So the subject of my baby shower has come up as I'm about half way through with this pregnancy. My sister along with my aunt and her granddaughter want to throw one. I have no problem with this. My problem comes when my MIL wants to be a part of the planning when a) she doesn't live in the same state; b) she told me not to expect one from her side of the family (which is fine with me); and c) my aunt and 2nd cousin don't know her. She has already dictated that my invitations have to include a note to all of her family (everyone lives out of state) that "we understand you cannot make it but want you to feel included. Also, expect a meet and greet shower with the baby coming soon."
So I have read before that you don't need to include a note to out of state invitees about not being able to attend, it's implied. BUT My husband and I have told her no to a meet and greet shower after the baby is born. We are against it. I don't want a shower after the baby is born after we send that side invitations to our in-town shower. I don't want to pass my newborn around in a different state to people I don't know very well. We have told her no over and over.
Anyway, I just want to vent about it. Maybe I'm being ungrateful.