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Delayed after hysteroscopy today :(

Well, I'm trying not to turn into Debbie downer or get too bummed out :(...but I am definitely a bit sad and disappointed after our appointment today. I had my uterine cavity check (hysteroscopy) post D&E and somehow I grew an adhesion that has to be removed before we can go forward with a FET. You could see it pretty clearly and I an understand how that can't be in there - it lowers implantation rates and increases miscarriage rates.

So at a minimum, we will be delayed about 6 weeks on top of the 4 away from the FET we originally had planned on June 11. I'm assuming it'll probably be 10-12 weeks from now which feels like forever. I know it's not...but I feel like someone just moved the finish line and I was pacing nicely for 4 weeks from now and now I have to pace myself for 10-12 weeks from now.

On the upside, I have a little more time to shed a few pounds, I can relax a little and enjoy the summer I guess. I just really wanted to be pregnant before my EDD for our loss baby came on Aug 29th. It could still happen. But I'm starting to feel discouraged and unlucky.

Sorry, I know many of you have gone through so much more - years of this - but I guess this is just hitting me hard for some reason. :( Thanks for listening!

Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

It's been a long road to here...
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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Re: Delayed after hysteroscopy today :(

  • I'm sorry ... that sucks. And it doesn't matter how much more or less anyone's experienced, it still hurts. Here's hoping that the extra few weeks fly by for you.
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  • JM1977JM1977
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    I'm so sorry to see this.  I can imagine you are really ready to move on, and this delay must be really disappointing.  I hope the time goes as quickly as possible!
    TTC with DOR, low morphology, fertilization issues
    IVF#1 Oct 2009 (CCRM) - BFN
    IVF#2 March 2010 - Poor response/cancelled
    DE IVF#1 Aug 2010 - BFN
    DE IVF#2 Dec 2010 - Transferred 1, 2 frozen - BFP!
    TTC#2 FET Jan 2013 - Transferred 1 - BFP!

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  • Everyone's been through something different and it all sucks. No need to apologize. I know it's hard to have to wait that extra time, but I hope you are able to focus on something not related to trying to start a family - like you said, dropping a few pounds, enjoying summer, anything that you can do just for you.

    TTC since April 2010
    BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
    June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
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  • Oh man, I'm sorry about this delay. Delays are so disappointing, it's okay to be down about it. I am glad you're trying to find silver lining it it all. You are a very strong person! Hang in there, enjoy the "time off" as much as you can and hopefully your next transfer will be here before you know it. :) hugs

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    DH: Severe MFI

    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)

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    12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
    2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
    2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
    3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

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    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
    9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
    11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
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  • I'm so sorry for the delay...bumps in the road are never easy. It is so difficult to be patient at all during this process. I agree that you have a great attitude in spite of that--HUGS!!
    TTC since June 2011
    DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
    Me (32): all clear
    Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
    Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test :(
    Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
    2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
    Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
    ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
    TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found :(
    froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
    8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
    Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
    SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
    SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
    9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
    All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
    FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
    moving on to DS
    DIUI#1 2/18/13,50mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta 3/4/13: BFN.
    DIUI#2 3/19/13, 50 mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta #1 (14dpiui) 4/2/13: BFP!!!! 150. Beta #2 4/4/13: 420 Beta #3 4/8/13: 2691. Beta #4 4/15/13: 15,086
    1st u/s 4/8/13 shows one gestational sac
    2nd u/s 4/15/13 shows yolk sac, fetal pole and early heartbeat
    3rd u/s 4/25/13: measuring right on track. Heart rate 148 bpm
    A/S 7/22/13: IT'S A BOY!!
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  • (((HUGS))) and yeah delays SUCK!

    April 2013 DE IVF= BFN

    September 2013 DE IVF (Fingers Crossed) = BFFFN! again...

    October 2013 FET of our last 2 = Beta Hellzz for 6-7 Weeks. M/C

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    Stay positive. I know it's hard especially when you have a timeline in your head... Been there done that. I will all work out in due time. Hang in there.  

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  • Sorry to hear about your delay - but I like your thought about enjoying the summer.  Big hugs!  Perhaps a nice frosty adult beverage is in order...

    Me:37 (DOR), DH: 40 (Normal) TTC #1 since Fall 2010
    2010-2012 - 7 rounds of Clomid, 4 IUI & 2 IVF - all BFN (2 chemical pregnancies)
    April 2013 fresh DEgg - 15R, 4F, 2 transferred = BFN.  
    FET - 11/13
    Beta #1 11/23 = 247; Beta #2 11/25 = 538; Beta #3 11/29 = 5481 BFP!!!!!
    U/s #1 12/7 & U/s #2 12/16 = One perfect little heart beat!! 
    EDD = 8/1/14

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  • Thanks for all the support and kind words! On the upside, my procedure will be 2 weeks from today because they had a cancelation! So, that's probably about as good as it gets in terms of getting my insides fixed up quickly....I'll keep ya posted. Thanks again!

     

    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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    Hey I'm sorry that you've had a set back.  But better to find out now and fix the problem than to suffer another loss.

    Silver lining for me, as it looks like we might end up cycle buddies in July. (I mean if my hysteroscopy results don't delay me as well).

    I went to a dietician recently.  I told her I had repeat losses and failed attempt and that I wanted to prepare for next attempt.  I told her I wanted to build up my Folic Acid supplies and general health in preparation.

    Turns out she is an IVF success story and has a number of patients in the same situation.  So anywho she put me on a plan and it's pretty simple easy plan so far, just some general guidelines.  I'll reply to this post when I get home with the details if you want. 

    Nothing like eating pineapple cores etc, no wacky supplements. 

    I go back to the dietician in 2 weeks for a follow up and part 2 to the plan.

    Just a thought....

     

     

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  • Oh, no! Sorry you have an unexpected delay. Every single minute of this process seems like eternity; I think we can all relate to that in one way or another. Try to enjoy your summer, drink some extra wine and I hope that you can move forward soon!
     
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