Trying to Get Pregnant

Can we chat?

None of my friends want children, so I can't really talk to them. My Mom doesn't think we are having a difficult time, which could be right. But won't even acknowledge that I'm having a hard time with this all.

We are on our 8th month of trying. I have told my friends and family every damn time that I'm always hopeful every month. That I don't get a little depressed until AF shows. Yet not a day goes by where I'm constantly told to "Relax!" "Stop stressing!" These responses usually comes into play after they badger me and ask "You pregnant yet?" "What's taking so long?".

Today, My Mom told me to stop stressing, when I'm not. I finally snapped and told her to do me a favor and read all those articles about What Not To Say To Couples Trying To Get Pregnant, because she constantly says them all! After that, my friend told me I'm a slave to my ovulation. I politely told her that that was the wrong thing to say. Some people are lucky and get pregnant having sex 6 days before ovulation, but I'm not one of the lucky ones.

Do any of you deal with this? I just wish I had someone close to talk to. I at least thought, my Mom would be understanding. Maybe it's because my family is filled with fertile myrtles, and they don't know what to say. But it still sucks! 

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  • Well, your mom is right in regards to you're not having problems. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, since even with perfect timing you've only got a 20% shot each month. 

    It is frustrating when people just spout off "relax

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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this. I would get very frustrated too. This is precisely the reason why I haven't told anyone that we are trying...because I wouldn't do well hearing people say things like that month after month.
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  • This is why I haven't told anyone we are ttc. It would have been an even longer year if I had people commenting constantly!

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  • I would stop telling people about TTC. By telling them, you're opening yourself up to opinions and comments.

    8 months isn't trouble TTC. It can take up to a year for a healthy couple. Are you charting, using opks?

    If not then yo



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    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I would get very frustrated too. This is precisely the reason why I haven't
  • I know 8 months isn't a sign of infertility yet, but it's still hard. Believe me, I chart and and take OPKs. 

    I told my mom about us TTC, thinking she could be a help. My friends didn't know at first. But after a year of marriage, I kept get

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  • Your mom is correct in that you are still well within the normal time frame of TTC, but it can be frustrating to have people telling you to "just relax." It might make things easier to stop sharing TTC details with yo

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    DH and I haven't told anyone we are TTC#2 and yet everyday someone asks me if we are going to have more kids, give DS a sibling, etc etc.  It is REALLY annoying.  It's not meant to be stressful or mean - but when you are TTC it is.  I ju

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  • DH and I have chosen to tell a few close friends and family members. I choose to tell my parents in particular because we were getting the hard press to start a family. (we have been

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