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Mil throwing shower at 37 weeks!

My Dh and I have been on Mil for months about deciding when she is going to throw the baby shower. She refused to give us a date and kept telling us that he would let is know well before the shower. She kept saying she wanted to have it closer to due date but when she told us June 9th was her final decision my jaw dropped! I'm due JULY 1ST! Am I the only one who thinks that is entirely too close? Or am I just being paranoid? I feel like my water could break right there in her living room.

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  • You're being paranoid.  Sure, you never know what will happen and yes, the closer you get to your DD, the more the chance there is that 'something' could happen.

    But really... if everything is going fine w/ your pregnancy and you don't have any REAL reason to be concerned, relax.  

    Plus realize too- despite what we see on TV and the movies, only about 15% of women's water breaks!  So even if you DID go into labor right then and there, chances are it won't involve water. 

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    You're being paranoid.  Sure, you never know what will happen and yes, the closer you get to your DD, the more the chance there is that 'something' could happen.

    But really... if everything is going fine w/ your pregnancy and you don't have any REAL reason to be concerned, relax.  

    Plus realize too- despite what we see on TV and the movies, only about 15% of women's water breaks!  So even if you DID go into labor right then and there, chances are it won't involve water. 

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  • I wouldn't worry about it.  Just got with the flow...worst case scenario, you end up delivering early.  Otherwise, suck it up and enjoy the party.  All you have to do is socialize, eat and open gifts:)
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    My shower for DS1 was at 36/37 weeks. Relax. 

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  • I had my shower at 36 weeks and I was perfectly fine. You'll be fine. 
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  • You're being paranoid. I was 36 weeks at my shower, and still had another month of pregnancy to go. And, even if by some freak chance you did go into labor at your shower, the world wouldn't implode, or end. You'd send your husband to go buy a car seat, and the rest can wait until you get home.
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  • Don't stress yourself over the 37 week timeframe.  Obviously you could go into labor but even if she had it at 32 weeks you could go into labor.  I wouldn't even think about it truthfully.  I had 3 showers...and one was at 38 weeks.  My DD was born 1 day (actually 3 hours) early. 

    I agree with the pp that said a lot of MTB's are still working full-time at 37 weeks (and beyond).  I don't know anyone (in my cirlce of friends or family) that worked full-time that took off any earlier then 2 weeks before delivery date.

    Also, as another pp said...it is rare that there is a huge gush of water (when the water breaks).  Not to say it doesn't happen...but not likely.  Don't worry!!

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    You're being paranoid. I was 36 weeks at my shower, and still had another month of pregnancy to go. And, even if by some freak chance you did go into labor at your shower, the world wouldn't implode, or end. You'd send your husband to go buy a car seat, and the rest can wait until you get home.

    This, we even had a just in case plan. My mom said if I did happen to have the baby the day before or the day of then she would just have everyone leave their gifts, and continue the shower without me. Feed all the ladies, laugh and maybe play one of the more fun games planned. She wouldn't have even cancelled it, just rolled with the punches. I loved her even more for saying that. I simply would have had DH takes pics of me opening each gift and send them to the specific gifter. No issues in sight.

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  • 37 weeks is just fine for a shower. You are being paranoid.
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    It'll be fine and isn't worth stressing about. You'll probably enjoy the distraction of friends and family at that point anyway. 
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  • The date your MIL picked is fine.  Yes, there's a chance you could have the baby before then, but it's unlikely.  Enjoy your shower!
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  • I think you're being a tad ridiculous.  37 weeks is well within the normal range for showers.  If you don't have any restriction set by your doctor, I don't see why you shouldn't be able to enjoy it.

    In the end, it's a gift - accept it in the spirit with which it's being offered, or decline and don't have a shower.

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  • Is this your 1st baby? If so, I'm sure you'll be fine...

    I had my shower at 37 weeks for my 1st. I ended up having to be induced at 8 days past my due date. Additionally, my water never broke; my doctor did it in the hospital.

    So, from what I hear, late babies and water not breaking is coming for 1st pregnancies. If all is going well thus far, you'll probably be fine. Relax and just enjoy it.

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  • Only about 8 percent of babies are born by 37 weeks. Neat chart on percentage of babies born by given weeks: http://spacefem.com/pregnant/charts/duedate3.php

    If anything, looking forward to your shower will be a nice distraction during the last few weeks.
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  • I think as long as you don't have to travel far for it you'll most likely be fine.
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  • I don't think you are being paranoid. However, when the baby comes is out of your control, so don't worry. I had my baby a month early 10 days after my shower. This is not something to stress about
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  • My shower is tomorrow and I'm going to be 38 weeks on Monday. I'm a little nervous because I started having inconsistent contractions today, but it doesn't seem like anything is progressing so it's unlikely that I'll have a baby by tomorrow afternoon! The shower has been something to look forward to over the past couple of uncomfortable weeks. You will be fine!
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    I think you're being a tad ridiculous.  37 weeks is well within the normal range for showers.  If you don't have any restriction set by your doctor, I don't see why you shouldn't be able to enjoy it.

