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FET cancelled.

Today I went in for blood work and ultrasound. Assuming everything was fine, my FET was tentatively scheduled for next Wednesday. The RE who did my ultrasound this morning said things looked "perfect," but when my RE called with the blood results, she said my progesterone was high enough to indicate that I ovulated through my meds. The cycle is cancelled. We have to start over.

I knew there was a slight possibility of this happening. I was just on estrogen pills, and some REs also use Lupron for FET cycles because it suppresses your system more. My RE told me that women only ovulate through the estrogen 2 percent of the time, so they don't like to put them on Lupron when it probably isn't necessary. I feel like if there is a way to fall on the bad side of good odds, my body will find a way to do it. Obviously, I will be taking Lupron this time around. I start it Wednesday, then start estrogen again when I get my period, then proceed from there. Our transfer will now be in about 5 weeks.

I did not handle this news well. I totally lost it in front of my boss and coworker. 20 months of trying to get pregnant and counting, 9 failed IUIs, lots of hormones, 1 miscarriage, and I have never cried at work until today. The worst part is that this is the first cycle I felt really positive about. I'm a pessimist by nature, but I'm on Prozac and I've been doing guided meditations and have been feeling confident and optimistic. Now I feel like negativity was a better way to go. At least it seemed less disappointing when I expected the worst.

In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal. It is a one month delay. We still have 5 frosties. I'm still under 35. But I am tired of waiting, and I am tired of disappointment, and tired of things going wrong. I am exhausted.

Thanks for letting me vent.
Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*

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Re: FET cancelled.

  • I'm so so so sorry to hear this.

    It may "only" be one month but that doesn't mean it doesn't really suck. This process is so exhausting and nerve wracking on its own and then things like this happen.

    I'm sending you lots of sup
    ****loss discussed*****

    We're queer. I'm 33 and don't have any fallopian tubes left. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.

    Our TTC and Infertility history:
    with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.

    with me: blocked tube dx'd via HSG in December 2012; polyps dx'd via sonohysterogram in 12/2012 and removed via hysteroscopy in 1/2013; hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in 5/2013 via transvaginal ultrasound. Laparoscopy performed 6/2013 to deal with hydrosalpinx--dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy during surgery. Repeat hysteroscopy 10/2013 with two polyps removed.

    Our IVFs:
    IVF November/December 2013:
    Cancelled IVF due to poor response

    IVF January/February 2014
    BCPs and lupron overlap
    Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
    2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
    HPT BFP on 2/13 evening (6dp3dt); Beta 1 (2/18 at 11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (2/20 at 13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (2/22 at 15dp3dt):  348; Beta 4 (2/26 at 19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (2/28 at 21dp3dt): 4255
    1st ultrasound (3/6  6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm. 9 week ultrasound (3/26): We saw both move! Twin A measuring 8w6d with a heartbeat of 182 and Twin B measuring 8w5d with a heartbeat of 180.
    ***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***


  • This totally sucks. I can relate because I had an IVF cycle cancelled the day before the fresh transfer because all of the embryos arrested the day before. I am so sorry. I can relate to feeling tired of being disappointing. This stuff really takes a lot
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  • I was thinking of you so much today! I know this is such a disappoinment, and having to wait for your period to start over is hellish. You are in my thoughts.
    M&K met 8/2002 married 6/2012
    TTC with RE since March 2012
    3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
    (2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
    Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
    EDD 11/28/13
  • Boo. This sucks and I'm so sorry. My heart sank when I read the title of your post. I'm thinking good thoughts for next month, but I'm sorry you have to wait. :
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


  • I'm so sorry to hear that things fell through for this month.  You have been doing an awesome job to keep your chin up and it isn't surprising that this got you--you're worn down with the "keeping on" effort.  

    We're thinking of you and

    36, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (11) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.

    5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered.  All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd.  4 fertilized.   Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853.  Yay!

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    Booo. I'm sorry. My FET was delayed a month too and I cried. More tears of release and frustration than anger. I'll say the same thing my mother said to me---"we are super grateful the doctor's catch these things so that they optimize your chances of p

  • Thanks everyone.  Feeling a bit better today but still just pissed it's been one thing after another.  Nothing we can do now, though.
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
    *Everyone welcome*

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  • Ugh! I hated seeing this post - and wanted to send you my thoughts today even though it's a few days late. I'm so sorry this happened and I know all this will be worth it.

    DP and I have been together since 1/2007 and had a wedding ceremony 5/11

    IUIs - natural cycle, one cancelled, 2 w/50mg Clomid

    IUI #4 - 5mg Femera, ovidril Jan 2012 BFP!!! Beta 13DPO= 41, 15DPO = 123; 1st u/s at 6w4d HB 132!; 2nd u/s 8w4d HB 179

    EDD 9.26.13

  • That is so disappointing. I'm so sorry about this cycle. You are right that you still have a lot of positive things going for you! I know this process is so hard, emotionally and physically. Remember to take care of yourself.
    IUI #1 (50 mg clomid and ovidrel) - BFN
    IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
    IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
    IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
    FET #1 - BFFN
    FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
    FET #3 - No shock...BFN
    FET #4 - BFN :-(
    Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
    7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!! BabyFruit Ticker
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