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"Young" future moms,(18-25) how old were you when started planning to get pregnant?

I'm 22 years old and I'd like to know how many women that are around my age that are thinking about having a baby.  (I'm not saying if you're 26 you're old, It's just that I can relate more to the age between 18& 25.) No disrespect intended!


How old was/is your partner, and is he just as eager as you? And if you are married at that time, how long were you married before rhinking about having kids?

I know that age doesn't matter because everyone is different, I'm just curious to see how many that are thinking about having kids at a young age.

 Thanks!

 

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Re: "Young" future moms,(18-25) how old were you when started planning to get pregnant?

  • Not I. I TTC at 31 and adopted at 34. However I did WANT to TTC with my first husband at 24 but he never ended up ready.

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  • I started to TTC at 24 (MH was 28)...but didn't get pregnant until 27 (MH is 31). 
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  • I was 21 when I got pg. A was born when I was 22. I got married Oct. 2006. She was born Aug. 2007. My H was 25 when she was born.


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  • Thanks for the comments!

  • I am just lurking but I got pregnant with my first at 23 and he was born just after my 24th birthday. I got pregnant with my second at 25 and he will be born just after my 26 th birthday God willing. 

    My first was a honeymoon baby, we had been married 6 weeks when we found out we were expecting. We didn't plan it but we use natural family planning for religious reasons so we were prepared for the possibility. My husband was 26 when our first was born. We were planning on starting to try about 6 months after our wedding.

    I will say it has been difficult finding other moms my age that can relate. All of the moms in our play groups are in their 30's so its a little harder to connect because our life experiences are so different. But I love being a younger mom and I wouldn't trade any part of my life for anything! Good luck! 



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    My husband was 26 when our first was born. We were planning on starting to try about 6 months after our wedding.

    I will say it has been difficult finding other moms my age that can relate. All of the moms in our play groups are in their 30's so its a little harder to connect because our life experiences are so different. But I love being a younger mom and I wouldn't trade any part of my life for anything! Good luck! 

    If we are lucky enough to get pregnant within 2 years, I'd still be the youngest mom I know. I would find it hard as well to  find someone to relate. I hope you find such a person.

    I'm happy to see your husband was quite young too. Most of my husbands male colleagues were 30 when they had their first child. That just seems old to me.

  • My DH and I started TTC when we were both 22.  We got married when we were 19/20, so we'd been married a little over 2 years before we started, and we'd been together for about 8 years total.  We are now 26/27 and still childless, but we are now in the process of adopting.  Looking back, we were definitely not well-prepared to have a child at the time that we started TTC, even though we felt ready - it would not have been great timing and our lives would probably be a lot different now if we had been successful in conceiving in those first two years or so of trying.

     DH was not quite as eager as I was to start TTC, but he was excited about the idea of becoming a parent.  Now he is totally ready (obviously, 4+ years of waiting/maturing will do that to a person) and just as excited about becoming a parent as I am.

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    My husband was 26 when our first was born. We were planning on starting to try about 6 months after our wedding.

    I will say it has been difficult finding other moms my age that can relate. All of the moms in our play groups are in their 30's so its a little harder to connect because our life experiences are so different. But I love being a younger mom and I wouldn't trade any part of my life for anything! Good luck! 

    If we are lucky enough to get pregnant within 2 years, I'd still be the youngest mom I know. I would find it hard as well to  find someone to relate. I hope you find such a person.

    I'm happy to see your husband was quite young too. Most of my husbands male colleagues were 30 when they had their first child. That just seems old to me.



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  • I had DD at 18 my last semester of high school. I had my boys this past August at 24. DH and I met when DD was 6 months old and have been together ever since. We were married in October of 2010, started ttc September is 2011 and our twins were born August 2012. We also bought our first house in August. DH is 29.
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  • I am 25 my future husband is 29, we will begin TTC in 23 days as soon as we get married (on our 8 year anniversary). I know I am bouncing off the wall excited and my partner says he is excited. He often makes little comments, so I know he is thinking about it but his no so overt as I am.
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    I am 25 my future husband is 29, we will begin TTC in 23 days as soon as we get married (on our 8 year anniversary). I know I am bouncing off the wall excited and my partner says he is excited. He often makes little comments, so I know he is thinking about it but his no so overt as I am.

     

    I can image you're excited :) That's must be a really fun countdown for you two! Getting married and starting a family! Good luck :)

  • I'm lurking here because TTGP is slow...

    I was 21 when I got pregnant with DD 2010, had her at 22 in 2011. She was an amazing "oops". I'm now 24, H and I started TTC when last year I was 23, he was 27 (he just recently turned 28 and me 24).

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  • I'm 24 and DH is 25, we plan on TTC in April. I was ready as soon as we were married 1 1/2 years ago but DH only decided he was ready in January. Now he is really excited about it, but for a long time that was not the case.
  • Lurking. I'm 23 and DH is 26 and we have a 2 heard old. My husband and I dated 3 years have been married 4 years as of next month.
  • I'm 24. DH is 25 (almost 26) and we have 2 kids already. We hadn't intended on starting that young, but life had other plans and we figured since we had the first, we may as well have the second close enough together that they'd have the full sibling experience. We're done, probably for good, but definitely for the foreseeable future.

