So my mom visited this weekend while DH was out of Town, and I will preface this by saying she is great with DS....however! In a nutshell: she DOES NOT listen to me when it comes to what the baby likes, needs, etc. He is her first grandchild and I know she is very excited about him, but it's like having a hurricane blow through and honestly really drives me nuts!
I feel like I know when LO needs a bottle or nap, but she questions me in everything and will respond with "we'll maybe I'll just put him in his bouncy chair and see if he likes that" or "no, I think he's hungry" when I ask her to give him to me to be put down for a nap. It's frustrating bc I get tired of arguing with her and just let her do what she wants half the time, which just ended up wearing LO out. She tries something new every few minutes - now lets put him innhis bouncy chair! now lets have tummy time! look at this toy! look at that toy! - and I can see him getting overwhelmed.
She also almost dropped DS during one of his squirmy fits because she wasn't holding onto him the way I showed her to do when he throws his head around.
So she's coming back up to babysit next week while I'm at work, and I'm honestly worried about how things are going to go. I know she has raised two children, but I in charge of raising my baby, and I'm concerned that she won't listen to me even if I give her very specific instructions about how I want the day to go as far as naps, feedings, etc.
Anyone have any tips for dealing with this kind of situation? I love my mom and appreciate her help, but I do not want to come home from work to find an over-tired, cranky baby bc she decided to throw my routine out the window. How can I communicate this to her without insulting her?