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Honestly, mine are pretty much all unexpected
- The crazy PP hormones. I swear they weren't half as bad with my girls.- My child enjoying tummy time as much as he does- The swelling. Something else I didn't experience before- Finding my baby so beautiful. I knew I'd love him unconditionally, but I cannot stop looking at him
Expected- All the unsolicited advice. lol
Unexpected: How hard it'd be to balance loving on both my kids. DS is only 2.5 so he's still a baby in his own right, I just didn't realize it'd be this hard to really feel like I'm giving them both 100%.
Expected: Definitely the comments and advice from anybody and everybody. Also the support from my friends and husband, so lucky to have them I knew they'd be willing to listen to me whine nonstop and so far they all are
Expected AND Unexpected: the HORMONES!!! I had been warned before my son and knew they were coming but they still knocked me on my feet.. and this time around I even warned my husband (he was deployed last time around so he never got to experience PP hormones up close and personal lol) but GOSH they are INTENSE!! I knew they were coming but good Lord they are still kicking my .
I'm a FTM and I didn't have a lot of expectations, but here are some:
how much easier pregnancy was on my body than I thought it would be. I have had back problems for years, but my back wasn't affected much.
How awesome MH is with Kieran, he definitely exceeded my expectations.
expected: how much I love being a mom! And that I was able to handle a med free birth.
Expected: Sleepless nights & fatigue - the rest has really not been what I expected this time around.
Unexpected: This amazingly easy baby I have who breastfeeds great (so much better than DS1) then stays awake with no fussing for a while and naps then it starts over again!
How amazing DS1 is doing with everything. He loves his little brother so much & hasn't gotten jealous... yet.
How DH is handling everything. Honestly, he was much better the first time around so far as being helpful. Now he just comes home from work and lays on the couch. He never wakes up in the night (because "I'm breastfeeding so what's the point"). He has also made comments to me that are somewhat hurtful. I said something about him coming home and spending two hours on the couch (his job is sitting working on computers all day so not laborious) and his reply was "What's the problem, you sit on the couch all day." No DH, I don't. I care for a newborn and a 2 year old at the same time. They have both been bathed, fed, and changed several times today, and there are no dishes on the sink and the apartment is clean. How I did all that from the couch is pretty impressive if you ask me!
Okay, so this turned more into a vent than anything lol I just hope once DS2 becomes more interactive DH will show more of an interest in him.
Pregnancy:I did not expect to be as completely and totally exhausted throughout the ENTIRE pregnancy.
I didn't expect the pelvic pain, especially in the third trimester
I didn't expect to NOT have morning sickness (I'm one of the lucky ones)
I didn't expect to have an easy time managing my weight (I always have been overweight and struggled with my weight -- and I managed to only gain about 25-30 lbs)
Mommyhood /PP:I did not expect to lose all the babyweight + 10 lbs almost immediately and without trying (see above). Figured I'd basically be fat forever.
I did not expect breastfeeding to be as time consuming or frequent as it is!
I didn't expect the nightly scream-a-thon that occurs from about 7-10 PM every evening.
I'm not going to bother listing out the "expected" Because it is all pretty textbook!
Expected: the instant and strong bond, the lack of sleep, the amazing feeling I get from newborn cuddles, some stress.
unexpected: the struggles we have had with nursing. I nursed my first two with really no issues. Sam could not latch and so I am ep'ing. I always said I didn't know how Epers could do it as it seemed like so much work and I always said it was not something I could do. But now at 6 weeks out I understand that I just have to take it day by day.
Mommy to L (6), J (4) and S (March 2013)
Expected: That I would have a baby. That he would sleep in our room. That I would feel anxious. That I would be goofily in love with this little one.
Unexpected: the hormones. The fact that I'd sometimes be scared of my child. The level of anxiety that I feel. The fact that my husband is handling sleep deprivation better than I am. Failure at breast-feeding. Pumping full-time. Having an Emergency C-section. The fact I probably shouldn't have anymore kids.
I expected the sleep deprivation to be a lot harder on me. It is hard but as long as I'm getting two hour naps every few hours, I'm good.
I didn't expect the helpless, guilty feeling of not being able to figure out what he wants or why he's upset sometimes. It makes me feel so bad.
I thought bath time would be fun. Not so much.