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Planning birthdate??

Hi,
I'm new to this TTC community. My question is should my husband and I 'go with the flow' to see how baby making goes or is planning the baby's birthdate too much???
Everyone I talk to says it never works out the way you plan..hehe.
What are all your thoughts??

Thanks
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Re: Planning birthdate??

  • I think about that, too. I keep doing the counting thing in my head where I say, "If we get preggo during X month, the baby would come during Y month, and that'd work out great." Ha! I'm thinking maybe setting a range would be better. So, I've tentatively
  • You can't plan it. You can try, but that doesn't mean it will happen. We were trying for a late spring/early summer baby and I'm due at the beginning of Sept.
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  • It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive if there are no problems. So I vote no. Don't "plan". Start TTC when you are ready. It will either happen at a date you like or won't, but trust me. Regardless of when it happens, when that baby is in
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  • We've been very lucky and have been able to have our babies when we were hoping to do so. I have about a 3 or 4 month window that is really ideal for me.  If we don't conceive in that time, we'll reconsider waiting another year to try. 

  • Thank you for your insight. My husband and I are ready and excited about trying. Just this month we had a "chemical pregnancy". After talking about that situation we are eager to try but think we will wait a couple months for the ideal window.
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  • We do the same thing regarding the counting. We are also thinking of beginning our journey in June that will result in a March birthdate.
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    It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive if there are no problems. So I vote no. Don't "plan". Start TTC
  • I planned on having a baby in May 2012.

    ::Looks at siggy::

    Yeah that didn't turn out like I planned.

    In all seriousness OP, you can try to "plan" when your baby is born, but don't get upset if it doesn't work out the way you plan

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    October 2012: Clomid + IUI w/ OB/GYN = BFN

    November 2012 - March 2013: Break while finding the right RE and more testing

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  • Very true statements. Nothing is certain and nothing can truly be planned.
    I know my husband and I will be happy with whatever we are given. Even if we try now it may not happen till June. Or if we try in June it may happen on the first shot or many
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    AngelSmitty: This reminds me of something my college Human Sexuality professor used to say in class.  "Sex is between the legs.  Gender is between the ears."
  • You may get lucky, sure, but I wouldn't put too much stock into it. Like PP said, they may be minor inconveniences, but they aren't actually problems.

  • We just wanted a baby. I would have loved to have had a baby in October (a super tiny baby for Halloween was my dream), and to my happy surprise, I got an October baby! The time, I have been wanting a November baby, and it's not going to happen. I think I
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  • We planned ds's birth. I am a teacher so we wanted to maximize my maternity leave time so we planned for a spring/early summer birth. It took 3 months to get pregnant and had him in May. I was very happy with the timing but I would have taken my baby at a
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  • In a perfect world, that would be cool! However, I dont think it usually works out that good. DH and I would be happy no matter what month it is, if we get our baby. You could try at first, but may end up not caring. And just want to get a BFP.

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  • I planned for a Christmas baby. DS was due. Dec 2 and came Nov 18 my grandfather's 100th birthday!!! Mostly because the end of Q4 and all of Q1 were the best times to be out at my job.

    You can try but just know that you cannot always contr
  • We have been TTC for 4 cycles and it can take over a year for couples where both people are healthy to conceive. Better to just start trying and take it as it comes. GL!
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  • I swore up and down I never wanted to be "very" pregnant in the summer. Well I was ALL DARN SUMMER in the 100 degree heat. I survived but you dont always get everything, at least I got a sweet baby


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  • As PPs said, DH and I are trying more for a "window" so that we will ideally have a baby between February and June of 2014. I personally don't want to be super pregnant in the summer, so that's why we've waited to try until next month. But then again, i
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  • There's no real answer.  I wanted a spring baby.  It took me almost a year to get pregnant and I ended up with a late summer baby.

    My SIL wanted one child in May and one in July.  That's what she got.

    I personally go with the

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  • I'm a lurker, but I wanted to comment.  I don't think you should focus on a specific month, but you could focus on a time of year, but be prepared to just let it happen if timing doesn't work.  I would also start about a month earlier then your
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  • banville, believe whatever you want but you've obviously completely missed the point

     

    Dont say this *** to other people.  

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    banville, believe whatever you want but you've obviously completely missed the point

     

    Dont say th

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    TTC #1 since August 2011

    My Blog

    September 2012: Start IF testing

    DH (31): SA is ok, slightly low morph  Me (31): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, and border line high NK cells

    October 2012: Clomid + IUI w/ OB/GYN = BFN

    November 2012 - March 2013: Break while finding the right RE and more testing

    April 2013: Unmedicated IUI #2 due to hostile CM = BFN

    May 2013: Clomid + Trigger + IUI #3 = BFN

    June 2013: Clomid + Trigger + IUI #4 = BFN

    August 2013: IVF w/ICSI #1 6R 5M 3F All 3 embryos are slow growing and poor quality.  All 3 arrest before transfer

    October 2013: IVF w/ICSI #2 8R 7M 5F Transferred 1 beautiful early blast.  Nothing to freeze.  BFP! Beta #1 14.6  Beta #2  3  Chemical Pregnancy

    January 2014: IVFw/ICSI #3  8R 8M 8F Transferred 1 grade 1 expanded blast and 1 grade 2 early blast.  Nothing to Freeze.  BFN

    February-March 2014: Getting Second Opinions from RMA NJ

    March 2014: Start Embryo Adoption/Donation with FIRM.  We've selected our donor and have 9 snowflakes!

    May 2014: FET w/ donor embryos- Transferred 2 blasts and 1 morula, nothing to re-freeze.  BFN

    June-August 2014: On a treatment break until our appt. w/ Dr. KK August 14th


    PAIF/SAIF Welcome!

  • Dont stress yourself out with trying to pick the birthdate or birthmonth, you might get really lucky but not likely.  Once you get pregnant you will be so happy you are you won't care about the birthdate.   
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