.

    I hate when people do that crap. My SIL does that and keeps introducing her young daughter to a new "dad" every 6 months or so then she crushed when they break up. Never once thinking about how that affects her child.

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    I'm judging one of my really good friends for getting a gal knocked up because she is getting older, he's gay and hey, a kid would be fun!

    Apparently my friend has been giving this gal his sperm for quite some time now without getting a lawyer or making anything official. Their families have no idea this was going on. He works part time at a grocery store, can't afford his own place, parties every night and is probably the most irresponsible person I know (despite all this we still love him) and she lives with her parents, doesn't have a job, no health insurance and is bat sh*t crazy. They are both in their mid 30's so you'd think they would know better but they don't. We found out today that she is pregnant.

    I'm not sure I've ever judged someone more than I'm judging them right now. They have NO idea what they are in for, especially because she has told people she hates babies and thinks kids are "gross" until they are about 5 years old. WTF?!

    Seriously?! This kid will end up being raised by grandparents, you know since the "parents" already have their room set up at home...sheesh!

    Exactly. This is like straight out of Teen Mom except these are 2 adults in their 30's so there's really no excuse. I feel so bad for this kid. I'm sure he/she will be loved by various people but why bring a child into the world under these circumstances.

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  • Another daycare parking rant - I judge the parents who park like total azzholios in the circle at pickup...like, back up a little off my bumper so I can maneuver my car out when it's time for me to pull out???  Do you need to be rightuponmyass like that? And then there are those with apparently no spatial skills at all so they park taking up 2 spots.

    Pickup is crazy busy. Have a little consideration for other parents trying to get in and out of the circle as efficiently as possible.

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    I judge my brother and SIL for inviting their 14 year old son's girlfriend to come on the family reunion trip to CA/Disneyland...WTH!? My SIL is so concerned with him being popular, and having a girlfriend...all of her boys, even the 8 year old...it's like they're 14...they'll probably break up in two weeks!  Plus...what parents of this girl are allowing her to go?! My mom is probably blowing a gasket internally. The rest of the family is thinking the same thing. Plus she invited her without even asking my nephew if he wanted that...what if he just wanted to have fun with his cousins...checking out girls, and now he has his girlfriend there who he fights with every week for some dumb typical teenager reason.

    I just feel she's trying to keep them together and make it serious...they're 14!  I feel like she's driving them towards more serious things 14 year olds don't or shouldn't have to think or worry about. May even drive them to a sexual relationship because they're so involved with keeping them together and asking...did you kiss her?  Why won't you kiss her in front of us?...um gross! and why?! Ugh...it REALLY irritates me!

    Although the kissing thing and pushing them together is really odd, I will say that my sister's boyfriend used to come on vacations with us. I think all the parents involved just kind of gave up/gave in. :)  They were about 14 when they started dating.  They got married at age 19 and 20, had a kid a few years later, and are still married today.  For starting out so young and immature, they are two of the most level-head, responsible people I know now.  He owns his own business and she just graduated from graduate school as a SLP.  So... you never know! 

    ETA:  I judge about 90% of the people in our new neighborhood because they are god awful drivers!  That big red octagon that says "stop" on it means STOP, you moron.  I swear I've almost been t-boned just driving down the main road in the edition about 14 times in the past 3 months we lived here.  With a newborn and toddler in the backseat, it terrifies me.

     

     

     

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  • I might get flamed for this one.  I judge my friend for still giving her 20 month old son a bottle because he'll cry if she doesn't.  I feel bad for this judgement because she's my friend, but it drives me up the wall.  I have done everything I can to convince her that he'll survive without it.  But she admits that she does it just because she doesn't want him to cry.
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    I might get flamed for this one.  I judge my friend for still giving her 20 month old son a bottle because he'll cry if she doesn't.  I feel bad for this judgement because she's my friend, but it drives me up the wall.  I have done everything I can to convince her that he'll survive without it.  But she admits that she does it just because she doesn't want him to cry.

    This would bother me more than the bottle (although I am an advocate for no bottles after 1) - What else will she "give in" over when he cries?