  • I am also in your age bracket, and have been married about 9 months now. Dh has had bbotb since before we were married but we are planning to start ttc this summer once I've finished school. Regardless of our ages though, we have decided that we are ready now. For some people they aren't ready until later in life for various reasons, so I'd say if you feel ready start trying. If you have things you need/want to do first, do that : hope that helps!

    So focused on trying to conceive - actually being pregnant?

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  • I definitely feel like the odd one out here.  I receive a lot of judgement over DH and I's relationship; not from my family but from outsiders who just don't get it.  Been married 6 months, together 3 years before we started TTC, which was 1 month before marriage. We went of BC early to get it out of my system. I'm 22 and DH is 36. Wow right? :| He has two children from previous, DD is 9 and DS is 13... So I get a -lot- of judgement over "forcing him" into more children at "his age." Which hurts, but whatevs.

    We've been TTC for 7 months now, nothing yet. I'd be okay with waiting but he doesn't want to be 40 and having a newborn. Understandable!  And don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting a baby at your age, we're all different and don't deserve harsh judgement.

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  • Thank you for sharing all your stories. They helped a lot.

     

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    I definitely feel like the odd one out here.  I receive a lot of judgement over DH and I's relationship; not from my family but from outsiders who just don't get it.  Been married 6 months, together 3 years before we started TTC, which was 1 month before marriage. We went of BC early to get it out of my system. I'm 22 and DH is 36. Wow right? :| He has two children from previous, DD is 9 and DS is 13... So I get a -lot- of judgement over "forcing him" into more children at "his age." Which hurts, but whatevs.

    We've been TTC for 7 months now, nothing yet. I'd be okay with waiting but he doesn't want to be 40 and having a newborn. Understandable!  And don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting a baby at your age, we're all different and don't deserve harsh judgement.

     

    Thanks for the advice! I know what you mean. My dad is 67 and my mother 45. 22 years apart so you're age difference isn't too much compared to that. My mother had her first child at 21 and she heard it all.

    They are the best couple I know so I'm on your side! (Btw who doesn't like an older guy! i know I do)

     


  • We've been together since I was 12. We got married when I was 20, and started TTC almost immediately. LO came when I was 21, I'm 22 now. 

    DH was just as eager as I was. We had been together so long and we had been talking about kids for ages. 


    ETA- We lived together for almost 3 years before getting married. I graduated high school early and went to college early. 
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  • Lurking from ttgp.

    I'm 21 and DH is 33, a bit of an age gap, I know, but we are more stable, and happier than most of our friends. Most of them being in their late 30's. Its hard to find ladies my age, that are in the same place in their life.
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    Lurking from ttgp. I'm 21 and DH is 33, a bit of an age gap, I know, but we are more stable, and happier than most of our friends. Most of them being in their late 30's. Its hard to find ladies my age, that are in the same place in their life.

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    My husband was 26 when our first was born. We were planning on starting to try about 6 months after our wedding.

    I will say it has been difficult finding other moms my age that can relate. All of the moms in our play groups are in their 30's so its a little harder to connect because our life experiences are so different. But I love being a younger mom and I wouldn't trade any part of my life for anything! Good luck! 

    If we are lucky enough to get pregnant within 2 years, I'd still be the youngest mom I know. I would find it hard as well to  find someone to relate. I hope you find such a person.

    I'm happy to see your husband was quite young too. Most of my husbands male colleagues were 30 when they had their first child. That just seems old to me.

    My husband was almost 40 when DS was born. The old folks home let him out for the occasion- don't worry. I got checked in shortly after since I turned 30 a couple months later.

     

    I had originally planned to get married and start having kids before 20. I thank God every day that never happened, and that I never got pregnant in my early 20's. I was not remotely ready then. I realize some are, but the vast majority of people are not.

     

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  • Damn. They'd better get my spot ready at the nursing home since I will be 30 next month.

    I was 26 when DS was born. We had been married 2 years and together for 5.
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  • Dh and I had been together for almost 5 years and married a little over one when we started trying (I was 26 he was 28).  

    I got pregnant the first time just before turNing 27, second time just after turning 27.  I'm still 27, and will turn 28 just before this baby is born (due date is 2 weeks after my birthday).  Dh will be 29.

    I would have started ttc right after getting married, but dh wasn't ready. 

     


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  • I don't fit your age bracket (I'm ancient) however I began planning for my family when I was young. It's just that part of that plan was to wait until I finished with college and had longevity in a job.

    I guess it would depend on what kind of plan people had. Like you mentioned everyone is different...and life has a way of putting a wrench in even the best plans.

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  • I got marred at 24 and considered TTC then but realized we weren't financially ready. Now we are financially ready and I am 27 so now we are TTC. If we were financially stable then with an established residence we certainly would have then. 
  • I am 24, DH is 26, we have been married 1.5 years together 5.5. We'll start TTC in the next few months and as long as everything goes as planned will be parents at 25 and 27. I would have started trying sooner but DH was not ready and we wanted to get him settled in a new career before doing anything.
  • We got pregnant with our "oops" baby when I was 22 and she was born two days before I turned 23.

    Started TTC last January. I was 26 he was 28. 

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  • DH and I dated for 3.5 years before getting married at 21. We waited 2.5 years to TTC at 24 and had our first at 25 and our second at 27. If there is a third it will be at 29 or 30. I thought I was ready at 21 but am so grateful DH was the voice of reason and wanted to wait. We were much better off financially and maturity wise at 24 than when we first got married.
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