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How does your SO feel about being OAD?

Just curious how other people's SOs feel about being one and done?

My H wants another kid. Not as much as he did but he still really would like another and I think he always has his fingers crossed I'm going to change my mind. 

And I sort of have my fingers crossed that he's going to get over his need for a second. 

I really don't want him to regret only having one, I want him to be happy with that decision. But you can't make someone feel how you want them to. 

So what's your SO/FI/DH's stance?

Re: How does your SO feel about being OAD?

  • My H wasn't overly enthused on having kids to begin with.  He would have been fine with none.  Since I wanted a child/children he was on board, but we wouldn't have had any if not for my desire.  

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  • My DH is completely sold on 1&D.  He made the statement not long after DS was born and has stuck with it. 

    I know that DH would be completely overwhelmed by adding a second child, so I'm content with the decision too. 

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  • He would have been fine with us not having any, but now that she's here he wouldn't want it any other way. And he definitely doesn't want more than 1.
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    My DH is completely sold on 1&D.  He made the statement not long after DS was born and has stuck with it.

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  • He's actually in a better place with it than I am.  Sometimes he gets a little sad that we won't have another, but the majority of the time he's perfectly satisfied with one, and feels grateful that we have one since things could've turned out differ
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  • He's 100% one and done. I think he would hae been fine with no kids but 1 was his max. He has never wavered when I ask about a second. 

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  • He's less sold on it than I am. Mostly because he hated being an only child. But he's also a SAHD (always wanted to be one) and has decided it's a lot harder than he originally assumed it would be.

    I would have been fine even with zero and he'd w

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  • DH wanted two children, especially after finding out we were having a girl (he was convinced we'd have a boy). But after all the issues I had towards the end of my pregnancy, DD arriving 8 weeks early and her delivery being terrifying rather than exciting
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  • My H wants another. He is not on board at all. It's a pretty big issue in our house.
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  • He's 100% on the same page as I am.
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  • He was ready to be OAD before I was. We came from different places. I didn't think we could afford a second. He doesn't think he has the energy for a second. We came to understand each other's point of view, though, and he's all about getting sn
  • He's 100% on the same page as I am :)
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    My H wants another. He is not on board at all. It's a pretty big issue in our house.

    Sigh.

  • DH hopped on the OAD bandwagon early in my pregnancy! We had always talked about maybe having two but once I was actually pregnant we weighed all of the pros and cons and he had made up his mind more quickly than I did. I held the "never say never" stance
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  • My husband doesn't go to the doctor unless he's bleeding out the eyes. Tomorrow he's going to get a vasectomy that he researched and scheduled himself. In other words, he's definitely on board!

    In all seriousness, OAD was always our plan so it wa

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  • My DH is more sure about the OAD choice than I am (although I'm pretty solid on it too).

    He's always said only one, and now that we have our DD he is even more sure.  She absolutely completes our little family! <img src="http://communit

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  • My H is totally cool with it. When we were first toying with the idea he said if we're going to have another we should just hurry up and do it. My thought was that we'd have to wait like 4 years. He understands that I simply can not take care of another c

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  • My husband would have been happy with none, but I really wanted one, so that was our compromise and I am happy with it and so is he. 

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  • I think my DH was more on board with just one quicker than I was. LOL  And he is great with kids--his sister has 2 and his brother has 4.
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    Fight. Usually when those "well-intentioned" people insist we need another or ask when we are giving B a sibling. </

  • My DH was pretty hesitant to have one at all - not because he didn't want any, but because he's a self-admitted selfish man-child (I kinda have two children when you count him). 

    He loves her to death and is perfectly content to have

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  • After everything we went through with DD, he's very much relieved that she will probably be the only one, but he is open to the possibility of adopting another child in the future.
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  • DH is older than me, and we always agreed we'd be done having kids by the time he was 40.

    It took us over 2.5 years to conceive DD, and he turned 39 two weeks after she was born. I didn't want to TTC immediately after she was born (and given ou

     
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  • We're both torn. He's the oldest of 3 and is total BFFs with his siblings. They are really very cool, and I love watching them together. I love the idea of DS having that close relationship with a sibling someday...however, I know that's not guaranteed

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  • My husband was really onboard until he was holding my friend's newborn son.  I think it really hit him that we will not be having anymore children (he had a vasectomy done over 8 months ago). 
  • DH is the one who is more adamant about only having one. I could be convinced for two but he's holding strong.

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    DH is older than me, and we always agreed we'd be done having kids by the time he was 40.

    It took us ove

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