June 2013 Moms

Perineal massages (gulp)

OK, I'll be honest. I hop over to everydayfamily.com as well and for their 33 week checklist, they mentioned trying perineal massages for especially FTMs. I read the instructions and I have to say I'm not sure I can perform one on myself. I'm pretty sure I don't want hubby trying it on me though. Have any of you tried it yet and if you are a STM, did you have success with it and not tearing with your first? And is it really all that uncomfortable? In the article, it says it should sting with the stretching exercises you do. At least the first few times. That doesn't sound like a walk in the park to me, but neither does tearing. Pros/Cons...or is it all bull? 
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Re: Perineal massages (gulp)

  • ehnastoehnasto
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    I'm a FTM as well but have already talked to my doctor about these. I expressed my desire and almost need to not have an episiotomy (sp?). She said doing perineal massages with food grade mineral oil starting at about 33 or 34 weeks would help decrease the chance of being cut and should decrease tearing. She says it helps and does work.

    She did say it won't necessary eliminate all tearing complete but will decrease it and of course if cutting is a medical necessity then that will be done.

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    I'm a FTM as well but have already talked to my doctor about these. I expressed my desire and almost need to not have an episiotomy sp?. She said doing perineal massages with food grade mineral oil starting at about 33 or 34 weeks would help decrease the chance of being cut and should decrease tearing. She says it helps and does work. She did say it won't necessary eliminate all tearing complete but will decrease it and of course if cutting is a medical necessity then that will be done.


    All of this, plus I'll add: you can buy a sex toy called the "dilator", which is helpful for reaching. I got mine on amazon for 20 on my hypnobirthing instructors recommendation. I find it does help with bring able to reach, but my hubby does a better job at the massage. I plan to continue both methods :
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  • It's hard to say about effectiveness. Didn't do it before.  Not planning on it this time. 

    I had a quick labor with DD1 which usually means lots of tearing.  I had a 1st degree tear that only took one stitch. SIL had a 27hr labor, had been doing massage, and had a 2nd degree tear with 3 stitches. 

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  • I'm curious about massages as well but my main problem is that I cannot comfortably reach my vagina at this stage - at least not enough to do an effective massage. And my husband won't even help me shave my legs - there's no way he's lubing up and doing this with/for me.
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    I'm curious about massages as well but my main problem is that I cannot comfortably reach my vagina at this stage - at least not enough to do an effective massage. And my husband won't even help me shave my legs - there's no way he's lubing up and doing this with/for me.

    I can reach it, but not sure if I'll be stretching it in the right place. I feel dumb for even admitting that. 

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    I'm not doing this... My dr Said honestly... If you are going to rip, you will probably rip no matter what. 

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  • There is a lot I'm willing to do to prepare for labor but this is not one of them.
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  • I'm also a FTM but am trying perineal massage.  I found it's easier for me to reach myself if I have one foot propped up.  It does sting a little bit but I started with just a minute or two the first few days and gradually added time to 5ish minutes each day.  My H has helped with it, too.  Just be sure your/your partner's nails are short and without any snags.

    Good luck!!

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  • My doctor recommends it...but I haven't tried it yet. I had a friend (who had this same doc for both of her deliveries) tell me that she (the dr) actually does them on the patient before you deliver if there is enough time. I'm debating on trying it...HAHA, I'm on bed rest for 1-2 weeks, so what the heck else will I have going on?!
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    FTM here. I dont want to tear but I also dont know if I want to do these massages. I was reading about it and saw a diagram and everything but I just dont know if its for me.
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  • I did nothing last time and didn't tear. The midwife was oiling and gently stretching while I pushed so I suppose that probably helped quite a bit.
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  • I'm planning on doing it however I was told not before 37 weeks as it can possibly send you into early labor.

    I can still reach with a little maneuvering. I plan to use organic coconut oil. I hear olive oil is good too
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  • Funny story, when I was in labor with my daughter almost ten years ago, I was 19. The nurse, with no warning, sticks her fingers inside, rolling around, massage, and stretching. Of course I'm like "So, what are you doing?!" She explains she's massaging my perineal so I will be less likely to tear. Which lead to my response of "Oh sweet! Thank you, carry on!" We giggled and after delivery I only needed two tiny sutures. Bless her heart!
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    I plan to use organic coconut oil. I hear olive oil is good too

    Couldn't you just use some PAM? Stick out tongue





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  • I have started doing this.. it's not pleasant. My DH has offered, and I think I will have to take him up on this because I cannot comfortably reach the nether regions anymore.
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    image iggles09:
    I plan to use organic coconut oil. I hear olive oil is good too

    Couldn't you just use some PAM? Stick out tongue



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  • I mentioned this type of massage to DH the other day and he was grossed out and horrified until he learned that it *could* prevent tearing.  Then he was all about it and wanted to start right away, lol.  He's a bit paranoid about me being in pain and/or dying during childbirth and so wants to do anything and everything he can to prevent any type of problem.  

    I just don't know if I can have him do this...it's a little outside of my comfort zone.  Which is stupid considering we made a baby together. 





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  • OK, so it sounds like most of us are just on the fence about even trying it in the first place. I haven't jumped off the fence yet. 
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