February 2013 Moms

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I wanna see your new mommy confessions! Or unrelated confessions... Doesn't matter - I wanna see your confessions! lol

Periodically, I'll almost mistake floppy newborn sleep for a mother's worst nightmare. Last night, LO spit up, and it my first time dealing with it alone. I tried to use the little suction bulb, but was clumsy with it. He fell asleep almost instantly after spitting up, and even though I was awkwardly maneuvering him around, he went all floppy. I literally panicked internally that my newborn had died spontaneously from spitting up. Tongue Tied That's what I call FTM-ing... lol

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  • You suction spit-up? Why? (not judging, just curious. the idea never crossed my mind. she either swallows it again or it comes out.)

    My FFFC: After doing 5 nights in a row, a few of them really bad, I exaggerated a bit how frustrated I was during night #5 to get sympathy from DH. It worked so well that he said I had to stay in bed the next night and he would take the night shift. He did have the next day off, so I gratefully took his offer. 

     


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  • Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.
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  • I sleep on the recliner in LOs room because I'm annoyed that Michael plays video games in the bedroom until 3 or 4 in the morning while Colton and I try to sleep. He talks on the headset the whole time and wzkes us up. I've tried talking it out and it falls on deaf ears so this is my passive agressive stand.
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    You suction spit-up? Why? (not judging, just curious. the idea never crossed my mind. she either swallows it again or it comes out.) 

    They told me to. I have found it to be pretty ineffective/pointless. Maybe the bigger concern is for when he's on his back in the bassinet vs. in my arms? I really don't know.

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  • I'm feeling pretty much back to myself now.  I'm getting decent sleep (2 hour stretches) and a nap during the day.

    But, I'm still accepting all of the help.  People are still bringing me dinner and offering to do stuff for me, so I'm accepting the help even though I don't really need it.  I guess I figure in a week people are going to drop off the face of the earth and stop caring, so I should take advantage of the help while I can.

        
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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.

    I hate that you're having such a hard time. My first was a miserable baby! He seemed to never be happy as an infant and it was so hard for me to get used to being a mom. But then he started smiling and laughing and turned into quite the happy baby. Always a handful... especially at 2... but he's a sweetie.
    I didn't think I'd have another in the beginning but we did and I wouldn't change a thing. It's easier this time I think because I know all these things are temporary. Hang in there! You're doing great! I know how hard and exhausting it can be to try and calm an unconsoleable infant!
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    You suction spit-up? Why? (not judging, just curious. the idea never crossed my mind. she either swallows it again or it comes out.) 

    They told me to. I have found it to be pretty ineffective/pointless. Maybe the bigger concern is for when he's on his back in the bassinet vs. in my arms? I really don't know.


    They told us to also in the hospital. Honestly I just thought that I had forgotten from the first time around but I really dont remember doing it with my first. But those hospital bulb things are amazing on snotty noses!
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  • I miss not being able to make all kinds of demands on people. We've had a house full of people helping out for weeks, but now I have to get up and get my own damn water. It's tough and my first instinct is to ask someone else to get it.

    Also, chaos only ensues when DH is not home --- while he is here ds2 sleeps and eats and is happy. Toddler plays and laughs. If he leaves the house for something, toddler pees on the floor and then knocks over his milk, while ds2 is fighting some major gas issues while screaming, and I think my head will explode. 

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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.

     

    Aw sweetie! I've definitely said that a couple of times these last few weeks. It can be really frustrating at times! I wish I could give you a big hug - my heart goes out to you.

    My confession is I am sincerely considering switching all the way to formula. I have never really been able to catch up with Rory's appetite and have been BFing, pumping and supplementing. It would be nice to just stick with one method of feeding. And while it has been easier than when I was EBFing, it's still really overwhelming and I am still experiencing anxiety surrounding his feeding times. I know I will feel better if I make the switch, but then I feel super guilty - like if I tried harder i could make BFing work, since I know so many of you ladies have done it.  

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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.

     

    Aw sweetie! I've definitely said that a couple of times these last few weeks. It can be really frustrating at times! I wish I could give you a big hug - my heart goes out to you.

