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Just Stfu!

I recently told me best friend that we are dealing with IF. Well actually she asked me about it.

Today we were talking about it and she decided to tell me that she can't get pregnant either. She's not in a relationship and has never tried to get pregnant. Because she thinks she can't get pregnant she believes she can relate. I flat out told her she couldn't.

Then the topic of treatments came up and she's like don't go through that, it's too much stress on my body and too much pressure to put on a child meaning you pay too much money for a child, therefore your expectations for that kid are too high. If we really want a child then we should adopt. I said stop right there, until your faced with this situation you can't say what you would do. And then she told me about how her cousin tried for years and tried all these weird positions until it finally worked. To that I told her my body literally won't get pregnant thr old fashioned way, doesn't matter what position we tried. If it could I would have a child right now.

I'm proud of myself for having responses and not questioning what I should say because usually I get all awkward. Just thought I would share! The things people say..
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Re: Just Stfu!

  • THIS is why I don't want to tell anyone that we're TTC. Good lord, people are so insensitive. Good on you for sticking up for yourself.
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  • image Meemeelee:
    THIS is why I don't want to tell anyone that we're TTC. Good lord, people are so insensitive. Good on you for sticking up for yourself.

     This. I get too angry when I have to deal with ignorant people.

    Hugs to you. That really must have sucked to have to deal with that from your friend.



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    image Meemeelee:
    THIS is why I don't want to tell anyone that we're TTC. Good lord, people are so insensitive. Good on you for sticking up for yourself.

     This. I get too angry when I have to deal with ignorant people.

    Hugs to you. That really must have sucked to have to deal with that from your friend.



    I have mixed feelings about opening up. I know that I'll have to deal with idiots that think they are qualified to tell me how to get pregnant. But it's nice to not live with a secret. I'm still cautious of who i tell, I dread telling my in laws.
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  • Hahha....I have not head the "weird positions" one yet, but maybe that one is worth a try ***wink, wink***

    All laughing aside, it is awesome that you stood up for yourself and responded to her comments.   Hopefully she will be a more supportive friend in the future and not try and advise you on how to deal with IF. 

  • Good for you for sticking up for yourself!  I know even when people make dumbazz suggestions, they think they are being helpful.  It helps to stop them and sometimes just say

    "I've literally been at this and educating myself for far to long for you to think you know more than I do on the subject.  Trust me when I say, all I need from you is your support - not advice."  

    That really gets them to understand their "advice" isn't helpful.


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  • I am so sorry that happened!! ((HUGS!!))
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  • Sorry this happened but glad you were able to stand up for yourself! 

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  • image katib77:
    Good for you for sticking up for yourself! nbsp;I know even when people make dumbazz suggestions, they think they are being helpful. nbsp;It helps to stop them and sometimes just say "I've literally been at this and educatingnbsp;myselfnbsp;for far to long for you to think you know more than I do on the subject. nbsp;Trust me when I say, all I need from you is your support not advice." nbsp;That really gets them to understand their "advice" isn't helpful.


    I love that response! I'm going to remember that for the next time!
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  • Good for you!
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  • OMG, that sounds awful! I would have had a hard time not losing my cool. I am so sorry you had to deal with that.

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  • image ricecakes1216:
    image sueann911:

    image Meemeelee:
    THIS is why I don't want to tell anyone that we're TTC. Good lord, people are so insensitive. Good on you for sticking up for yourself.

     This. I get too angry when I have to deal with ignorant people.

    Hugs to you. That really must have sucked to have to deal with that from your friend.

    I have mixed feelings about opening up. I know that I'll have to deal with idiots that think they are qualified to tell me how to get pregnant. But it's nice to not live with a secret. I'm still cautious of who i tell, I dread telling my in laws.

    My ILs are exactly who I don't want knowing. But, generally, I am better off keeping it close to my chest. 

    OP, Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I would've either screamed at her for being such an insensitive prat or punched her in the face. She deserved worse, IMO. But good for you for defending your choices, and putting her in her place for saying such hurtful things to you. Hang in there. :)


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  • Ugh, that really stinks.  Just out of curiousity, what  makes her think she can not get pregnant? 

     

    TTC Since 8/2010. Me: 33, irregular cycles, late O.  All testing normal. DH: 32. No 24 hour motility. Dx: Unexplained IF.
    8 cycles of TI = 8 BFNS
    TI before starting treatment= BFP 9/2/11, EDD 5/13/12. 6w U/S = Blighted Ovum. M/C with misoprostal on 10/15/11
    2 100 mg Clomid and 3 5mg Femara cycles = 5 BFNS. Femara + IUI #1 = BFN
    Hybrid Cycle: Femara + Injects (lepori) + Trigger (pregny) + TI = BFN
    24 hour motility test = no motile sperm after 24 hours (all SAs otherwise normal)
    Hysteroscopy to remove uterine polyp 6/12/12. Unmedicated cycle post-surgery = BFN
    Femara + Trigger + IUI #2 = BFN
    Femara + TI = BFP! EDD 5/28/13. HB seen twice. No HB @ 9 weeks. D&C 10/24/12. Trisomy 15
    Break cycle, SHG = all clear.  2 Femara + TI Cycles = 2 BFNS. Femara + IUI #3 = BFN
    IVF #1 w ICSI antagonist protocol. April 2013. 24r 21m 20f. 10 frosties. 5dt one 4AA =BFPEctopic
    2 doses MTX then Lap = tube saved, cleaned up Endo. Surprise natural ovulation after surgery + TI = BFN
    FET #1. July 2013 Transferred one 3AB blast = BFN
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  • image whoberry:
    Ugh, that really stinks.nbsp; Just out of curiousity, whatnbsp; makes her think she can not get pregnant?nbsp;


    She hasn't been on bc and has never been pregnant.
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  • image ricecakes1216:
    image whoberry:
    Ugh, that really stinks.nbsp; Just out of curiousity, whatnbsp; makes her think she can not get pregnant?nbsp;
    She hasn't been on bc and has never been pregnant.

    Wow.  Totally ridiculous! 

     

    TTC Since 8/2010. Me: 33, irregular cycles, late O.  All testing normal. DH: 32. No 24 hour motility. Dx: Unexplained IF.
    8 cycles of TI = 8 BFNS
    TI before starting treatment= BFP 9/2/11, EDD 5/13/12. 6w U/S = Blighted Ovum. M/C with misoprostal on 10/15/11
    2 100 mg Clomid and 3 5mg Femara cycles = 5 BFNS. Femara + IUI #1 = BFN
    Hybrid Cycle: Femara + Injects (lepori) + Trigger (pregny) + TI = BFN
    24 hour motility test = no motile sperm after 24 hours (all SAs otherwise normal)
    Hysteroscopy to remove uterine polyp 6/12/12. Unmedicated cycle post-surgery = BFN
    Femara + Trigger + IUI #2 = BFN
    Femara + TI = BFP! EDD 5/28/13. HB seen twice. No HB @ 9 weeks. D&C 10/24/12. Trisomy 15
    Break cycle, SHG = all clear.  2 Femara + TI Cycles = 2 BFNS. Femara + IUI #3 = BFN
    IVF #1 w ICSI antagonist protocol. April 2013. 24r 21m 20f. 10 frosties. 5dt one 4AA =BFPEctopic
    2 doses MTX then Lap = tube saved, cleaned up Endo. Surprise natural ovulation after surgery + TI = BFN
    FET #1. July 2013 Transferred one 3AB blast = BFN
    FET #2- One transferred 9/20/13. Beta #1 10dp5dt = 233 BFP resulting in a baby boy born June 2014.
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