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Should I ask for money?

Hi Ladies,

     So I have this acquaintance type person that I guess is a bit more than that as we are sort of forming a friendship (we met through yoga, went walking once and our babies were born on the same day in the same hospital so we visited each other) and now she's asking me to watch her baby as she goes back to work.

I was thinking of maybe watching one or two kids max anyway for some extra cash to pay off student loans, BUT I'm not really excited about having to do it nights and weekends when she works because that's when my husband is actually home and it's nice to be with him etc. 

SO, I think I'm willing to tell her maybe one or two days a week but I don't know how to bring up the subject of money. Does she plan to pay me or expect it to be free? What should I charge? I'm not really close to her and I'm not going to add all that work for free unless it's like 1x month or something. 

What do you think?

(Both our babies are two months)

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Re: Should I ask for money?

  • I personally would decline bc it would be nights. That is the time that I like to have a bedtime routine and then spend some time with my husband.
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  • You should ask how often and them say the price you'd expect to get. I'd she can't work with your price, then say no. In NO way would I watch anyone for free.
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  • image Mrs MoJoRisin:
    I personally would decline bc it would be nights. That is the time that I like to have a bedtime routine and then spend some time with my husband.

     This exactly. My nights and weekends are saved for my family. If you do decide to do it - charge.

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    Charge for sure, you will end up feeling resentful. Just in a nice way say, so I am thinking about babysitting, I need to discuss more with Dh since he will be home at that time. What were you thinking of as far as how much you are wanting to pay, and how often you would want to pay, like weekly, bi-weekly, monthly. Hash out the details, then say you will get back to her. Also if it is too low you can always tell her you would need a bit more, or just say never mind. I would be inclined not to if it were evenings and weekends.

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  • I definitely wouldn't do it nights. Maybe just the weekends because you can still hang with DH... he can take care of your LOs needs too so you don't feel too divided. And for sure charge!
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  • image mkanderson85:
    You should ask how often and them say the price you'd expect to get. I'd she can't work with your price, then say no. In NO way would I watch anyone for free.

    I agree! Also is she on an overnight shift or 3-11? I personally would decline watching her LO nights but if I were in the position I would probably ask for a little more to do nights because that would be messing with my sleep and my LO's nighttime routine!



  • I would say that you need the evenings for family time. I would offer to be an occasional back up.
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  • No way would I watch an infant for free, especially when I have my own infant to worry about. That's crazy. 
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    I think the price depends on how often, the time and where you live.  My friend watches my little once twice a week and no way would I have expected her to do it for free.

    I would say to her, please tell me how many days you were thinking and I will give you a price.  If it is dead silent you know she thought it was a volunteer service.  i am guessing though she expects to pay you.

    I would only say yes because you said you needed the cash.

  • image Anne Mommy:
    I would say that you need the evenings for family time. I would offer to be an occasional back up.

    I think this is what I would do too. And I'd charge. The only way I'd ever watch a baby for free is if it were family or a very close friend. 

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  • Nicb13Nicb13
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    Yes you should.

     

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  • at two months you're going to give up family time for extra money to pay off student loans?  I would never do that.  If you do, definitely charge! 
  • The only time I have ever babysat for someone and did not receive money was with a friend of mine. She had two kids and I had one at the time and we had an agreement that I would watch her two for say 2 hours one time and then when I needed a babysitter, she would watch my 1 for four hours.

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