November 2012 Moms

FTM Q: Letting little one spend the night

This could be a STM+ Q too.

 At what age do you think you will let your LO spend the night somewhere? This would be out of the blue (not because you were going somewhere and had to).

I only ask because MIL keeps bugging me to let Audrey and I am just not ready. Plus, they live 10m away, we see them frequently, they can come over whenever and DH and I arent going anywhere overnight.

She has asked/hinted probably 10x now.

BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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Re: FTM Q: Letting little one spend the night

  • This may be a far out idea.. But, I was just thinking that I don't care to be away from B overnight until she can talk.
    Not sure how realistic this will end up being. But it sounded like a good idea to me.
    My MIL is a nut, and they used to b

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  • I didn't leave my oldest until she was 9 months old. We just never needed to. I wanted to wait until she was STTN, but BFing was a big part too. I still had to get up and pump, so why not just feed the baby? I also needed to feel comfortable that whoever
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  • image Luckylove23:
    This may be a far out idea.. But, I was just thinking that I don't care to be away from B overnight until she can

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

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    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • I think Q was 6 or so months before he spent the night with the IL's. We left Q with my mom for a few days when he was 6wks but only because FI and I had to go to a Frog Show on Staten Island(we are in MA) so we were gone for the weekend. I cried half

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  • My MIL insisted I needed to get out of the house like 9 days pp. Uhh..... No! I don't plan on letting him go anywhere over night for at least the first year. He is EBF and I rather feed him on demand anyway. The way I parent and the way she parented are d
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  • This is a timely post. We are going to a wedding tomorrow night and my MIL is watching H. On Saturday, we are going out of town for the day on Saturday with her and FIL.

    MIL wants me to leave H overnight, says it would be easier. I say no way. I

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  • There must be a secret MIL club where they all decide to pressure us to leave LO overnight at the same time because mine is doing it too! I just don't feel comfortable and the few times she and FIL have had him for a few hours lead to an awful night for u
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  • I left LO at my MIL when she was a month old. My DH and I love it so much, to have one night just for the two of us. It gave us the opportunity to reconnect. We didn't do anything. Just had a quiet dinner at home and in bed by 8pm! So we decided to do thi
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  • We're leaving G at MILs Saturday night for the first time. It's a trial run to prepare for my BILs wedding when I'll have to leave her with my gf for the night. I know I'll be a wreck this weekend but I'd rather get this over with now so I can enjoy mysel
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    I left LO at my MIL when she was a month old. My DH and I love it so much, to have one night just for the two of us. It g
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  • Hmmm, several reasons I lean towards NEVER for both MY parents and DH's parents. 

    1. Both MIL and my Stepmom smoke.

    2. My dad is 80+ and step mom is 75. They are both nearly deaf and blind as bats.

    3. MIL and FIL are glued to t

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  • FIL is the one always bugging me about it. I think MIL knows I wouldn't be okay with it. Plus she's the one that would be up with Hallie during the night. FIL would sleep through it.
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  • The first and only time we have left Auden was when I had Elias.  And MIL stayed at our house as to not upset his routine too much.  Maybe when he is older and can say I want to spend the night at CiCi's but until then he we have no reason.&n

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  • When baby H is 6 months we will be leaving him with IL's while at a wedding. We have a wedding a few weeks before that that I bet DH might suggest doing the overnight with the grandparents again, but I don't think I'd want to do twice so close together.
  • I think DD was over a year before she spend the night somewhere else.  The instance never arose and I didn't offer her to stay anywhere. 

    I think if you're not ready then that should be that. Your MIL needs to just deal with it. 

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  • image QuintonsMummah:

    I think Q was 6 or so months before he spent the night with the IL's. We left Q with my mom for a few days

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • image kiraliz2:

    This is a timely post. We are going to a wedding tomorrow night and my MIL is watching H. On Saturday, we are goi

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

    BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!

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  • image vborja25:
    I left LO at my MIL when she was a month old. My DH and I love it so much, to have one night just for the two of us.

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

    BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!

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  • Thank you. It is nice to know I am not crazy overprotective.

    I applaude you ladies who are/will be doing this. I know I will someday and I will probably enjoy it and wish we did it sooner <img src="http://community.thebump.com/cs/emoticons/emot

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    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • P is spending the night with my parents tomorrow night.
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    P is spending the night with my parents tomorrow night.

    That is cool! Do you have some

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • I don't know the answer, but I know I'm definitely not ready to leave LO overnight.  And probably won't be anytime soon.  If it doesn't feel right and you're not ready, don't give in.  She's your daughter and in the end you know what's best
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    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

    BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!

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  • image Sprite2012:
    I don't know the answer, but I know I'm definitely not ready to leave LO overnight.  And probably won't be an

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

    BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!

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  • I didn't realize I was such a minority here! :)

    We are super close with our parents (emotionally and physically... they both live within 15 minutes of us). In fact, each set of grandparents watch her 1 day per week.

    Her first overnight

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  • image CharlieMomma:
    I didn't realize I was such a minority here! :
    We are super close with our parents emotionally and physically..
  • We let LO stay with her grandparents on New Years Eve, when she was about 2 months.  They offered and it was great to, you know, put makeup on and brush myhair lol.  Oh and get out of the house.  

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