    My confession is I am sincerely considering switching all the way to formula. I have never really been able to catch up with Rory's appetite and have been BFing, pumping and supplementing. It would be nice to just stick with one method of feeding. And while it has been easier than when I was EBFing, it's still really overwhelming and I am still experiencing anxiety surrounding his feeding times. I know I will feel better if I make the switch, but then I feel super guilty - like if I tried harder i could make BFing work, since I know so many of you ladies have done it.  


    Thanks for the encouragement! And I know it's hard, but try not to feel guilty if you do decide to switch to formula. You have to do what's best for you and your family. People make formula sound so terrible, and it's really not. Your sanity is extremely important in taking care of your LO, and if FF'ing will make things less stressful for you, you shouldn't feel bad about it.
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  • I feel badly for DH that he feels like he can't comfort DS when he's upset.  But, on the other hand....I kind of love when the baby is fussing and is instantly calmed the minute he is in my arms.  Yeah, that's right, I'm the mommy!!!
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  • Here goes, and this is really flameworthy.  I'm not sad/guilty this time around that breastfeeding isn't working out for us.  I don't know why, but I've never been crazy about the idea of doing it although I have tried my hardest with both babies.  I love my kids to death and would do anything for them but I am just not made to breastfeed, and I have finally accepted that its OK.   With my first I was wracked with guilt about it, but I think some perspective and a few years of reflection and also seeing my son grow up on formula to be the healthiest kid I know, I am OK with it this time around. 
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    You suction spit-up? Why? (not judging, just curious. the idea never crossed my mind. she either swallows it again or it comes out.) 

    They told me to. I have found it to be pretty ineffective/pointless. Maybe the bigger concern is for when he's on his back in the bassinet vs. in my arms? I really don't know.

    Yeah, that's what burp rags are for, just wipe it up and go on. 

    I'm a terrible person whose two year old has now seen every oeta show...everyday.  Thomas is on right now.  We watch so much TV, I sing the songs in my sleep.  Until #2 came along, he'd pretty much never seen TV at all.  And I'm still sending him to daycare even though I'm home.  At least the TV is not there!

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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.

     

    Aw sweetie! I've definitely said that a couple of times these last few weeks. It can be really frustrating at times! I wish I could give you a big hug - my heart goes out to you.

    My confession is I am sincerely considering switching all the way to formula. I have never really been able to catch up with Rory's appetite and have been BFing, pumping and supplementing. It would be nice to just stick with one method of feeding. And while it has been easier than when I was EBFing, it's still really overwhelming and I am still experiencing anxiety surrounding his feeding times. I know I will feel better if I make the switch, but then I feel super guilty - like if I tried harder i could make BFing work, since I know so many of you ladies have done it.  

     

    See my post above. Totally agree that at some point if you are not going to EP you have to just cut over to EFF to save your sanity. I understand the guilt- I felt it with my son, but what you need to think about is that you are a good mom for making sure your kid is fed and healthy. My son was EFF from 6 weeks on and he has only had like 3 colds in 2.5 years. Try

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  • I knew this was going to be hard but until you are living it you never understand.

    I feel bad that I let other people comfort my baby so I don't have to hear her cry. I wish I could say its bc I hate to hear her upset but really I hate the crying. There have already been a few moments where I have regretted having her. Luckily those moments pass quickly but I feel bad for thinking it.
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    I'm feeling pretty much back to myself now.nbsp; I'm getting decent sleep 2 hour stretches and a nap during the day. But, I'm still accepting all of the help.nbsp; People are still bringing me dinner and offering to do stuff for me, so I'm accepting the help even though I don't really need it.nbsp; I guess I figure in a week people are going to drop off the face of the earth and stop caring, so I should take advantage of the help while I can.


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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.


    I have been feeling a lot of this as well. DS is a very fussy high needs baby. Breastfeeding is hard. I miss sleep. I had a hard pregnancy, a C section delivery I didn't want and I've started saying "if" instead of when we have more kids. I am trying to enjoy the newborn phase, but I honestly think I will be much happier when he's older and more responsive, and not kicking me in my still healing surgery incision.