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    I might get flamed for this one.  I judge my friend for still giving her 20 month old son a bottle because he'll cry if she doesn't.  I feel bad for this judgement because she's my friend, but it drives me up the wall.  I have done everything I can to convince her that he'll survive without it.  But she admits that she does it just because she doesn't want him to cry.

    This would bother me more than the bottle (although I am an advocate for no bottles after 1) - What else will she "give in" over when he cries?

    Exactly!  And there are other things that she does give in to when he cries.  I can't say that I have never given in to DD, but there are just certain things where I won't.

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    I might get flamed for this one.  I judge my friend for still giving her 20 month old son a bottle because he'll cry if she doesn't.  I feel bad for this judgement because she's my friend, but it drives me up the wall.  I have done everything I can to convince her that he'll survive without it.  But she admits that she does it just because she doesn't want him to cry.

    I am guilty of this!  But my son is only 15months.  We are slowly trying to drop the bottle.  I didn't start sooner b/c DH and I recently went on a kidfree vacation and I wanted everything to go as smooth as possible for my mom watching them for 5days.  Now I am trying to drop it and it is sooo hard.  I have 2 kids to get out the door by myself in the morning.  DD is already a handful (age 2.5).  Every little thing is an argument about her clothes, her hair, wanting to take her toys to school, etc.  DS is so easy... as long as he has his morning bottle.  If I don't give him one he is a cranky mess, like lays down on the floor and cries.  So yes I am weak!

    However I will say that I majorly judge parents who give their kids a bottle out in public. Like its one thing to have trouble dropping the bedtime bottle. It's another thing to be out at Chickfila with your almost 2yr old, who is eating a kids meal and then the parent just gives them a bottle of milk afterward.  Like why???  I also judge toddlers who constantly have pacis in their mouths. 

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    I might get flamed for this one.  I judge my friend for still giving her 20 month old son a bottle because he'll cry if she doesn't.  I feel bad for this judgement because she's my friend, but it drives me up the wall.  I have done everything I can to convince her that he'll survive without it.  But she admits that she does it just because she doesn't want him to cry.

    I am guilty of this!  But my son is only 15months.  We are slowly trying to drop the bottle.  I didn't start sooner b/c DH and I recently went on a kidfree vacation and I wanted everything to go as smooth as possible for my mom watching them for 5days.  Now I am trying to drop it and it is sooo hard.  I have 2 kids to get out the door by myself in the morning.  DD is already a handful (age 2.5).  Every little thing is an argument about her clothes, her hair, wanting to take her toys to school, etc.  DS is so easy... as long as he has his morning bottle.  If I don't give him one he is a cranky mess, like lays down on the floor and cries.  So yes I am weak!

    However I will say that I majorly judge parents who give their kids a bottle out in public. Like its one thing to have trouble dropping the bedtime bottle. It's another thing to be out at Chickfila with your almost 2yr old, who is eating a kids meal and then the parent just gives them a bottle of milk afterward.  Like why???  I also judge toddlers who constantly have pacis in their mouths. 

    Dude, me too!!!!!! It just looks ridiculous and um...why?!

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  • I judge the girl I work with for not "knowing" really I think she was in denial she was pregnant until she was 24 weeks. She has a 1 year old and said she didn't think you could get pregnant again that quickly...she already complains she can't afford one I don't know how 2u2 will be. She even acknowledged the fact she kind of thought she may be pregnant but didn't bother taking a test or anything since she figured all of her pregnancy symptoms were her body adjusting to not being pregnant...

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    I judge people who buy cats and dogs. There are so many pets that need homes, why wouldn't you adopt one??? I judge less if you buy a dog that hypoallergenic and you have severe allergies, but even then, I still don't agree with the practice.

    Totally agree.  I can't believe there are pet stores still in business. 

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    I judge my coworker daily for mispronouncing people's names. Swanson instead of Swenson, Allison instead of Alicia, Warner instead of Warren. This is people he talks to all the time, saying their names to their faces. It just seems ignorant, like he doesn't even care to know what their names are.

    He also pronounces Wisconsin "WINsconsin" and it makes me want to punch him. 

    I think I worked with this guy once...it was infuriating.

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  • I judge the moms who consistently park in the handicapped spots at daycare without a permit.  If you have a need to park there, you should get a permit.  If you're just being lazy, quit it.
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