DH was talking to his brother around 8:30 last night and J was still up, he apparently heard him in the background and said "What the heck is he still doing up?" DH told him that J doesn't go to bed until 9 usually and BIL went off, saying that we were stunting his growth by depriving him of sleep.
I have plenty of opinions about how he raises his 3 year old daughter, who still sleeps in their bed and demands a glass of milk every night at 2am, but I keep my mouth shut because it's what works for your family.
I also know that's just how he is, but there I was, on the iPad looking up how many hours of sleep a 1 year old is supposed to have because now he's made me feel like a bad mom. Reason number #800 we will never, ever move back home.
ETA: J sleeps 10 hours at night and takes a 2 hour nap every afternoon.
BTW: Same BIL who asked us to stay in his suite next week.