February 2013 Moms

Dirty looks/assumptions

I was 13 when my sister Anna was born. There are 4 other children between us (though one passed away). Occasionally though, my mom would take just Anna and I out. 9 times out of 10 people assumed that she was my daughter. (I wrote about that experience here: http://offbeatfamilies.com/2011/09/big-family-helps-with-motherhood/comment-page-2 )

Even now, at 24, people give me this look like they are sorry for me if I go out without my husband. I look younger than I am (which I'm sure I'll be thankful for some day). I always get this look that says "oh... teen mom. How sad."

I went to the mall with my sisters this weekend and I needed to try on some clothes. I had my sister Anna (who is 11 now) and my sister Mary  (13) with me. Mary was wearing DD while I pushed DS in the stroller. THE LOOKS PEOPLE WERE GIVING MARY!!! Holy crap. I felt sorry for her because I remember getting them. Then you would see them look at me as if I was her mother and it was somehow my fault because teen mom begets teen mom... 

*sigh* if only they knew.... 

 

 



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Re: Dirty looks/assumptions

  • That stinks! Isn't it terrible that we live in a society where the first thought is always teen mom rather than babysitter or even a mother's helper? I was both as a young teen and I don't remember getting looks but I might have just been oblivious, too.
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  • I hate when people are so judgemental.My dad and I go out together a lot. You can feel people judging us, like I am a homewrecker and stole him from his age appropriate wife. He finds it amusing and never corrects people when they assume that he is the
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    Bah I have the opposite problem. I look really young too and was out with my mom and DS for lunch and people thought she was DS's mother.

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    Bah I have the opposite problem. I look really young too and was out with my mom and DS for lunch and people
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  • I also look a lot younger than I am. I'm 24 and could easily pass for a high school student. Last year I was buying maternity clothes around the start of school with my mom. The elderly lady at the desk asked what grade I was going into, or if I was out o
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  • First of all I wish I looked young enough to pass as a teenager!  I stopped getting the "you look so young" comments the day I turned 30.  Second--when I thought I was pregnant with DD I went to CVS to buy a test.  I didn't have my rings on
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    First of all I wish I looked young enough to pass as a teenager!  I stopped getting the "you look so you
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  • As I am 20, only halfway through college, and had a very unplanned pregnancy, I can't stand dirty looks. I knew when I made the decision to DTD with my fiance, even with protection, that getting pregnant was a consequence. I feel that we provide for our d
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    As I am 20, only halfway through college, and had a very unplanned pregnancy, I can't stand dirty looks. I knew when I
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    As I am 20, only halfway through college, and had a very unplanned pregnancy, I can't stand dirty looks. I knew when I
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    As I am 20, only halfway through college, and had a very unplanned pregnancy, I can't stand dirty looks. I knew when I
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