My daughter is 13 years old and my son is 3 years old (they share a birthday too) so being that they are exactly ten years apart and I was young when I had my daughter, I did not keep all of her baby things. For this reason, I did have a "complete" registry and a small baby shower when I was pregnant with my son.
There will NOT be a shower for this baby. I have started a registry, mostly so I can keep track of what I need, but recently made it "public" since a few people asked what I wanted/needed.
I worked at Gymboree as a store manager when I was pregnant with my son, so I still have BINS of clothing that still has tags on it and have kept all of my sons things. Everything is in fantastic condition, stain free...just perfect. We are a military family, so we move frequently...I have everything very organized. We will be moving this summer and likely moving again next spring (after that we should finally be somewhere for four years..that seems like eternity to me..lol) I really have all of his things.
The only things I need are probably newborn/preemie clothes and newborn diapers.I don't need a lot, but my son was pretty small when he was born (full-term and healthy, but he was 6 11, went down to 6 3 by the time we have left the hospital and since then has consistently been around the 2 percentile. He fit easily in newborn clothes until he was 3 months old. Maybe it won't work this way this time around, but since my daughter was bigger and grew quickly, I never bought a lot of newborn sized clothes for him. I ended up only being able to find some stuff at Target that wore out pretty quickly, especially since he had reflux that meant we were washing clothes often.
As for the diapers, we cloth diaper, but since we had moved from the States to Germany when he was 2.5 months old, movers had come when he was a little over 2 months old and we had visited family for a few weeks before we moved...we waited until we got in a house in Germany to cloth diaper. I don't have any newborn diapers because of this. I also have some covers that are a bit worn out because they have been heavily used and we have hard water that seems to destroy diapers a bit...but I won't need to worry about that until 6ish months plus...and I am not too worried.
The thing is, we move so frequently, I do not want things that I absolutely do not need (mainly toys and clothes) not only does it seem incredibly wasteful, we really do not have the luxury of having even MORE things we do not need. I
Again, I am not going to have a shower and I am not going to put my registry out there for people unless they ask for it. I was going to keep it private, but people kept asking...I just feel rude asking for gifts when this is my third baby and second boy. We do NOT need much.
My concern is that some of our family find registries to be "tacky" anyway. They buy what they want. I am expecting that to happen to some degree, but I really, really, REALLY do not want to have a ton of extra stuff I do not need. I suppose I can always donate anything I do not need, but is that a jerky thing to do? People bought me TONS of clothes for my sons shower and nobody really shopped off the registry anyway (even though they asked for it) Both of my kids were breastfed, never took a bottle, never used a binky...we just don't need much of anything.
I would rather they not get anything than something that is going to make extra work for us in the middle of a lot of transition than be useful. Does that make sense? Is there a way to politely say "I have a TON of DS's things, we really need VERY little" or should I just suck it up and realize that I am going to be getting a lot of things we will never use. I think people want to buy "fun" items, and I get that to a degree...but for the life of me, I cannot think of any "fun" items to put on the registry that are not just going to take up space.
Seriously, I hardly have anything on my "registry" I have less than 50 items on my list and most are repeats...like ___ amount of diaper covers, ___ number of prefolds.