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Question/advice

Hi ladies,

Could you give me some feedback on this?

How did you get your partner involved (and excited) about registering for baby?

I feel this is a big struggle for a lot of women, and they get upset easily if they think daddy "doesn't care."

Do you have any tips?

I really appreciate it!

Bump Jackie

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  • My DH did register with me, but my overall take- I don't feel that registering w/ you is really all that big of a deal or a sign of the father's excitement or level of "care".

    For men, they aren't PG.  It's not always as 'real' to them as it

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  • My DH could care less about some stuff but is super picky about others, and I haven't figured out exactly what falls in each catigory yet. Usually if it is something more than about $20. I ask his opinion and see if he is willing to find something he l

  • I registered, however, just as a go to shopping guide for myself. For the most part the DH was involved, especially with what toys LO would get! For the carseat, I set it up kind of like a challenge (he loves competition) as to who could find the most

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  • This is awesome feedback, and I am glad to see the pattern here :)

     Keep it coming! THANKS!

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  • My husband is generally an anomaly. I had zero problem getting him interested. In fact, he STILL buys the kids clothes and toys preemptively. But. Some people aren't interested in registering, and that's totally fine. It doesn't make them less invested in
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    AngelSmitty: This reminds me of something my college Human Sexuality professor used to say in class.  "Sex is between the legs.  Gender is between the ears."
  • Well DH is more excited about this down the line as we already did the wedding where he was not thrilled at first and then got excited lol. 

    Right now I am doing research and we take field trips to stores to price things (so we can buy them

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  • My DH's interest in registering for baby was about the same as registering for our wedding. He usually has a shell shocked look on his face at the baby store, but when we talked about it he mentioned this was his first time seeing or researching baby item
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  • My DH is excited, but primarily lets me take the lead with registering. He's very good at discussing higher end items and giving a good input. He's been more of a support where I ask for suggestions or opinions rather then having him pick specifics. 
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  • Honestly I registered for everything on my own.  After I was done I sat him down and let him look at the registry online.  That was his opportunity for input.  But I put hours upon hours of research into the items that were picked and (kind
  • DH only wants to come with to put Legos on the registry. I wish he would stay home. Haha!!
     
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  • My husband could not have cared less about registering, and to be honest, I didn't bother to ask if he wanted to.  I know him well enough to know that he would rather stick a red-hot poker in his eye.  I took a friend with young children with me
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  • What about once everything was in the house (after shower or party, etc)? Did he look through things? Did he get excited then?
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    What about once everything was in the house (after shower or party, etc)? Did he look through things? Did he get exc
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    ~Benjamin Franklin

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  • My DH was not interested but then I didnt find it exciting or fun either.  Researching to find the right items to purchase/ register for was not fun but something that needed to be done.  From the beginning, we divided up the responsibilities; &
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  • (adding to my previous response) I did let him choose the theme for the nursery which is the only way i could get him involved in the decorations.  now that he picked the nursery theme (dinosaurs) he feels as if he has more of an ownership of the

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  • My H was really interested in some things and other things he could care less.  The crib bedding took forever to pick out...I finally just went with one he loved and one I kinda liked.  In the long run, its really not that big of deal. 

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  • DH left the product research to me but he was all about running the scanner at the store!  

    When there were pattern options to pick from on certain brands of things I wanted to register for, DH was pretty much in charge of selecting that wit

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    What about once everything was in the house (after shower or party, etc)? Did he look through things? Did he get

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  • I compromised on which store he would go register at. I know for a fact that he would have some sort of meltdown if I took him to BRU so my mother went with me there to register. DH will be participating in the Target registry.
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  • I'm finding myself irrationally irritated that women get their panties in a bunch because their husbands won't get excited over baby gear.  Come on.  Save your breath for important things like, you know, parenting. 

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  • We discussed registering this Friday. I know my DH isn't all that excited and I know he won't actively participate, mostly because he has no clue what needs to be registered for. I know he might throw in his 2 cents every once and awhile and even if he's
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  • DH was reluctant to go, but I told him he could use the scanner and then he got really into it.  Possibly even moreso than I was.  I also asked him to research specific items (monitor, car seat) and choose them.  I changed the design on

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    AngelSmitty: This reminds me of something my college Human Sexuality professor used to say in class.  "Sex is between the legs.  Gender is between the ears."
  • Thanks so much for all the insight ladies! I really appreciate it!
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  • When it came to the registry my DH was actually pretty good for hte store walk through BRU. He got to sit there and play with the toys. I made sure I chose him on a nice relaxed day (which happened to be during our honeymoon, and the day of the&nb

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  • I personally thought it was awesome to have free reign in the baby gear department. DH was happy to leave it all to me, and I was happy to do the research and the planning to get the "right" stuff. 

    I occasionally would ask his opinion

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  • I made sure he had a milkshake when we went so he was happy. Otherwise it's more of a learning experience for them bc they have no idea what the heck half of the stuff is for. 
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  • I asked my husband his opinion on bedding and the furniture. My mom and I did the registry. If my husband would have went, I would have felt rushed because he can be impatient. I already know he cares about me and the baby, he didn't need to be there for
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