    In the end, it's a gift - accept it in the spirit with which it's being offered, or decline and don't have a shower.

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    One of my friends had her son at 35 weeks and her shower was planned for the following weekend. It was no big deal - everyone just ended up bringing over or mailing the gifts they purchased for her. 


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  • I would be someone who's gonna tell you that babies come early.  My first was born 36w6d and I had zero complications/risks.  She just came early.  Now granted, most FTMs don't go early but some do. If the date is set in stone, there is nothing yo can do about it, so try to relax.

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  • My mother threw my shower at 36 weeks. I delivered DS at 38 weeks, but was still completely prepared for his arrival. It only takes a day or two to make returns/purchase things you still need after the shower. 

    Relax and enjoy your shower. 

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    I'm surprised that pretty much everyone is saying 37 weeks is okay for a shower. No matter what, that would have seemed way too close to my due date to me! I am especially glad now that my shower is at 34 weeks because I was recently diagnosed with preeclampsia and told I will not be allowed to go past 37 weeks due to it. If my shower were at 37 weeks, it would have had to be cancelled. Now I know that early induction due to preeclampsia isn't that common, but I've also had friends that delivered at 38 weeks with spontaneous labor. So I am going to go with the unpopular opinion and agree with the OP that 37 weeks is a bit too late, especially if the host's schedule would have allowed her to have the shower a couple of weeks earlier.
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    I'm surprised that pretty much everyone is saying 37 weeks is okay for a shower. No matter what, that would have seemed way too close to my due date to me! I am especially glad now that my shower is at 34 weeks because I was recently diagnosed with preeclampsia and told I will not be allowed to go past 37 weeks due to it. If my shower were at 37 weeks, it would have had to be cancelled. Now I know that early induction due to preeclampsia isn't that common, but I've also had friends that delivered at 38 weeks with spontaneous labor. So I am going to go with the unpopular opinion and agree with the OP that 37 weeks is a bit too late, especially if the host's schedule would have allowed her to have the shower a couple of weeks earlier.

    Considering that you shouldn't rely on your shower guests to supply everything your baby is going to need, I don't see what the problem is.  

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    I'm surprised that pretty much everyone is saying 37 weeks is okay for a shower. No matter what, that would have seemed way too close to my due date to me! I am especially glad now that my shower is at 34 weeks because I was recently diagnosed with preeclampsia and told I will not be allowed to go past 37 weeks due to it. If my shower were at 37 weeks, it would have had to be cancelled. Now I know that early induction due to preeclampsia isn't that common, but I've also had friends that delivered at 38 weeks with spontaneous labor. So I am going to go with the unpopular opinion and agree with the OP that 37 weeks is a bit too late, especially if the host's schedule would have allowed her to have the shower a couple of weeks earlier.

    Considering that you shouldn't rely on your shower guests to supply everything your baby is going to need, I don't see what the problem is. &nbsp;



    I don't know about the OP, but I am certainly NOT relying on my guests to supply everything I need because that is our responsibility. My husband and I already have purchased a bunch of 0 to 3 month clothes, a full set of furniture, some diapers, and some other necessary items, and we have money in savings to buy whatever we still need. Anything we get at our shower would be greatly appreciated but not essential because we can afford to purchase what we absolutely need ourselves. I also wasn't complaining about my shower personally, as mine is at 34 weeks, which I think is early enough. So don't make assumptions that people expect others to provide for them when there is nothing in their original post to indicate so. My whole point was that people often go into labor early, whether due to complications or just because, so I personally think 37 weeks is rather late for a shower. I even acknowledged in my post that I realized this was an unpopular opinion. I also think people forget to consider the fact that it's not just the mother of the baby that would be affected if a shower has to be cancelled due to early labor, but also the hosts of the party. My hosts, for instance, decided to hold the party at an outside venue because that's what was easiest for them, and they would lose their deposit if the shower had to be cancelled, which it would have been if mine were scheduled later like the OP's shower, due to my complications.
  • Could your dh talk with his mom about having the shower a few weeks earlier? If you don't feel comfortable and share that with her maybe she would choose a new date.  What you feel comfortable with his different than others.

    By the way, I just wanted to say I feel your pain!  My mil wanted to do a shower at 39 weeks at 7 pm on a Friday.  She refused to change the date after dh talked to her.  But my doctor was not comfortable with me traveling.  Sadly, we lost the baby at 32 weeks. I am not looking forward to dealing with her rules this time. 


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  • That's plenty of time. Mine was scheduled at 38 weeks and my son was actually born 6 days before the shower. It was totally fine and my baby shower was still a blast. Everyone was thrilled to get to meet him as well.
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    My shower was at 37 weeks too, everything was fine. DD didn't arrive until 40w3d. I didn't even start labor until 12 hours before she was born..
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