I feel very lucky and appreciative to have had such a long time off work to spend with my LO. I don't have to go back to work until June 26th and DD will be just over 4 months old. I am EBF, so I have been the one to take care of her most of the time. My fiance loves her to death, but he gets very overwhelmed and stressed when he has a screaming baby in his face. But since nobody else has really been taking care of her, she starts screaming when anyone else does try to take care of her, including my fiance. So he thinks that she hates him.
I'm really worried that he's not going to be able to handle watching her on his days off when I'm at work, but we don't have much money to be spending on child care either. His mom is willing to watch her once a week, but if DD is screaming all the time, I don't know how she'll be able to handle it either. Does anyone have any suggestions? I wish being a SAHM or WAHM was an option for me, but it's not right now.
Re: Worried about going back to work
Give him time and opportunities with the baby before you go back. Short periods of time, when you might run out and things like that, so he get more accustomed to being alone with the baby. Once a month, I go out to dinner with 4 other mommy friends (we all teach together) to eat, drink, and chat. One friend is super paranoid about leaving LO with DH, so we remind her that LO is his baby, too. He is capable of taking care of the baby just as much as she is. I am sure it will be fine! Going back to work is such a balancing act as it is...focus on the positive-- like SO gets time with his baby!
I agree with all PPs. And two months vs. 4 months is a big difference, at least it has been for my two sons. At 2 months, they only wanted mommy, and they would lose their schmidt when DH held them. Now we are almost at 4 months, and DH and DS2 are great buddies. Sometimes the babes just need to work out their mommy fixation! It's hard especially when you BF.
Don't worry, it will work out!
DS1: Quinn - 10.22.10 and DS2: Cole - 01.18.13