DD is 4 months old today. We've haven't had as many problems as some people do with BF'ing, but it certainly hasn't been easy. I had major oversupply and overactive letdown for about the first 8 weeks. Then we struggled with getting her to take a bottle of BM; we did one bottle a day for weeks until she finally accepted it.
Now, our latest issue is that she's refusing to nurse at night. She had 3 bottles on Monday while I was working, and wouldn't nurse at all that whole evening. Tuesday she started to throw a fit but I somehow got her to nurse. Last night she refused again. The only thing I can think of is that she was already getting frustrated with the slower flow because of the natural regulation of supply that happens around 3 months, and when she got those bottles on Monday, that gave her the faster flow that she wanted. Now, when it gets towards late afternoon/evening and I naturally don't have as much milk as I do in the first part of the day, she gets mad when there's no immediate gratification.
At this point, I think I am going to continue to offer the breast every time and nurse her when she wants. But if she won't do it, I'll offer a bottle and won't stress about it. If I can pump and feel like doing it, I will. If not, whatever. I'm not against supplementing with formula if/when I run out of BM to give in a bottle. I'm tired of stressing over BF'ing issues and I don't want to have to pump every single evening (I don't know how you EP'ing ladies do it!). I've given her 4 months of exclusive breast milk and will continue to give it to her when she'll nurse.
This was more a vent than anything... I wasn't expecting to have all these issues with BF'ing and I'm sad that it's not working out the way I'd planned :( Thank you if you read this whole thing.