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    I am hating breastfeeding right now. He gags and chokes. I have been block nursing and taking sudafed for a few days, and nothing. I still produce too much. I never want to go out because he chokes and cries when he nurses so I plan everything to be in the hours inbetween nursing. I am feeling traped in the house, and I just wish my stupid boobs would calm the heck down and stop making so much milk.
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    Sometimes, I'm not sure I want any more kids. Dealing with a baby who constantly cries and is never content is seriously wearing on my nerves, and she's only 5 weeks old. We could have a long way to go yet. I feel like going in a hole and hiding for a week. I love DD, but so far, motherhood has not been fun in the least. I feel guilty saying that, but it's true.

     

    Aw sweetie! I've definitely said that a couple of times these last few weeks. It can be really frustrating at times! I wish I could give you a big hug - my heart goes out to you.

    My confession is I am sincerely considering switching all the way to formula. I have never really been able to catch up with Rory's appetite and have been BFing, pumping and supplementing. It would be nice to just stick with one method of feeding. And while it has been easier than when I was EBFing, it's still really overwhelming and I am still experiencing anxiety surrounding his feeding times. I know I will feel better if I make the switch, but then I feel super guilty - like if I tried harder i could make BFing work, since I know so many of you ladies have done it.  

    Thanks for the encouragement! And I know it's hard, but try not to feel guilty if you do decide to switch to formula. You have to do what's best for you and your family. People make formula sound so terrible, and it's really not. Your sanity is extremely important in taking care of your LO, and if FF'ing will make things less stressful for you, you shouldn't feel bad about it.

     

    Thank you - it's nice to hear that from another mom. I think sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

    I've been meaning to ask you - is your birthday September 26th? I noticed we have the same numbers on our screen names. :-)  

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    I'm feeling pretty much back to myself now.nbsp; I'm getting decent sleep 2 hour stretches and a nap during the day. But, I'm still accepting all of the help.nbsp; People are still bringing me dinner and offering to do stuff for me, so I'm accepting the help even though I don't really need it.nbsp; I guess I figure in a week people are going to drop off the face of the earth and stop caring, so I should take advantage of the help while I can.
    This. Someone brought us dinner last night, so I used my dinner prep time to make 4.5 dozen lactation cookies....

    I know what I'm doing today! Yummy.

    Evy was  got up at 6 this morning to eat, like normal. When I changed her I noticed that she had leaked through her diaper onto her nightgown and all in her crib. I reeeaally wanted to take a shower before she woke back up and since she was already asleep I decided to let her be. So I left her in my bed and took a nice long shower.

     

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     Thank you - it's nice to hear that from another mom. I think sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

    I've been meaning to ask you - is your birthday September 26th? I noticed we have the same numbers on our screen names. :-)  

    Why yes it is :) Birthday buddies! Party!!!

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  • First of all, to the mom's struggling with fussy babies and feeling unsure of themselves - huge hugs to you.  You are doing better than you think you are. This is hard! I have those same moments of "I can't do this" every day.  But we are doing it.  And we will have these beautiful little people to show for it..  Keep your chin up and ask for help! 

    My FFFC, at night I try very hard to have my baby sleep in his basinet, but when it's 3:30 and he is fussing and won't go back to sleep I will let him sleep anywhere he wants.  On my chest, between us,  or his favorite spot, Curled up in the crook of my arm. He also likes his rocker. It gets the moms a few hours of sleep and he is a happier baby. I know I should be teaching him to sleep in his basinet, but he is only two weeks old. It's all about survival at this point. 

  • I have been eating those darn Reece's peanut butter eggs nonstop. And my baby related confession, sometimes I feel like I don't really know what to do with my baby when she is awake. I want to interact and play but sometimes I just let her lay there looking around while I watch tv.
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    I have been eating those darn Reece's peanut butter eggs nonstop. And my baby related confession, sometimes I feel like I don't really know what to do with my baby when she is awake. I want to interact and play but sometimes I just let her lay there looking around while I watch tv.

