Morning all...haven't posted on here in a LONG time but still lurking around. Anyhow, do any of you out there have an SIL who you just can't stand (for whatever reason)?? I have a couple, but one i just can.not.stand.
Back story, from the beginning when DH and I started dating she would be a real b to me ...saying petty comments to me, talk about my friends (e.g. why are your friends ugly??), would "playfully" push me aside to be next to DH, whisper to him things in front of me (thats reallly mature there), etc. DH was oblivious to all of this. So after we got married, I will admit she has calmed down (DH says he spoke to her on my behalf).
It's pretty much like an unspoken agreement that we both know we don't like being around each much (though we will act "normal"to each other and chit chat when the whole family is together....but she hardly says hi or bye to me when everybody is together and there's little cues I catch that tells me how she feels). Years ago, I've told DH in so many words that I don't really like her but I never said the actual words, "i do not like your sister".. And I'm thinking now, maybe he doesn't know how much I really find her annoying. Should I say something to him so that he really knows? I guess what I want to get out of this is sometimes when I have planned to spend a day with DH and DD, he will invite her (with kids)along and I'm thinking in my head, you know I find her annoying and yet you still invite her. What would you do or say... Again, keep in mind this has been 10 years of annoyance and and rude comments from her that I have put up with and bit my tongue for sake of family.