Hello Gentleman I hope you don't mind me crashing. But I would like your input on something a little different. Its a long story and I apologize in advance.
Here a little background.
DH and I have been together 5 years we are still relatively young DH is 27 and I am 25 we have recently suffered 2 losses in a row. We found out she were expecting back in October. During u/s 8 wks got to hear not one but two heartbeats. I had a trip to the ER when I should have been around 14 wks and found out the babies had stopped growing at 10 wks 4 day and 11 wks 3 days. It was heartbreaking. Then to too it all off we found out we were expecting yet again about 3 wks ago, found out we were m/c again almost 2 wks ago, found out it was a heterotopic pregnancy 1 WK ago. Meaning there was a baby in Utero and I also had a baby in my tubes. Tuesday at a doctor visit they found out I was bleeding internally and had to take me to surgery. Remove our baby and my right tube. Now DH has been wonderful. I haven't had to lift a finger and he constantly reminds me its going to be OK. We talk about our losses and how much it just sucks. We have both cried together exc. Our relationship is a little odd. He is the emotional one who is good at sharing his feeling and talking about stuff. I am the one who has a harder time with this and do much better to write it down then to talk out loud. He wants a "football team" of kids as he let's it and is an absolute natural and I am not so good. In short he is everything I am not and certainly my better half. He has done said if we have another loss he is calling it quits. My biggest thing is I am so worried about him. Right now he is so focused on me and being strong for me. But is there anything I can do to help him? I have thought about ordering jewelry pieces for both of us in honor of our LO. If you were in our place would you appreciate this.
So often people ask about me. But SK rarely him. These were his babies too and he has been amazing. I want him to know that I know he lost something previous also. I don't want him to give up on me.
November 22, 2012: Went into ER with spotting to discover my babies had stopped developing at 10 wks 4 days and 11 wks 3 days. Their hearts no longer beat.
April 22, 2013: Found out I was miscarrying
May 3, 2013:Saw baby in Utero and in tubes diagnosed with Heterotopic pregnancy
May 7, 2013: Taken into surgery for tubal pregnancy baby and right tube was removed