     Thank you. Glad it's not just me. I have no idea how to interact with a 3 week old who can barely make eye contact, let alone respond. Sometimes mommy just needs her arms to eat, pee, or just NOT hold you!


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  •  I could not get DS to school soon enough today. He was up and asking 9000 questions this am. All I wanted was to feed the baby in quiet and enjoy the sunshine (through the window).  Don't know why this was driving me crazy but it was.

     I'm giving her formula today, been giving it to her at night and pumping during the day, but she has been so gassy and sadly I think its my milk Tongue Tied I have been really bad about watching what I ate the last couple of days (read French onion soup, and a large coke for dinner).  I so badly wanted to breastfeed this LO, but I am  enjoying other people being able to feed her so I can have a the break

     

    ***Also I love you ladies makes me feel less crazy, and that someone else understands that some days just suckCrying

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  • I think I've done a little bit of all of these!  Sometimes I'll hear her poo during a feeding, but I'll put her back to sleep because changing her will wake her up.  Sometimes I just want her to sleep so I can watch tv guilt free (I also feel obligated to play with her when she's awake). I also have days where I wish I was young and single and childless again.  I love LO and DH and being married and all, but having all this responsibility makes me want to be young and care free again (grass is always greener syndrome).  One of the main reasons I just pump instead of BF is so DH cn take night shift and I can sleep 7 hours (poor guy hasn't slept in three days). I'm sure there's more, but this is just a sampling.  Mommy guilt blows.
  • Man I've done a lot of these too. I EP cuz LOD wouldn't latch at all but seriously I'd do it even if she didn't just to try to get sleep (the nights we can. we're on night three of getting up every one to two hours). I'm pretty sure I've also done they she pooped while feeding but fell asleep so asleep she's staying. I'm just so frustrated with how fussy she's been the last few days I could die. She's one month and I think I've asked if the stork had a return policy like 5 times already. Then felt really bad that I said that and cried over it cuz I'm still a basketcase while getting used to this prozac crap. Ugh.
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  • Man I've done a lot of these too. I EP cuz LO wouldn't latch at all but seriously I'd do it even if she didn't just to try to get sleep (the nights we can. we're on night three of getting up every one to two hours). I'm pretty sure I've also done they she pooped while feeding but fell asleep so asleep she's staying. I'm just so frustrated with how fussy she's been the last few days I could die. She's one month and I think I've asked if the stork had a return policy like 5 times already. Then felt really bad that I said that and cried over it cuz I'm still a basketcase while getting used to this prozac crap. Ugh.
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     I could not get DS to school soon enough today. He was up and asking 9000 questions this am. All I wanted was to feed the baby in quiet and enjoy the sunshine (through the window).  Don't know why this was driving me crazy but it was.

     I'm giving her formula today, been giving it to her at night and pumping during the day, but she has been so gassy and sadly I think its my milk Tongue Tied I have been really bad about watching what I ate the last couple of days (read French onion soup, and a large coke for dinner).  I so badly wanted to breastfeed this LO, but I am  enjoying other people being able to feed her so I can have a the break

     

    ***Also I love you ladies makes me feel less crazy, and that someone else understands that some days just suckCrying

    Have you tried cutting out dairy? DD was super gassy the first 3-4 weeks and it was miserable because she was so miserable. I didn't think I ate that much dairy but decided to stop eating it anyways. Once I started going without it, I realized that I was eating dairy with almost every meal. After 2-3 days dairy free, she's hardly gassy anymore and when she is, it's much easier for us to burp her and for her pass gas.

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  • My confession... I wish some times they were back in my belly.  In there I know they were safe, fed, and with me all the time.  I miss the movement, kicks and having them all to myself.

    I love my boys and love playing with them (as much as you can play with a 5 weeks old).  I love comforting them when they are upset but I may be feeling some baby blues.  When I am by myself and both are crying I feel horrible as one is generally left crying for a couple of minutes while I sooth the other.  I am getting better about soothing both but sometimes it just doesn't work so one is left screaming his head off while the other gets snuggles to calm down and then I try and give the one left crying extra snuggles.  

    I definitely feel very torn most days. 

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