DS #3 was born 12 days ago. He was my third c-section, plus I had my tubes tied. I am just not getting back to normal as quickly as I did with the other boys. Maybe it's age, or maybe it's because of the tubal. I don't know.
Anyway, I just sent MIL home (3 hours away) with my 2 year old. There is no way I could take care of him all day the way I feel right now. I can't lift him, or even walk very fast. My six year old is at school all day and is super helpful when he is home, but my two year old is a typical toddler who has a new sibling. He loves his little brother, but has little to do with me.
I feel so sad and guilty. He was thrilled to go away with Nana, but I still feel bad. This isn't how I pictured our new family of five. :-(
Re: Super sad and frustrated.
Awww, don't take it so hard. Sometimes it's best for them to do their own thing while you get better. Hang in there, you may feel better when you realize how much easier the next few days will be. It's probably better for you all!! I hope you feel better soon and can bring him home!
I'm getting my tubes tied on Saturday after my c-section, too. I'm hoping that it's not a super tough recovery... My first c-section was a breeze so I'm counting on that since we have to move to a new state in 2 weeks!
I feel that way and the new LO isn't here yet. Our families live an hour away and don't know how fast they could get here if I go into labor so DS has been staying with them off and on. He came home on Sunday and went back this morning. I feel like the worst mommy but I don't want him to have to go hang out with DH's coworkers until someone can come get him.
I hope my post didn't scare you! I was completely unaware that the tubal would add extra pain. I think that has made it worse since it was unexpected. FX for a quick recovery for you!
Thanks for the well wishes! I'll adjust my expectations accordingly, though, just in case!! I'll keep you posted!
Don't feel badly about that. Your little guy is probably having the best time with his Nana. He gets a super amount of attention and you get a bit of a break until you can better handle everything. I can understand being a bit sad that things had to be that way but really it's a good solution for now.
Hope you feel better soon.
I agree with this. You are making hard decisions, but it is what is best for your family right now. 2 year olds are notoriously difficult and I'm sure he is thrilled to be the exclusive center of attention right now. He will not remember this time when he is older and in a week or two when you are feeling better he will have had some special time that you can remind him of when you are integrating him into your new normal.