I had a CS with DD due to fetal distress. I was talking to a family friend the other day. I wanted to see if any of you ladies would find some of her comments rude / insensitive.
Friend: So are you having a VBAC?
Me: Well, it's up in the air. I'm a good candidate for VBAC so if I go into labor naturally and things progress quickly, then I'll try for a VBAC. If I don't go into labor naturally or things stall too much, then it'll be another CS.
Friend: With my first child, I originally wanted a CS because I thought it would be easier. Then I researched it a bit and realized a CS is major surgery and so I decided I didn't want a CS. I went natural. And I'm so glad it worked out that I didn't have a CS. With my second child, I had GD and I was terrified of having a CS due to a big baby. I asked my OB 'Will I need a CS?' and she reassured me that I won't need a CS. Well, my second baby was not big and I had her naturally. I am soooo happy I avoided a CS- I really didn't want one!
When I finished talking to her, I didn't think anything of our conversation at first. Then, I started feeling like a few of her comments (the ones I've bolded) were a bit insensitive. I mean if I was in her shoes, I would never say those things to a person who already had a CS and is potentially facing another one very soon.
So, ladies, what say you? Were those comments rude / insensitive? Or were they innocent personal experiences?