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S/o dressing for your body type

Now that it's almost summer, I'm having my internal debate that I have every year. What's the cutoff for being able to go sleeveless? I'm about 30 lbs overweight, size 14, and would love to wear sleeveless things, but I feel super insecure about it.

Thoughts? Tell the truth, I can handle it.
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Re: S/o dressing for your body type

  • Honestly, sleeveless doesn't bother me for any size woman. It's the belly showing coupled with way too short shorts, all in a size way too small that makes me side eye.
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  • I think you can wear sleeveless.
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  • I think ranger was saying if you feel confident then there is no need to focus on whether something in general fits for your body type.

    In your case, if you feel "super insecure" then no I wouldn't wear it but only because YOU feel insecure not because anyone else should matter.

    Only time i'd judge someone for going sleeveless is in snowy weather and I'd think wth but that's it.

     

     

  • I'm 100 pounds over weight and I wear sleeveless. I'm TOTALLY and utterly a believer in dressing for your body type, I do not think that people who are obese need to be wearing short skirts/shorts, anything that shows their stomach, and things that are super tight... but sleeveless? Pfft... if you don't like my arms, don't look.

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  • I want to make It clear you should by the RIGHT size. But who cares what others say about what you wear.



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    image Mrs.Greg:
    Honestly, sleeveless doesn't bother me for any size woman. It's the belly showing coupled with way too short shorts, all in a size way too small that makes me side eye.

    this. I also think the aforementioned look is pretty unflattering on most body types. 

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    image Mrs.Greg:
    Honestly, sleeveless doesn't bother me for any size woman. It's the belly showing coupled with way too short shorts, all in a size way too small that makes me side eye.

    this. I also think the aforementioned look is pretty unflattering on most body types. 



    It IS unflattering and it's amazing to me how many overweight women sport the look and I rarely see average or skinny women showing their tummies in public. Very strange.
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    I want to make It clear you should by the RIGHT size. But who cares what others say about what you wear.


    Oh, I definitely buy the right size. I wish I could not care what other people think. Maybe a spray tan would help, lol.
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    You absolutely can wear sleeveless. As long as you're wearing the right sizes and everything is appropriately covered, I wouldn't think twice about itn
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    image Hollylb3:
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    I want to make It clear you should by the RIGHT size. But who cares what others say about what you wear.
    Oh, I definitely buy the right size. I wish I could not care what other people think. Maybe a spray tan would help, lol.

    I know the Jergens self tanner makes me feel a little better.  And I think you are fine going sleeveless!

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    You absolutely can wear sleeveless. As long as you're wearing the right sizes and everything is appropriately covered, I wouldn't think twice about itn

    Exactly this.

     I am overweight and still wear sleeveless shirts in the summer. 

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  • I am 4-5 sizes bigger than you, clothing wise, and I still wear sleeveless.  There are parts of my body WAY more offensive than my arms.  If someone wants to critique me on my upper arm buldge, they were probably a jack@ss in the first place.  I make certain my stomach/butt is covered at all costs, and that my thighs are fully covered , but the rest of me ... eh ... don't look if you don't like it.  I do tend to gravitate to t-shirts, but I am attempting to not have a farmer's tan this summer, so I've been wearing plenty of tanktops outside. 
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  • Good to know. Thanks, gals. Off to break out the tank tops.
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    I want to make It clear you should by the RIGHT size. But who cares what others say about what you wear.

    I agree with this. 


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    image letranger:
    I want to make It clear you should by the RIGHT size. But who cares what others say about what you wear.

     Totally agree with this. I think what looks bad is when someone tries to fit into something that is too small and is pulling and tight under the arms or hiking up too short. I think people of nearly any size can wear nearly any type of clothing if they buy the proper fit and size.  

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    I don't like my arms, but it's 100 here regularly so sleeveless it is.

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  • yep, i'm in the "wear what you want" camp as long as things are sized right and there's no boobs, buns or gut hanging out....
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    I say go sleeveless!  Who the heck cares what people think?

    The only time I side-eye people for dressing in something they shouldn't are:

    bikinis, mini skirts, too tight pants, belly shirts and skin tight shirts.  I've never looked twice at someone of any size wearing sleeveless.

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    I think ranger was saying if you feel confident then there is no need to focus on whether something in general fits for your body type.

    In your case, if you feel "super insecure" then no I wouldn't wear it but only because YOU feel insecure not because anyone else should matter.

