My husbands parents are divorced and both have been remarried since he was very young so we are close with both sides. I had told his stepmom that I did not want her to throw me a shower because his mom and my mom both were and I didn't think it was necessary. She asked if she could throw us a BBQ once the baby was here as a Diaper Party. She is getting kegs and a bunch of food and asked people to bring a bag of diapers. It sounded like a fun idea when she mentioned it during my pregnancy. Now that my DS is here I am worried about it. I love my step-MIL but she can be very opinionated and I don't really stand up to her. I can totally see her playing pass the baby all day. The party starts at 2 and she told me the other day that there "is a TON of people coming". People I don't even know! My LO is only 6 weeks old and I am worried about germies and an over stimulated baby. So I have 2 questions: 1. What is a polite way throughout the day to make sure my baby is not going from person to person. I can see letting grandparents and maybe aunts and uncles hold him, but my DH has SO many cousins that will be there too and probably asking to hold him. How do I decline politely? 2. Would it be rude to leave by 6pm? There is going to be kegs so I'm sure the party will be going late, but I am trying to keep my LO on a 'bedtime' now and want to be home at a decent hour.
TIA for any advice!!