TTC after 35

why I probably shouldn't even lurk elsewhere...

I just popped over to check the PG 35+ board to see if any of the ladies I know had any updates, and I saw a post that broke my heart. I know it is bad form to talk about posters on other boards, and that is not my intent.  This is totally about me and my sadness over my own infertility and the infertility, miscarriage, and loss of other women here.

The poster is pregnant with her fourth child -- an unwanted pregnancy after her husband's vasectomy.  I figure my emotional response to this post (I keep tearing up thinking about it) is just another sign I should back away from the bump and stick to the monthly check-in. 

Uggh...


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TTC since Jan 2011,

5 IUIs from January to October 2012 = all BFN

IVF #1, ER scheduled for mid-December

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Re: why I probably shouldn't even lurk elsewhere...

  • **Hugs** ..I saw the post.  I cried.

    There is absolutely NOTHING fair about IF.. NOTHING.

    Heartbreaking...

    Me = 39 DH = 50 TTC (since 01/2009 after a short break, I stopped counting *cycles* in 2010)
    DX 2010 : Unknown Infertility , AMA
    HSG 2005 = Normal / HSG 2010 = Normal
    SA 2005 = Normal / SA 2010 /2012 = Slightly low count : motility, morphology GREAT!
    Chromosomal analysis, MTHFR, ANA's, Lupus, Protein C, Protein S, APCR = Normal 2011

    M/C : 2005 (7wk), 2010 (6wk), 2011 (7wk)

    8 IUI's 2010-2011 all BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist 01/2012 #1 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI antagonist long 06/2012 #2 = BFN

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF New Clinic/New RE 11/2012 #3 = One beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    IVF/ICSI/CGH MDLF 02/2013 #4 = One more beautiful boy blasty frozen PGS normal

    FET 6/20 : One 5AA PGS normal transferred Beta 1 6/28 = 53.9 / Beta 2 7/1 = 220 / Beta 3 7/3 = 550!

    1 U/S  6w3d - Heartbeat 119 /  2 U/S - 7w5d- Heartbeat 169 / 3 U/S (OB) 8w5d - Heartbeat still great!

    SAIF / PAIF always welcome ****

     

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  • Sending ((((hugs)))) your way.....that is very emotional. I am sorry that you are going through this.....  I, so understand not having any children of my own, being 43 and have been trying for almost 6 years..... and when some women post abou

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  • That's exactly why I steer clear from my cousin right now.  She and I were days apart in our due dates, both pregnant with boys.  I lost my baby at 18 weeks in February and my heart aches every day.  She was upset that she got pregnant a

  • ** TICKER WARNING **

    I saw that post and cried when I thought of all the ladies who would and have given everything for just a chance at a child. IF sucks.

    ? TTC#1 since 2/10 ?

    DX: Me - Slight androgen PCOS Him: Mild MFI Official DX: Unexplained IF

    2/11 - 8/11 - 6 cycles Femara (5mg) + TI = BFNs

    2/12 - 5/12 - Femara(5mg) + IUI = BFNs

    6/12 and 8/12 - Femara (7.5mg) + IUI = BFN :( - considered IUI#3 and 4 by RE

    9/12 and 12/12 - Femara (7.5mg for 3 days) + Ovidrel + IUI = BFN

    After 8 unsuccessful IUIs and no explanation for IF, moving on to IVF Feb. 2013.

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    ** TICKER WARNING **

    I saw that post and cried when I thought of all the ladies who would and have g

  • I'm sorry. 

    I tell myself: Everyone is going through their own hard time. The grass isn't always greener. I'm blessed to have my health and a partner I love and a great life.  

    But sometimes, I'm confused, and angry

    AMA & SAIF. TTC #1 since Oct. 2010. DX: Unexplained. BFP on break after 32 months trying and 2 med cycles. Baby girl born at 40w0d!

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    Yep, that was a hard read.   Hugs all around!
    Me-41, Hubby-40.
    1st BFP-8/17/12!  Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US.  D&C.
    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
    August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
    4th BFP - 8/13/13!   It's a boy!   EDD: 5/20/14
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    Me:37 DH:40 Married 7/2009 TTC since 5/2012 
    BFP 4/2013, Our Christmas Miracle Due 12/18/2013
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    I know Owlprof, I saw that post this morning and had to click off the board. And I was kind of surprised that the responses were so understanding.  I may reply to her but I haven't decided yet. I don't want to get all ril

    TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.



  • Big ((((hugs))) Owl  I have a friend at work that is very open that her 6yo daughter "was a mistake."  The comments suck, and IF just adds insult to injury.  I know that when my 20yo left for Disney last year someone at work joked that "If
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
  • Phew...you ladies reassure me that I'm not losing my mind.  I also was surprised at the responses. Hugs to everyone!  


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    TTC since Jan 2011,

    5 IUIs from January to October 2012 = all BFN

    IVF #1, ER scheduled for mid-December

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    ** TICKER WARNING **

    I saw that post and cried when I thought of all the ladies who would and have g

    TTC since Dec. 2010. Me: 37, DH: 38...unexplained RPL
    BFP #1 - missed m/c 4.18.11 found @8w3d, d&c @13w 
    BFP #2 blighted ovum found 8.2011 @8w, misoprostol
    BFP#3 - missed m/c 6.11.12 @ 9w3d, d&c revealed extra chromosome 15
    BFP#4 8.10.12, DD born 4/26/13
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     Ok so I haven't checked out this post yet...but ya know I'm going to after I write this. I'm sorry that it got to you Owl. I know how awful it is to read that stuff. It reminds me of a woman I know who has been blessed with 2 boys. A

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  • I saw that this morning. Big hugs Owl. I'm also surprised about the responses but who wants to start drama which I'm sure it could of been nasty. I guess she might not know that some pp on that board have had fertility problems.

    Take care O

    ME:45 MH:43 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14) Hoping for an April transfer. No more setbacks please!!

     

     

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  • Someone just spoke up.

    ME:45 MH:43 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14) Hoping for an April transfer. No more setbacks please!!

     

     

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  • I saw that post yesterday and was angry too, I wanted to post "I WILL ADOPT YOUR UNWANTED BABY!"

    I can appreciate the shock of not expecting another one, my GF had a similiar issue, the day her DH scheudled his vasectomy she found out she was ku,

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    Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
    3 cycles clomid with Ob,
    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
    clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

    February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing. 

     

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