I have been interested in having a doula with us hubby and I since I found out I was pregnant. Although we are going with a midwifery practice I plan on labouring at home as long as possible and so to me, as a FTM, a doula makes sense. My mum lives back in the UK and cannot travel so I think its an emotional thing also.
I have mentioned it several times but sitting down to talk about it with hubby last night, he doesnt understand why we would want a doula and not his mother. I dont want his mom there. I don't want her seeing me like that and I don't know how supportive she would be of my plan to try to avoid medication. She was in a tizz when I told her I was using a midwife not an OB, and is concerned that we'll deliver at a place called the Birthing Inn which is actually adjoined to the hospital and a NICU and not a place properly labelled as a hospital.
If you had to convince your SI that a doula was a good thing, what did you say? I have just borrowed a bunch of books from the library in thw hope of pulling out statistics and facts to substantiate my thoughts.
Sorry this is a long whine!!