TTC After a Loss

Temping impossible (DD mentioned)

So with all the research  I've done into temping and taking the advice you all gave me the other day, I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not going to be able to temp accurately :(

Between my not sleeping well (like ever)   My DD still waking me up in the night needing things, and my DH's irregular schedule I'm never awake at the same time every day and can't guarantee that I'll have gotten 3 good hours in a row.  Is there a cheaper way then OPK's to tell if I ovulate. I used to get some slight cramping when I would O before I was on BCP's but nothing since my loss. I'm kinda assuming that means I'm not Oing. 

Would it still be worth it to try temping even if I can't follow all the guidelines?

I know that kinda sounds like I'm complaining but really I'm just confused and concerned, sorry if it came across complainy (is that a word haha)

Re: Temping impossible (DD mentioned)

  • The only way for you to be able to tell on your own that you've ovulated is by temping. OPKs won't actually tell you if O has happened, just that your body is gearing up to O.

    Your best bet would probably be to use cheapo OPKs like Wondfos (from Amazon) and check CM and cervical position everyday. You can still try and temp and see if you get a thermal shift anyway, but between OPKs, CM and CP you should at least be able to narrow down the window and get your timing right.

    Hope that helps! 

    ETA: You mentioned you used to get cramping around O before your loss. Just because you don't get that anymore doesn't mean you aren't ovulating. Cycles can change drastically after a loss. FWIW, I've never ever felt O cramping and I definitely O every month per my temps. 

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  •  Is there a cheaper way then OPK's to tell if I ovulate.

    I'm not a temping expert so I don't have advice on that, but I did want to tell you that OPKs don't tell you that your ovulating. They just predict it and let you know your body is getting ready to O. Some women "gear up" for the O, but it doesn't actually happen. Temping is the only way to tell that it did in fact happen.

    Hope you figure something out that works for you! FX! Smile

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  • I would temp anyways. I did it for awhile when I wasn't getting up at the same time. I would do it even at like 1 am if I knew I had some good sleep. My chart wasn't perfect. There were some wonky temps but I got the general idea and there was a shift. HTH
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  • Other women can probably chime in about what kind of results you will get with inconsistent sleep patterns.  Since I don't temp either, I don't know whether it's worth it or not. 

    But FWIW, I don't temp. DH has a very unpredictable/crazy schedule and he needs his sleep - if I set the alarm on the weekend for 5 AM, he would be such a grouch that day we wouldn't BD. No BDing means I have no chance of conceiving. So for me personally, I think I am better off not temping (at least so far...give me a few more months and I will probably change my mind).

    I use OPKs. You mentioned you were worried about the cost. Have you looked into the Wondfo brand - you can find them on Amazon. The last pack I bought had 40 OPKs and 10 HPTs for about $15. WAY cheaper than the OPKs at the grocery store!

    OPKs only tell you you are gearing up to O, not that you have. So they are similar but not exactly the same. For me, the OPKs are enough. For other women, they want to know exactly what's going on. I think it's just a personal preference. 


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  • Thank you so much ladies! I didn't even think of looking on amazon for OPK's I'll look into those (DH is still of the mind that it'll happen when it happens so I may not purchase yet) 

    Sounds like temping for a general idea still isn't a bad idea and I'll try the CP and CM thing too.

    I appreciate your all your advice. Hopefully after this AF is over I'll be able to learn a little more about my body.  

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    Before I had my DD I temped. I had beautiful charts. I stopped after her and just went with it after that. We BD'd every other day during what I thought my fertile week was. I did OPK's with my DS and that's what I use now. We BD every other day until I get a + and then we usually BD 3 days in a row and then I figured I O'd.I don't get consecutive sleep so my temps are not good.  

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  • There are other FAM methods that just focus on CM and CP rather than temping that might be helpful for you as well-- they get more in depth about CM type.  I think the Billings method and Creighton are both CM centered. Good luck!

    Edit: Fair warning, Creighton is church affiliated-- (I think Billings is too, but I'm not sure) 

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  • I sleep like crap most nights....between sleeping lightly, dh snoring, etc i wake up a couple of times a night, and not at the exact same time every morning.

    I keep my temp time the same in FF (7 am) because that is the most consistent wake up time for me, and if my wake up is way off that then I will change it.

    My chart is not the prettiest, and if Iknow I have had a really bad night sleep I will mark sleep deprived.  That being said, I can still see a pattern, and get ch's when I O.

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    I sleep like crap most nights....between sleeping lightly, dh snoring, etc i wake up a couple of times a night, and not at the exact same time every morning.

    I keep my temp time the same in FF (7 am) because that is the most consistent wake up time for me, and if my wake up is way off that then I will change it.

    My chart is not the prettiest, and if Iknow I have had a really bad night sleep I will mark sleep deprived.  That being said, I can still see a pattern, and get ch's when I O.

    Pretty much this exactly for me.  I'm the worst sleeper, I am truly an insomniac with massively random sleep patterns.  I do temp, I don't set an alarm but rather just take my temp whenever I have the most sleep in any given night, it might be anywhere between 3-6 am.  I just enter N/A in FF for temp time, and even with my wonky waking times I've still always been able to see a temp shift.  This past cycle isn't one to go by as it's my first post-loss, so it's excessively long and wacky as all get out.  But my cycles charting last fall were wonky sleepers but still had very clear temp shifts at O matching up with my OPKs.  I'd say give it a try, it can't hurt. :)


         

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    I sleep like crap most nights....between sleeping lightly, dh snoring, etc i wake up a couple of times a night, and not at the exact same time every morning.

    I keep my temp time the same in FF (7 am) because that is the most consistent wake up time for me, and if my wake up is way off that then I will change it.

    My chart is not the prettiest, and if Iknow I have had a really bad night sleep I will mark sleep deprived.  That being said, I can still see a pattern, and get ch's when I O.

     

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    This for me as well. My kid wakes up at random hours and so sometimes I don't totally have the 3 hours, but if it's close (or if I wake up within a half hour of my temping time) I'll just take it then. It worked fine on my previous BFP (which unfortunately ended in m/c), but you have to be prepared for an ugly chart. It can be done! Good luck.

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