    Only time i'd judge someone for going sleeveless is in snowy weather and I'd think wth but that's it.

     

    Agreed.

    I don't know why anyone is offended by the way anyone else dresses.  Unless maybe someone is walking around totally inappropriate.  Like, with lingerie on or something.  That would be a little offensive to see in public.

    If you're comfortable in it, wear it.  There is no cut off.  

    Women are so weird.  Men would never be like, so... what's the cut off for cargo shorts?  Is my butt too big?

    Why we do this to one another, I'll never understand.   

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    I think ranger was saying if you feel confident then there is no need to focus on whether something in general fits for your body type.

    In your case, if you feel "super insecure" then no I wouldn't wear it but only because YOU feel insecure not because anyone else should matter.

    Only time i'd judge someone for going sleeveless is in snowy weather and I'd think wth but that's it.

     

    Agreed.

    I don't know why anyone is offended by the way anyone else dresses.  Unless maybe someone is walking around totally inappropriate.  Like, with lingerie on or something.  That would be a little offensive to see in public.

    If you're comfortable in it, wear it.  There is no cut off.  

    Women are so weird.  Men would never be like, so... what's the cut off for cargo shorts?  Is my butt too big?

    Why we do this to one another, I'll never understand.   



    I wish I knew. It'd probably be best if I don't have a daughter so I don't inadvertently teach her to be insecure
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  • image Hollylb3:
    It'd probably be best if I don't have a daughter so I don't inadvertently teach her to be insecure

    I think about this all the time :(  I hope that me being super contentious about it will prevent my lending to the negativity, but I'm already worried about what society will tell DD about her image.  It's sad.

    Also, I do feel you on this topic.  I'm all about "eff society and their stupid ideals", yet I was just talking to a friend of mine at the park yesterday about how I won't wear shorts because I feel like my legs are too short and fat to pull them off.  ::hangs head in shame::  

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    It'd probably be best if I don't have a daughter so I don't inadvertently teach her to be insecure

    I think about this all the time :(  I hope that me being super contentious about it will prevent my lending to the negativity, but I'm already worried about what society will tell DD about her image.  It's sad.

    Also, I do feel you on this topic.  I'm all about "eff society and their stupid ideals", yet I was just talking to a friend of mine at the park yesterday about how I won't wear shorts because I feel like my legs are too short and fat to pull them off.  ::hangs head in shame::  



    That's me exactly. I like to pretend I'm really confident and don't care, because after all, the average American woman is a size 14 [not that it makes it healthy], but still. I'm just as susceptible to the stupid media as the young girls evidently.
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  • Also what really pains me Is improper bra size. Like I know I whined about pricey bras but I still bought them because they make your clothes fit better.
  • I'm super insecure about going sleeveless and I always wear a cardigan or just a shirt with sleeves.  Yet my mom who's overweight wears sleeveless shirts and I see women all the time who are overweight in them and I never think anything of it.  I don't know why I won't just do it.  I think it's just because I've always been very modest and just feel odd when I don't have the sleeves.
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  • I don't think there is a cutoff for sleeveless. Some people look better than others but a size 14 is fine in a tank top. Certain looks like spaghetti straps, visible bra straps (ick), and braless have more of an age cutoff in my mind. I excuse a 15 year old for wearing a neon bra with a tank but no one over 22 gets a pass. 

     

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  • I'm looking at your siggy pic and honestly, why are you even questioning whether you can pull off sleeveless? Of course you can!!

    I think pretty much everyone can pull off sleeveless as long as they buy the right size and wear appropriate undergarmets. I'll admit I'm guilty of not doing the latter and looking back at pics they are b-a-d.


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    I'm looking at your siggy pic and honestly, why are you even questioning whether you can pull off sleeveless? Of course you can!! I think pretty much everyone can pull off sleeveless as long as they buy the right size and wear appropriate undergarmets. I'll admit I'm guilty of not doing the latter and looking back at pics they are bad.


    Aww, thanks. Although any muscle tone I had flew out the window post partum. Not sure what happened there. Now if I could just start all those arm workouts from pinterest I have pinned...
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  • I have huge arms and I go sleeveless. I just don't GAF.  It's too dang hot to wear sleeves cause of my jiggle.  I never judge sleeveless on anyone.

    Booty shorts I will judge.  Spandex I will judge.  Sleeveless is just necessary in summer though.

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