July 2013 Moms

How's the baby?

I love my mom but every time we talk she asks how the baby is. Normally I just say good but today I was feeling annoyed and said "I don't know, just swimming around in there"

My question for all you ladies is how do you answer that question? Just because I am carrying her doesn't mean I can read her baby mind. Am I being crazy for being annoyed by the question?

Sorry for any errors. Mobile bumping hates me.
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  • It is nice she cares.  I'd just answer and go about my business.  You might as well get use to things like this.
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  • I think this would be such a nice departure from "is your weight okay? have you gained too much?" that I would be thrilled and jump up and down.
  • I get tired of people asking me how I'm doing, too.  I think it's hormones.  Yeh, I'm super and so is the baby.  Everyone is just great!  Feel huge, hip is killing me, can't sleep, hyperpigmentation is awesome....no one wants to hear that stuff though haha

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  • I think it's nice that people care enough to ask.  And okay you are lucky and there is nothing wrong but there could be. 
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  • I hate being asked this question. I know people mean well but I always answer with good and I feel like they are looking for more of an answer.
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  • image stacy&seth:
    I get tired of people asking me how I'm doing, too.  I think it's hormones.  Yeh, I'm super and so is the baby.  Everyone is just great!  Feel huge, hip is killing me, can't sleep, hyperpigmentation is awesome....no one wants to hear that stuff though haha

    Personally, I say if they ask tell them. Maybe they will stop asking you.

    I don't mind the question though. If she's been moving around a lot I'll say she's been really active today or something like that. They are really just curious and taking an interest in you and your baby. That's a good thing, as long as they aren't treating you with kid gloves.

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    I think this would be such a nice departure from "is your weight okay? have you gained too much?" that I would be thrilled and jump up and down.

    This! It's annoying, yes, but at least she's not judging the crap out of your weight or other things. 



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  • I know. It is really nice that she cares and this is her first grandbaby and she is really excited but I guess the problem I have is that I don't know how LO is doing in there so I don't know how to answer. I say good because I hope good is the answer but it always makes me wonder how she is really doing in there. The suggestion about the activity level is a good one, especially now that I am feeling more movement. 
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  • You could reply with "still baking, I'll let you know in July", "I'm not sure about the baby, but I am doing great!" or some other smart comment. ;O) 
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  • I keep getting asked "how are you feeling" by the same people everytime I see them, which is at least once a week. It's nice that they care, I just don't know how to respond. I doubt they would like it if I said 'I feel like if I sneeze one more time ill have to change my underwear again' or 'I feel like I have enough gas to fill a 757'.
  • I usually answer with "Good, we are both doing good." Then I will say "I have been feeling a lot of movement lately", or talk about my next doctor appt. just so I don't feel weird when asked that!
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    I keep getting asked "how are you feeling" by the same people everytime I see them, which is at least once a week. It's nice that they care, I just don't know how to respond. I doubt they would like it if I said 'I feel like if I sneeze one more time ill have to change my underwear again' or 'I feel like I have enough gas to fill a 757'.


    Love it. I get that one too.
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  • I also get that question and never know what to say. My mom asks me "how is she behaving?" umm... she's kicking me all day. I'm not sure what else I'm suppose to say. 

    It's flippin annoying. 

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  • "Good, as far as we know".
    I hate this question, too, especially considering our history of loss. I always think people are expecting the worst.
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  • image MrsErinH:
    I think it's nice that people care enough to ask.  And okay you are lucky and there is nothing wrong but there could be. 

    This.

    It doesn't bother me at all.    I have a coworker who comes in every day to ask how I am feeling (he knows how bad the morning sickness was/is).  And to see if I need anything.  It's really sweet!

    When other people ask, I just say "as far as I know, the baby is good!"


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  • Lol! I posted on this a little bit ago. I find it less irritating now that I feel kicks etc. then before. I usually answer "she's in my belly, probably." Because it's so weird the conversation is changed away from baby stuff unless it's my mom who is used to me being nuts. 

    Thankfully no one asks me about my weight. I probably wouldn't mind that too much considering I've hit a wall and havent gained anything in my last 2 appointments. I would be like "I haven't been gaining enough actually, so give me your food nom, nom." Actually, I think that answer is appropriate in any situation. Or just "enough," I think I'm becoming a guy because I'm starting to believe that "yes, no, and enough" can answer any question. 

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    I know. It is really nice that she cares and this is her first grandbaby and she is really excited but I guess the problem I have is that I don't know how LO is doing in there so I don't know how to answer. I say good because I hope good is the answer but it always makes me wonder how she is really doing in there. The suggestion about the activity level is a good one, especially now that I am feeling more movement.nbsp;


    Yeah, I don't like this question either because its like... Well, I have an appt every four weeks. As of the last one we have a normal heartbeat. Nothing has happened since last time you asked.

    Pregnancy is a lot of sitting around waiting apparently, so when everyone did you how the sitting around waiting is going it gets a little old. Still waiting, yep. It's pretty exciting.
  • I think it's just her way of asking how the pregnancy is going, and showing her interest, love, and concern. My mom does the same thing. Give her a little more credit and don't get all hung up on the way she's phrasing it.
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    My MIL asks me this and it annoys me, too.  I can't see what's going on in there!  I would rather she ask how I am, since I am the one carrying her precious grandchild.  I'll try to take the advice of some PPs, too, and appreciate that she's taking an interest.  

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    image liz&chris1017:
    I love my mom but every time we talk she asks how the baby is. Normally I just say good but today I was feeling annoyed and said "I don't know, just swimming around in there" My question for all you ladies is how do you answer that question? Just because I am carrying her doesn't mean I can read her baby mind. Am I being crazy for being annoyed by the question? Sorry for any errors. Mobile bumping hates me.

    I think your response today was perfect! And I'd love to borrow it.


  • I occasionally have a fun fact about the kiddo from the last bump email like eyelashes growing and such but I usually say things are going well. I'm trying to avoid being cranky with people who are trying to be nice because there are plenty crabby mean people for me to direct my rage towards.
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  • hehe this doesn't bother me and in one circumstance is actually quite fun.

    The office next to me has 4 folks - my subcontracting coworkers (the ones that I've been trying to protect) and one of the 1 has a sister due with her second in June/Julyish.

    They are fantastic people.  Great attitudes, and absolutely hilarious.  Not PC whatsoever (so much inappropriate) and they rag on me for not speaking spanish (2 of them do) in like this hilarious kind of way.

    Anyways, every morning one or more of them ask "hows baby doing?  Baby ok?" or if I'm mad at someone they'll ask me "what does the baby think?" or "Does baby want x?"

    Its crazy hilarious.  Like we're moving offices next week and the joke today was whether baby needed its own moving crates.

    Like baby has its own little personality we've created out of sheer joking.  I think I went into that office yesterday and said something to the effect of "Baby watches you and judges your words and actions from the inside."  Just randomly.

    But the best was - again we're moving offices so there's cleaning going on....and they came into my office last week and were like "we got you something....and put a stapler down on my desk" and I was like "great thanks" (because I have a stapler heavy enough to brain someone with that I love).....and then they were like "and here's one for baby" and set this mini stapler down right next to it.  "one for mom, one for baby."

    Its total hilarity.  I love those guys so much.

     

    Everyone else I just respond with a general update or a joke etc thats quick and I usually move on from there.

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  • I love these replies they are nice snappy. Your could also say "wait one sec let me go ask her" if you're feeling especially annoyed.
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  • I always just respond w "growing"..... It seems like a pretty legit answer

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