DH is an amazing husband. Very loving, thoughtful, and romantic even though I'm not really the romantic type. But I'm not goin to lie, he drives me crazy as a dad. He isn't the most helpful. I have to pump BM so I have to wake up even when they're both asleep and if I hear my little boy cry he'll just keep crying. If I am cleaning bottles and DS is on his activity may or swing and crying, DH will let him cry until I ask him to pick him up or play with him. When he does, his playing involved looking at him and whenever he holds him he doesn't try to interact with him at all. I try getting him to talk to DS since he's becoming more alert and attentive and is interested and DH just says, "it feels weird" or "He's not really interested." Or things like that. But then he complains that DS has "daddy issues" since I'm the only one who can always calm him down although my mom and SIL are pretty good too when we're with them. I feel like telling him, "if you showed more interest he'd be more responsive." But DH is a sensitive guy and his feelings get hurt with the slightest amount of critiquing, even when meant with the best of intentions. To make it worse, he was to DTD often and while I have obliged recently, I'm just more and more frustrated with him to where I really don't even want to kiss him.
How do I approach this without hurting his feelings? I don't want to be one of those wives criticizing everything he does, and I try not to be. But this is getting really really frustrating.