But one of my very best friends recently found out she was pregnant.
It was a mirror situation to me last year. I had broken up with the father a month before & he was no where to be found. She didn't want to be pregnant (neither did I). She said she didn't believe in abortions & couldn't imagine killing her baby (neither could I). She wasn't sure what she was going to do with her life, because she needed to finish school and get her sh*t together before she had a child. Also adopting would be too difficult if she carried the baby for 10 months...
So what does she do.. She breaks down- quit her job, laid in bed crying all day mad at herself and feeling sorry for herself... Her mom made her an appointment at planned parenthood just 'to see' how much it'd cost and how far along she was etc... Well she went and she had an abortion..
I really don't want to be judgmental. I know we all walk different paths for reasons.. She had called me crying when we found out & I told her it'd be great, having a child is awesome even though its difficult. We talked about moving in together and helping each other raise the babies. "heterosexual life mates" ha. I know either choice- adoption, parenting, or abortion can be a hard choice you have to live with the rest of your life. I get it..
But I'm hurt and sad that she went and had an abortion.. I'm upset because I could have but didn't.. I'm upset that she might have negative affects from what she did, both physically and mentally... I'm sad for the baby that is now gone..
Any words of advice for how to deal with her.. ? I told her I'd support her whatever decision, and I do, it just makes me sad.
She's planning on coming to visit for a few weeks & now I have this unrealistic thought of "what if she hurts my baby or mistreats him somehow"
Idk Thanks for listening :)